Any female interested in living in paradise?

I have a unique situation. I own a bar in a small town, live in a wonderful mountain area in Northern California. I get to interact with a lot of people and in this small pond EVERYONE knows me, but once at home I have 73 acres of land with a mile of river frontage(rectangle piece of land) that borders national forest. I call it paradise for its crystal clear river, sea sand type river bottoms, clean air and laid back country style of living. Its about 8 miles from the bar. It has an old apple orchard along with some grape vines and the water to my three bedroom two bath house comes from a wonderful spring.

I also have a one bedroom 34 foot self contained travel trailer next to the house. A huge deck goes all around the house which has large sliding glass doors and a cathederal ceiling in the main living area.

Plus I own 17 acres of land right in town but because of the large trees and tons of vegetation it feels totally private. Abundance of water and flat fertile vally land would make this an ideal place to grow. I may someday build a house on this piece its really SPECIAL.

I have thought about communal type living for many years now, simply not sure what the best way would be. Life for me was hard growing up, and I really want to try creating a wonderful laid back enjoyable SMALL community.

I already have one female living with me, and I made it clear before she moved in recently that I intended to invite more people in a communal type open sexual lifestyle. She is very open to the idea but suggested that only one or two more females should be invited, she is against males moving in at this time. I think one more male would be a good idea and am working on changing her mind. She has had really abusive men in her life and finally found an easy going male(me) who does not abuse her, I personally think she is afraid of men in general due to past abuse.

The idea is simple, working at the bar for three to five 7 hour shifts per week will sustain our community, while allowing us to have a HIGH standard of living without having to worry about money and giving plenty of time to enjoy the wonderful surroundings. I have a few other business ideas but really need helpers to carry them out. Owning a bar takes an incredible amount of time and energy and I NEED help. I love growing food and next year with the right people I hope to have a really great mix of food grown from the land.

If any female is interested let me know, prefer ages 21 to 40, could be for six months or forever if we get along. NO bar experiance needed simply have to be people oriented, and first two who reply get the position.

yahoo email allanjustallan@yahoo.com

 

Good luck with that.

 

I could dress up like a girl... maybe your friend wouldn't notice.

-Mike

 

pfunk910- LOL...now that was funny!

~Peace

 

Now that was very funny punk, lmao.



I am lucky however, I am finally in a position to make my dreams come true. Worked my ass off and made some land purchases at just the right time. NO way would I be able to afford the land I currently own outright. If I did not own the bar I would be somewhat bored however, I need stimulation to keep me going each day but I also need a restful soothing homelife to recharge my batteries, thats what I get from the rural lifestyle, I just love living here.



Have been reading thru the past posts, you appear to be a really nice lady BrooklynGal, I hope you find what you are searching for. If you ever find your way out here in Northern California you would be welcome to stop by. You sound like a great cook and your jewelry is beautiful,

Allan.

 

Allan,

Thank you for the positive energy!

I also hope you find what you're looking for...good luck.

Peace~

Gina

 

That is Sounding so Dodgy...

 

Thank you Gina,


At least for now the pressure is off me. Was concerned a bartender was in the process of quitting but she just assured me that she intended to stay. Its really challenging to get people to stay working at the bar. Many people make 20 dollars an hour clipping and that comes up in the next month or so. Last year around about this time I lost 3 bartenders in short order, I was working so hard it was not even funny. I am afraid money talks and many people in their short sighted grab for money abandon a good job to make a little more for a fairly short period of time. Right now I have about 5 ladies who want to be trained as bartenders, but I want to reserve the slot for someone who lives with me.

As long as I am not pressured which I am not at this point I can afford to take my time and be very selective. I am going to leave it up to fate to decide if my fantasy about living a communal life with a very small group of people becomes reality or not. By reaching out on this forum I believe someone will accept that my offer is genuine and accept what I have to offer, and come out this way to check the situation out.

As a matter of fact someone did private message me expressing interest, but so far she has not yet responded to my private message back. Hope she does get back to me because she said she was great at orginization, and thats something I really need at this point,

Allan.

