Is EVERYONE a little bit gay?

1 in 10 people are fully straight

 

I'm like 95% gay...I dont mind looking at a woman naked but it doesnt turn me on and i have not once fantasized about a women in my entire life, and its not like im trying NOT to, I would of course love to because it is more accepted in society to be straight of course.

 

can you cite that?

 

i dont think everyone is bi. i mean, i can tell when a guy is attractive, but i dont consider myself bi. there is a difference between noticing someone/something is good looking and actaully getting turned on by them. you can look at the sun rise and be thinking that its beutiful, but you arent gonna go fuck the sun. ive never been aroused by any guy and ive never had any thoughts of hvaing any type of sexual stuff with any guy. ive thought about this topic before and tried to imagine myself kising a guy or fucking a guy, but i just cant.

and hell, right now it would be easier for me to get sex if i was bi or gay.

 

maybe if one day i have some fantasy about a man, then ill rethink my opinion

 

Like a willow I can bend, but Iv'e never put a label on myself.

 

maybe you should have. That way you would have denied other people the privelage to do that themselves...

 

in terms of sexuality, i don't put restrictions on myself. i'm convinced that sexual attraction could happen with anyone, regarless of gender.
perhaps it won't...but i'm open to the opportunity.
i think girls are beautiful, i'm fascinated by their feminity and i don't condem the possibility that i might have sexual chemistry with one. because really, i don't think that's all about gender.

 

I dont think anyone is straight or gay... everyone is just horny!

 

dam right

 

It's cool if people want to throw some label on me... as long as I know who I really am.

 

Absolutely not. Either you are or aren't.

 

I'm not gay but I'll give them a hand if they are short staffed!.

 

(I was googling "everyone is bi" and came up with this site and had some to contribute to this discussion.)

I used to subscribe to the idea that sexuality is black and white. I experimented very young and defined myself at a very early age, with plenty of self-imposed guilt for it. Even though I had girlfriends throughout grade school, junior high, and high school, I was always very honest with myself and knew I also had feelings for guys. That mixed with masturbation during puberty to thoughts of guys, well... sex and guys became very strongly associated. Mix that with my "helpful" friends who were trying to convince me of "who I was," things got all very set in stone, until...

I moved away from my family to go work in Los Angeles for a while and reached a breaking point where I wanted to just know what I was, not what I had really worked to convince myself out of or secretly thought I was. Was I torn over the sexuality issue due to my religious upbringing or was I repressing more heterosexuality than I'd allowed myself to consider that I had?

One day I just really focused on removing all the walls and both the hopeful and fearful expectations. I stopped worrying about what things would mean, hoping for straightness which would mean a normal life with kids and acceptance. I was ready to finally accept whatever I found out. If I'm really gay, I should just stop the casual, meaningless sex with guys and get in a long-term relationship and get my parents to just accept it. (Since I wasn't sure I could commit to the sexuality long-term, I couldn't commit to an LTR).

I had some female friends who knew of me as gay and I didn't have to worry about my experimentation leading them on or anything. I just relaxed and enjoyed it. I found myself incredibly turned on by one of the girls, the one who didn't want a relationship -- the one who did have an attraction worried me that I would hurt her (which had always been a huge blockage to really trying it out, I felt I'd be lying to them and end up hurting them). I couldn't keep my hands off of her, she could get me turned on in public with just a light touch of my leg.

One night both were lying in bed with me (non-sexually) and I was on such a high from the natural rush of seratonin that I had the thought "I can't understand why anyone would ever be with a guy!" A thought that just came and completely surprised me and I laughed out loud at the irony and that I'd never had a thought like that before.

I'd always assumed that I would be able to be turned on by a girl enough (at least 80%) to have sex and children should I try to get married and just try to ignore guys. But, even without having any sex with her, I found myself 4 or 5 times more turned on by her (without sex) than any guy (including sex). I found this very interesting! I laughed about it a lot, it felt very liberating! It was probably a lot like what some guys experience when they finally break down and try sex with a guy when they've been denying that part of themselves for so long... but mine was the unusual opposite direction. I want to make a T-Shirt that says "closet hetero" just for the fun reactions I would get and also as a good conversation starter.

