I'm kind of new here, I'm not sure if this fits under this forum, so if not let me know please. I've been having a problem with being ignored by my significant other. First off, she lives overseas so most of the talking we do is over messenger, other online text-based services or on the phone and txt/sms. It is just simple things like 'how are you?' or 'what are you doing?'. She won't answer and will talk about something else instead and it gets to me a lot. I also have a suspicion that she wants to distance herself from me because now she realizes that being so far away from each other we probably don't have a real future. However this does also hurt me since I want to remain her friend and I feel pushed away since we used to spend all our time together and it was very special but now it seems like she is focusing on something else. I don't know if that has anything to do with it. Any ideas about what you would say to a person who kept ignoring you like this?? I'm familier with how to resolve these types of problems but this girl is NOT the kind of person who will talk about it. I mean if I mention 'I've noticed you ignore my messages a lot' or 'I feel unoticed by your sometimes' she will automatically start crying and saying 'you hate me, everything I do is wrong, I don't know why I bother etc etc'. So we have no real resolution by 'talking about it'. Any other ideas? Any similar experiences and advice much appreciated. Thanks!
Dump her and find a Real Person who is closer and more available physically and emotionally. Stop wasting your time and energy.
By a real person I'll take that to mean someone who is physically reachable on a consistent basis. It won't work because I love her, that solution only works when you don't love the person. So there is no other way I can deal with this huh?
To be blunt it doesn't matter if you love her if she wants to distance herself. You can't make her pay more attention to you when she is just a person on the other end of the internet. Not trying to be harsh, just reality rearing its ugly head. So, you wanted an alternative solution from what wizard said.....Unless you plan on packing up and moving close to her you are geographically undesirable. So tell her you will be there in X number of days and can't wait to hold her in your arms.....and if you aren't willing or able to move then go back to what wizard said.