 

Heya Allen,

Maybe you did not mean it to sound as your invitation did - you wanted a female to come join you and another significant other female in a community of open sexuality - which sounded like the sexual openness to you was part of the recruitment ? ?

Or is it just that you are looking only for females to join your community but they do not have to get together with you sexually just so long as they do not mind living with people who may wish to indulge in open sexuality - (presuming that 'NO' is still an accepted refusal).

Or are you just looking for community of like minded (male and female) warning them that you are into open sexuality but that does not mean they have to partake (of the open sexuality but still may in the community) ?

If you are just looking for a community of female sexual partners - I'm not surprised that you do not have many serious takers.

Interested in your response and clarification

Blessing along the Way - The lessons we learn

 

Good point Oldwolf, I really should have clarified my point but I guess I thought the specifics could be fleshed out once communication started.



Its your second paragraph that applies I believe, if anyone wants to have sex with anyone else then thats going to be okay, if they dont then thats okay as well, the ideal is a comfortable loving easy going situation where everyone is a winner. Everyone works hard and plays hard so to speak. Its an idealistic idea but one I have had for years but never had the assets to make reality.


As a matter of fact I would prefer a male as well, there are a lot of things to do out here but for now thats a none starter.

I posted on this forum on a whim however, I think it might be way better to move slowly,really get to know someone before inviting them into my very comfortable currently very loving life. Getting the wrong person or persons could be hell. As I posted before the pressure to get someone else into my life has eased considerably since my other two bartenders have assured me that they really like working for me and are going to continue working for me. The female currently living with me has been with me now for about three months, she has told me that she really enjoys working at the bar and loves living with me as well so shes going to stay. I had known her for almost two years before she moved in btw and she told me she made a point of getting to know me because of her past history of abusive relationships.

I made it a point to tell her that any violence of any type was simply not acceptable to me, and that if it ever came even close to physical then it was time to end the relationship and move on. It took her a while but she is now very comfortable, she sometimes teases me gently and laughs a whole lot more than when we first met, she also has way more confidence as well.

I tell you this because it makes me very happy to be a part of something very positive, I should be happy to leave it the way it is but for some reason perhaps to do with my lack of family while growing up I feel the need to create my very own loving family.

I hope that this post helps just a little to show where I am comming from, I want to be part of something positive and I know that sooner of later when the right person or persons comes into my life its going to happen. If it does not however then thats fate.

All the very best,

Allan.

 

If there are any ladies out there looking for the same type of situation, excluding the paradise and adding a lot of hard work, check us out. We have a lot smaller place (20 acres) and no riverfront (we do have a cow pond). We don't own a bar, but we do have a lot of re-bar that needs put into the foundation of a new barn we hope to build soon. We don't have a deck yet, but the cinderblocks going into the mobile home are pretty solid (we're working on a real porch though).

We have a house (though it's in dire need of repair, and only JUST livable). It does have hot and cold running water and a new shower!!! The ceilings couldn't be considered cathedral, but if I don't get my ass up there and fix the roof soon, we could say that it has skylights. There are also two mobile homes. One is almost remodled the other one isn't started yet. Oh and guys, you can come too if you know how to fence (not with swords, with barbed wire) or use a shovel. There aren't any abused women here. In fact, there's a good possibility that the resident female willl abuse you...if you want her to. Well JustAllen, I'm sorry I made your offer sound less appealing, but you have to do what you have to do.

 

No problem Free River I really hope you find what you are looking for. Seems to me we are not in any competition at all. There must be thousands of people who would find both our offers very appealing. My offer is very different from yours.

I offer a fairly easy workload and a whole lot of free time. A very high standard of living and recreational type lifestyle. As of this moment I am in no particular hurry, everything is just perfect right now with one exception. I really need more time in my day, and one or two more people might give me the time to enjoy what I already have. I see it as a win win for someone who wants to get away for a while or longer.

I should take a few pics and post them here, I have traveled all over the USA and most of Europe. Much of Southern Africa. Played tourist in Mexico and Brazil and there is no place that I have visited thats better than Northern California and in particular this fairly isolated community thats also only a few hours away from civilization.

The only pity is that in the past 5 years real estate prices have trippled, meaning that most people cannot afford to buy anymore.

All the best,

Allan.