But, now that I'm not around her anymore, I've slipped back into old thought patterns and focus more on guys again (99% of my life thinking one way is difficult to undo, the whole thing feels somewhat like a fluke now). My favorite porn site is where they pay straight guys to experiment... that line, the idea that straight guys can enjoy sex with another guy is something I guess I really relate to, but still enjoy it for pretty gay reasons.

All of my friends are straight and all (that I've talked to about it) admit to various levels of curiosity but none have ever felt strongly enough to act on it (at least not while an adult). I'd talked to one about kissing him and even though he could kiss a guy on New Years (as a joke) when it came time to kiss me he told me that he worried that it would mean too much -- to both of us. At first I thought he was just trying to find a way to back out, but I later realized he was serious. He told me I'd made him question a part of himself he never really examined before, but he still considers himself mostly straight.

Another had fooled around as a kid but had never "gone all the way" so that was his one remaining fantasy, we'd even talked about me finding him a gay guy to try it out with (he felt it would mess up our friendship to have me do it), but he never went through with it. He was a kicker on the college football team and is now married with kids. (As a strange side note: one of his teammates would play with a butt plug in during the games and apparently had a personality where he could pull it off and people found it funny -- he swears it to be true, it still seems hard to believe for me though).

One of my friends in LA was not gay or straight, just sexual. He had 7 steps to get straight guys to bend, and he has had sex with more straight guys than most women. Guys where he was their one and only time for crossing over to that realm. I never liked the idea of having an agenda with a straight guy and he'd offered to fly out the kicker but when he later added the condition that I had to try to break him, I called my friend and cancelled his trip -- which ended up really hurting the friendship. My LA friend went to college at 14 (prodigy) and was on the dorm floor with the USC baseball team, which he (being a happy-go-lucky little guy) ended up massaging (and jerking off) all of the good-looking players on the team -- who would come back for more. (I have objections to them allowing that situation with a 14 year old!).

Conclusion:
So, I don't think it's black and white and our culture plays a huge part into the walls we place on ourselves for what we even allow ourselves to think about seriously (without family, culturually, or self-imposed "wrong" labels mucking things up). I believe the black and white categorization is what causes so much confusion and the repression fuels some of the hate crimes. A while back I saw on a news show an interview with a religious guy who admitted that he'd had homosexual thoughts. I thought "how great! Even someone on the religious right can admit that everyone can have thoughts without it defining who they are!" He was grilled intensely over that for 30 seconds, they cut to commercial and he was gone when they came back. Oh well, nice attempt. I feel that statements such as "either you are or you aren't" are very restrictive. It makes gay thoughts dangerous and something to fear since just the act of having the thought is something we have to define ourselves by or we are someway denying who we are. It ignores the wide range of the human experience and creates limits on our imaginations.

Sexuality is a very interesting topic for me and I've been very interested to see how different people have reacted to this question.

Sorry this is so long! I thought I could keep it short. I've edited several times and it more than tripled in length from my original post... Thanks for reading!
Paul

 

I am gay and all of my sexual experiences have been with men. I believe sexuality is fluid. We fall within a range on the sexual scale. There are probably a small percentage of people who are exclusively hetrosexual or homosexual.

Younger people have much less societal pressure to conform to a particular manner of behavior. Thus, they can explore the various aspects of sexuality.

 

But why do I have to call myself either one , I know what I am , and it took me half my life to get comfortable with who i am, and not what someone wanted me to be.

I honestly dont have a preference..I can go either way..

 

But why do I have to call myself either one , I know what I am , and it took me half my life to get comfortable with who i am, and not what someone wanted me to be.

I honestly dont have a preference..I can go either way..

 

i took some online test once that told me i was like 3% gay. i don't think i could kiss another woman or have sex with one. BUT i have snuggled with a few while sleeping. and seen a few naked, they've seen me naked. no big deal really.

 

i don't think so but i do feel a little gay sometimes

 

Bi-sexuality is very common in the animal world. Scientist say that due to the cultural isolation, it makes people be one or the other. If it werent for this more gay people would have sex with the opposite sex, and straight people haveing sex with the same sex.