meaning of loving someone?

you really don't get it, do you? Love has very little to do with sex. Yeah, the two concepts overlap, but they are not mutually exclusive. You can have love without sex, and you can most certainly have sex without love. sex is just that, sex. It feels good. It doesn't have to be with a partner at all. If it doesn't feel good in every sense of the word, your partner should respect that and stop whatever it is s/he is doing. That's the only rule, that when someone says NO, they really mean it. Nobody owns your body, or any of your body parts, and you are not obligated to do anything with those body parts you don't want to do, ever. And that is exactly why some of us are taking offense at your words. Love is much more about respect than it is about sex. You have to give your partner the same respect you expect to receive in return. Really, you should treat all humans that way, regardless. Your partner is a separate human being, not a part of you. You have been listening to too many love songs written by alcoholics and junkies, who don't know anything about love except as it involves abuse and control issues.

 

not to ask but to give
not to take but to receive

 

Sounds rather idealistic, don't you think? Not having to ask what the other wants. Of course, the more you get to know each other, then ideally, the more you'd be able to align with each other and want and move as one. But knowing a person takes a lifetime. Even when you think you've known all there is to a person, there's still a lot more to learn. That's why communication (asking, in particular) is still important. Even if in an ideal situation you shouldn't have to ask, there will always be times when you really have to ask. Anyway, I'm beginning to see your point. I'm not saying I totally agree with you because... well, read my last post where I quoted wizarddrew77. Those lines, btw, have nothing to do w/ morals, politics, or governments.

Look, how 'bout we agree to disagree? After all, you posted this thread telling us your thoughts on love and asking us what we thought, and we already told you how we felt. So let's just leave it at that. Peace bro!

 

Love has a lot to do with sex.

Everyone has a different understanding of love. So no one in this thread can really say what love is.