Myself, be who you are. There are people who will like you for you. Don't try to become something that you think other people like better. I know tons of people who would rather hang out with a shy person than an assertive person. In any group of friends you will find different personality types, it is needed for everyone to get along. Just think if you had a bunch of hardheaded, sarcastic, assertive people together. It probably wouldn't be a pretty sight after a while. For example, we have a friend who absolutely needs to always be the center of attention no matter what is going on (even on my birthday, grrrr!) but I on the other hand don't care one way or the other. So I let her get most of the attention. Not that I hide or anything, but I know that it is more important to her than it is to me and I can have a good ol time without being the star. If we were both the same and vying for the same attention we would not make very good friends and eventually would fight. Do I make any sense?
I have graduated four years of study at the Faculty of Foreign Languages and Literatures (English-French). I am a philologist, a linguist. I can even apply to work at the European Institute. I can be a teacher and get plenty of money for giving private lessons. I can translate books and get well-paid for it. It's not about that. I can have a very good, money-productive career. One more year of study, to get my master's degree and I'll be looking for jobs. It was only about my character. And I know a man who loves strong women, he even has such a type of wife and is very happy.
hehe. i have a friend like that. my husband totally despises her. she is a brat. but i love her. even if she does piss me off. rather like a sister. speaking of, my baby sis is taking her longshoreman's lashing test then heading out for bootcamp in a couple of weeks. and she's still a riot, still a doll, still the cutest thing you've ever seen. i'm proud of her. she doesn't take shit from anyone, but doesn't dish it out, either.
See, that is how I am. If I am wronged or feel I should fight some sort of injustice, then I stand up and do the right thing, or at least what is right in my mind anyway. But I don't go looking for trouble. I'm nice to everyone until they give me a reason to be otherwise toward them.
haha i just found out my boyfriend is alittle bit of a sexists. At breakfest today I ordered my drink first (had two of them, oj AND tea) and the waitress started to leave thinking I ordered his also. Apparently this prompted him to tell me (he's a bartender) that he hates it when women order for both themselves and their man but there's nothing wrong with the man giving the whole order! haha and also if a man just orders for himself he should allow the lady to go first (which is sweet, in anyone's case) but the first seems alittle silly to me. He said the couple in question, the woman was a big dikish sort of girl and the guy a quivering little splinter of a man, in which case he needs to be dominated, otherwise that little guy might just go hungry!!
Hmm... interesting. I have honestly never heard or the woman ordering for the man. I had to take "charm" classes when I was younger because I went to private school and we were always taught to tell the man what we want and they should order for us. However, my boyfriend knows better: 1) because I constantly change my mind, often at the very last moment, and 2) because I'm perfectly capable of speaking for myself, duh, I'm not a child. Sounds like your waitress was not that great. I have no idea why it would matter to a bartender who would order the drinks, only who was leaving the tip. I mean my boyfriend is shy sometimes, so I will walk up to the bar and order 2 beers, or his jack and coke and my bacardi and diet. What the fuck difference does that make? How does the bartender know who the drink is for? As far as breakfast is concerned, I always have coffee and tomato juice. I mean the coffee is to wake me up, and the tomato juice is because the coffee in restaurats is usually awful. Would they rather me tell them that? hehehe
Well there is a difference between being self reliant, assertive and confident, and just being a bitch. There are some women, (and everyone really) who can't tell the fucking difference.
I don´t think we´ve got much choice these days. Every relationship I´ve been in bar one, she´s been the boss. It´s her way or a stressful (from nagging, constant digs), sexually frustrated time.
lol. i'd love to hear you tell my man that. AHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. haha. heh. *snort* oh, shit, i think i wet myself.
