My good friend has been going out with this psycho girl for about 4 months now. She has him completely under the thumb. It's awful to see such a cool guy being controlled by an idiot. She's extemely jealous of our friendship but she also thinks that I want to be intimate with him the way she is, which is pure bullshit. I live in another part of the country so we use the internet a lot to comunicate because the journey is pretty long. Sometimes she logs into his msn and pretends to be him and sends me bitchy emails. I hardly ever get to talk to him anymore. His other friends don't like her either and we've confronted him many times. She doesn't respect him. She patronises him. She puts him down. Oh and he spent about £300 sterling (of his mothers money, I might add) on her for her birthday because she would go into a huff if he didn't. He sees it himself too but he just wont break up with her, he gets very attached. He tried to break up once and told her everything that she does that brings him down but she brought on the waterworks and the "I can change!" so he gave her another chance. She's a manipulative phycho! Like I know it's up to him and all but love is blind and he really should cop on. I'm worried about my friend, what can one do?
Dude, i know that sucks but really there's nothing you can do other than be there for him and talk to him another time. Perhaps if you all talked to him in a gorup, as in, "we're really worried about you because..." etc he would listen, but honestly it's his life and you can be concerned all you want but ultimately it's his decision.
Thanks. I know what you're sayin. It's just, he's a beautiful person and he needs to shine. He's goin places but she's holding him back. She hates him choosing his music over her and demands all of his time. He's an amazing guitarist you should hear him. He could explode onto the music scene in a couple of years. Ahh, I suppose we can't do much else. He's bound to grow out of it after a while and start sticking up for himself.
Yeah-you will see he will come around soon and relationships like that don't last long anyway. Good friendships do last. Peace
Abuse happens everywhere, but the most important thing that you can do is to just be there for the friend because until they see that their relationship is abusive or parasitic, they're never going to come out of it. I'm going through some of the same things right now with my best friend. I've started to take myself out of her life as much as I can so that she knows that I am not going to sit around and watch this happen, but that she still knows that I'm going to be here for her through thick and thin. =)
tell him to get rid of the bitch. i was in a situation like that for about 3 years and it was the worst three years of my life. controlling bitches suck (and i dont mean to use the word bitches as replacement for women i mean to use it as a replacement for bitches) some women are complicated, some are simple, and some are fucking psyco. she sounds like the fucking psyco type
He's going to have to leave her soon or he's going to be sucked into her web forever and have the most miserable life. Free your friend from the bitch
All I can say is let your friend make his own mistakes and be there for him when he learns from them. It's a hard thing to do, to step away and watch your friend potentially damage himself, but in the long run, you may end up pushing him away.
maybe he's getting ready to move to hollywood to become a guitarist...we all know how long those relationships last haha dont worry bout it, she will mess up first before he gets hurt if he's really that smart
Yay! Problem solved, he's finally seen the light and broken up with the hoor! Last night we were all at a gig in Dublin and she kept ringing him and acusing him of getting off with me, insecure psycho. Anyway, it's over and now we can all have our cool friend back. Thanks everyone.
Oh my Christ! Just found out that they're back on...oh well guess it's his funeral. Kinda saw that one coming anyway.
