Theres this guy who i would trust with my life he is one of my closets friends I have only known him a short while (7months). He is the greatest person I have ever met when I was dating an ex boyfriend he told me if anyone ever broke my heart he would beat them up (its sweet in its own way), he is happy or joyful even when hes sad, hes respectful towards women (which it seems hard to find at least in high school. with guys who just wants to screw you and thats it) he is smart (just lazy when it comes to school), hes caring. Hes just wonderful ( could go on for hours) Anyways he asked me out after we knew each other for a short while liek 2 months after he met me told me that there was something about me that he just couldn't keep away from (mind you he was drunk) I told him I didn't feel that way about him and that I only see him as a friend. But now I don;t know hes always there for me and hes really grown to be one of the most amazing people I have met in my short 15 (almost 16) years. But heres my problem I don;t know if its a realtionship I want. I don't want to reck the friendship. I don;t know if it just infactuation. This is one thing I don't won;t to take a chance on. I mean my longist relationship has been 2 weeks.. I just once Im with someone I get bored easily (I guess) or I just lose intrest and realieze its not what I want ..i don;t know how to explain it. I guess I dunno I think its the fact that he matters a whole lot to me is the reason I don;t know what to do. Cause the guys I went out with I didn;t really care about that much ... I don't know if that makes sense I cared about them but not that much.. Sorry this is long and I probley rambled a lot Im tired its 11:20. But thanks for your time and advice Peace Shannon
Do you hate "what ifs" or are you more prone to getting mopey and regretful should things not turn out? Think harder. Or don't think at all. I'm sure you'll be fine. A friendship that doesn't last due to a buckle up having to do with a botched relationship, perhaps has maxed itself out also. When I was younger I wanted so much to make things last (with everything). Even now, I still return to that nostalgic feeling, or wild impulse for permanency. You can't hold on to a friend, and even less so, a lover. Don't beat yourself up for an ending that is always inevitable. Should you lose interest, perhaps it was for the best. You're also jumping to assumptions. He may not even like you after awhile.
i had sex with my my best mate about 6 years ago. we'd been best mates since we were 4. well it was the biggest mistake ever as once you've gone past that platonic boundry things change. its a long story really but 2 put it quickly our friendship changed, we felt akward being huggy together and stuff. contact lessened and now we havnt spoken in 4 yrs. if this guy is a really special friend to you, please think it through properly b4 you make your decision ok. good luck
Brand new soul, Listen to the voice of experience (that is why you asked, right?). Don't change a thing in your relationship. You said you are not sure if YOU want to go beyound plutonic, so don't. Don't wonder about the "what if's". If you stay just friends you won't have to go through a "I wish I had never..." If you were 10 years older, 10 years wiser, my advice might be a little different. Of course if you were 10 years older, you might not be asking our advice, as you may have already gone through these growing pains. You are young but let me just say this, Lovers come and go, but real friends are difficult to find......... If your friend becomes a lover, more than likely you just lost a friend.
As a guy and as one of those guys.(who has been shady in the past) If it was me....he is trying to get in your pants.You gotta watch out for guys like that.I was one of them and did the same thing he did ,a lot of times.
not true at all. if two people are mature and natural in their approch, nothing really changes. it only changes when you can not handle sex in a mature fassion. me and my gf handled sex beautifully after the first time, as if we had not even had it almost - not awkward one bit at all - and continued with lots of sex and a relationship exactly like it was before sex. maybe hard to imagine but true.
