im a virgin and i want to have sex with my bf. but no matter how 'right' things are, im too consumed with what-ifs. my parents dont like him (think hes gay, seriously) and im afraid of being heartbroken if he cheats b.c of the emotions that will certainly be behind this (we're in love and all that good stuff) when hes off at college away from me for a year or half a year. i kno and see no way in his personality that he will cheat on me, but it still frightens me how ppl say college changes ppl. hes not pressuring me, he'll seriously wait as long as it takes (even tho hes not a virgin, way more sexually experienced than me). but lately, with him leaving in two weeks, i really wanna have sex with him, despite how i felt about sex in the past. maybe im jus missin him and horny....again.....
Once again, I must come to the aid of someone who's making something into a way bigger issue than it needs to be. You want sex, he wants sex, so have sex. Simple. Spontanaity is the key to freedom. Getting bogged down in 'what-ifs', like so many people do, is silly. Do what you want to do. EDIT: 1337th post!
maybe you just want to have sex with him in the hope that if you do he wont cheat on you whilst he's away at college? Just a possibility. Search your feelings. If you aren't 100% sure of them then i'd say don't have sex and save yourself.
listen to this man, he's a genius though, I would like to ask, do you actually WANT to have sex? or do you just want to have sex with him so that you have had sex with him?
Maybe he's just letting her set the pace cause he actually cares about HER and not just sex? Just a thought- know it's hard to believe that guys can be like that but...
Haha. Hilarious. No... there are some sensitive, patient guys out there. I think they are hiding under rocks though and would have to agree with you.
aH comon hes just waiting for the right time, and if he ahs waited so nicly that u wanna have sex then have it , RAPE HIM, FUCK him as hard as u never fucked... or never knew that sex existed. Have fun.
well no its not that he doesnt want to have sex...its very obvious he wants to. but its jus the fact that hes (like someone above said) letting me set the pac because im the virgin and hes not, and he respects that. i wish to have sex because i love him (and vice versa) and i want it to be with him.
i dont think that you should have sex with him... if there are enough doubts in your mind to make you think for more than 1 seconds then you're telling yourself that you shouldnt do it... listen to your feelings.. yea i think that you should be free and all but dont do something that will hurt you and i'm sure that it will... besides if you think that he will change when he goes to college why do you want to have sex with him right before he leaves..then you are deeply attached to someone that wont even be there.. besides he'll wait so i think that you should wait til you dont say to yourself what if... wait til he's back for an extended period of time...
omg....Raspberrykoolaid- yo uthink this guy will wait one more year for this .. girl.. that did not have sex with him... he 'l lsay fuck her and go party in college, cuz too much waiting also kills... If u want to keep your relationship have sex.. and during his college time also party but after come back to him when he comes back.
^yo, he hasnt waited for a year, its been like 2 months since weve been dating. and althought im a bit torn, i kno better than to just have sex to "keep" a relationship...thats nonsense...if i have to give something up (that in the first place, he not asking me to give it up if im not ready) to keep him, then i never had him in the first place...and one thing i am certain of is that i have him...now at least, because we have yet to see how college life apart will effect us.
