If you're backing the courts, please stop. If you think there is justice at work there, think again. Ever see the sketch on Chappelle's show where the black man goes to 'white court' and the white man goes to 'black court'? Sad but true, no money? You're going to jail. I want to know how many more children would suffer going through the court system under this law than would be helped? FYI my brother was murdered four years ago, the man who shot him was sentenced to three times as many years in jail for possession of cocaine than for murdering my brother. Helluva system we got there.
I m so very sorry you went through.. And you touched on something I didnt even bring up.. That the 7 year old did infact know he was wrong, because he threatened the children he has done this too not to tell anyone, and he also takes percautions to make sure its hidden (example: pulling the covers over to hide his actions, locking the door once he goes in) The other child he did this to, his parents choose the route you did.. But now this child has repeated the act on a much smaller child this time. This was the reason behind my actions, my cause.. Because he is repeating the behavior with another child now, and the parents of this older child do not even want to admit something is wrong.. So in the end.. This child can do this over and over again and mess with so many other childrens mental stability and welfare until he turns 12.
Its really sad.. So basically some of you say.. Screw it, Let the 2 year old suffer and keep going through it.. Let the one parent be thrown in jail if the parent refuses visits for being in contempt of court.. and then the 2 year old ends up with the parent who is causing this to happen because the one parents sitting in jail because they didnt want there child to keep getting molested.. Nice... Lets face it some of you think the goverment is already in our business to much. (hey I even agree with you). So tell me.. How would you fight out that senerio above.. What should this parent do??
i think that in some cases, legal action is necessary, but not all. Its all in what the parents decide to do. My mom is a therapist, and so we took a different route...but she always stressed that if i wanted legal actions taken, that it was my choice. This a certain way of dealing with the situation. Now as far as repeat offenders go-- you have to get the law involved. People hate a lot on the government, and that is their right. The government does a lot that i do not agree with. That being said, the laws are put into place to protect people, and while some may be unjust, they are not all bad. In this case, it would not be a bad thing at all. This is, as you say, a "touchy" subject and a lot of people will have varying opinions on the matter. But children have to protected and the law need to provide for that. The problem then becomes how gullible children are. But guys, you have to remember, there are A LOT of bad people out there and keeping the courts out of the majority of the issues may be a good idea in theory, and not necessarily in practice.
Yem if your mother is a social or psychological counselor/therapist or educator in the State of California she would be classified as a mandated reporter and legally would have to report any suspected incident of child abuse. If it was found that she did not she could risk the loss of any license she had to practice, or refused employment in that field currently and in the future. Not having lived on the East Coast for decades I am not sure what the laws are there.
they kind of are, but what exactly are you trying to say?? What i gave to you on this thread was a short synapsis of a long process. Things dont always come out in the beginning, and sometimes the statutes of the law, as in recent cases, does not provide for anything except perhaps someone being within legal means of merely SUING someone. That was my point with the post. So after these things came out, years later, and nothing could have been done anyway (legally), and due to the fact that my stepsister was then in a psych ward, i think her course of action as a working professional was completely valid. It was either beat a dead horse and possibly bring out something to the public of a small town that would upset her daughter, or ask me what i felt i wanted to be done. given my options, i choose to let her karma be her guide, and my decision has served me very well. I am well adjusted, and forgiving, and do not have any long standing sexual dysfuction as a result of what happened. You can argue the system all you want, i think any board would see it the same. Especially because things like this are so hard to judge in the first place. As you can see, there mere issue of who exactly IS responsible for the abuse can not be agreed upon even on this thread. The parent or the child, and to what extent? Its a fine line. Some people have to walk it, and some people come out okay, and some do not. My mother is the most wonderful and strong woman in my world. She is my best friend, and a person who is far wiser than most. This is not to say that like anyone she doesn't have her faults, but to me, i can have no better example. Peace and love PS- sorry if i sound a little preachy, but i am kind of stand offish about comments in the mom-department...
