What dilemmas have you gone through from being an only-child? I myself am one and was just wondering if there are any characteristics to being an only child
I am ton the good side of it,I can and mostly do,enjoy my own company and can be by myself for about any length of time and not be bothered by it at all.Dilemas?Well,I don't make friends with anyone(in real life),but it doesn't seem to bother me.Just hang with my kids and their friends.It's all good with me.This probably did'nt answer you---sorry.
Only child here too. Agree with scratcho, quite happy with my own company, never get lonely, and spending time alone as a kid gave me a vivid imagination. I can and do strike up a conversation with anyone while waiting in a queue etc. but friends are chosen carefully. Yeah, I too hung out with my kids until they left home, although the youngest is back and forth all the time. Dilemmas, can't think of any!
Yeah me too I have all the same friends from elementary school, I prefer to be alone than going out partying. I only hang out with my friends Ive had forever and have no real desire to make new ones. I think I learned to be pretty self reliant as an only child but not having any brothers or sisters Im sure had some negative effect on my social skills. When I have kids im having more than one.
I'm not an only child, and I am very happy with my own company. Very Happy... My girlfriend on the other hand absolutely HATES begin alone for any lenght of time, and she is an only child.
I was an only child until I was 10. When my little brother was born, I had no idea what to do. I was used to having all of my things to myself, and the little runt was trying to take all of my stuff! As an only child, I was pretty outgoing, because I hated being alone. I hated that everyone else had a brother or sister to fall back on, and I didn't. being outgoing made me even MORE of a loner.
It's interesting --we do seem to share a strong personality trait. I have known people that absolutely cannot stand to be alone and it seems some of them will NEVER stop talking!Check, on the imagination Wondring.I don't really dislike people---I just don't make the effort.------------
Only child too...I'm pretty shy and generally don't like to be around people my own age, because when I was a kid I hung around my older relatives if I wasn't at school. As for the "self reliant" comment--my parents didn't teach me to be self-reliant. They didn't really ever place importance on anything but the family, saying "no" to drugs, and passing Geometry I.
i'm an only child. i'm very shy around some people, and i find that most people i meet i get intimidated by. i find sometimes that i have selective mutism, especially in social situations. i definately prefer being alone than with others.
I'm an only child and i'm not shy but people think i am because i'm really quiet. I live with my grandparents and we aren't at all close so i never talked much with them, and now i find it really hard to keep conversations going. I do however prefer being in groups than on my own, although i usually just sit back and listen to everyone else talking.
I am an only child, and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enenmy. I've been lonely all my life, especially when my own parents didn't even want anything to do with me most of the time. On top of that, I haven't ssen any of my aunts, uncles, cousins, etc., since I was a kid. If I ask someone if they want to do something or go out to eat, etc., the most common answer I get is, 'I've got to do something with my family.' Wonderful. I have one son that I never see anymore, due to the shenanigans of my ex-wife and the damned government assisting her, so that doesn't help the loneliness factor. We had agreed that we didn't want him to grow up to be an only child, as it wasn't a healthy situation. She herself had 2 brothers and 2 sisters. Whether most people want to admit it or not, their main social network usually revolves around their extended family. It's just the way it is. When you don't have one at all, good luck. Having said all that, there are some good sides to it. A lot of people I've known endlessly fought with their siblings, and if there were some messed up people in their immediate or extended family, sometimes there was no way to avoid them. I'm actually a fairly outgoing person, but I usually have had a few close friends at one time, frequently people that I don't see very often, rather than a lot of acqauintances. All in all, though, if I had it to do all over again and had my say about it, I wouldn't be an only child.
i grew up as an only child bu ti have a half brother who's like 17 years older than me...ive only met him once when i was five because of issues between him a n d my dad..this always bothered me and i long to have a relationship with him i also have learned to be self relient, im also quiet but not shy, i enjoy the company of others if i feel liek they are straight ppl to be around..i would rather be alone then hang with fucked up ppl just so i can have this big group of "friend"..plus i have a very overactive imagination as fas as problems ive faced..i would say ppl always view me as strange or odd at first and not many warm up to me becuase im different..but i stay true to myself probably cause ive spent alotta time alone in my life.
Yeah i'm with you with the overactive imagination bit. Cause i don't have any company at home, i'm usually daydreaming all day every day. Got some crazy stories in this brain of mine
These three paragraphs describe my life............. except that even though my parents dont want anything to do w/ me they have me on a choke chain..... its pretty depressing at times
I'm an only child as well untill i was about 13 or so when my parents started dating people who had kids. I delt fine with them except i was constantly in trouble because i was used to doing what i want even if i was aloud or not so when someone was around to tell on me it was abit of a shock and rather annoying. I never liked kids who told on people. I pick and choose my friends carefully. I dislike hanging out with people who give bad vibes and are stupid and childish. I hated that i was an only child when i was young because I didnt think i had an imagination because i didnt imagine the same things as the other kids so i guess i thought it wasnt the same thing but now looking back on it I'm pretty sure it is. My mind never stops and I don't mind being alone as long as my thoughts and imagination are working in an entertaining mannor.. but i wouldnt hang out with just anyone so i could be amused. people think Im shy because i'm usually quiet unless i really enjoy a persons vibe right away i wont say much and my social skills are lacking a good bit. I never cared to hang out with kids my own age if at all avoidable. the only problems i thought there were when i was young was all the kids on my block when to church and i never did so i was usually alone on the times people went to church.
y'all should think about this. the grass isnt always greener on the other side. i am one of like a billion kids. my parents were always poor, never could pay attention to all of us, we didnt have health insurance, ect. i would have given anything to be the only one. but if there's one thing it taught me - wrap it up before you smack it up. no way in hell im having that many kids.
