I mean alot of kids my age would kill to be in my place but I hate the way my mother acts like a fucking child.I mean I get away with so much I have no curfew whatso ever I can go as I please even at like 2 in the morning,she even allowed me to skip 70 days of school,my mother let me date a 25 year old when I was 16 and she approved of him.I even had one of my 9th grade teachers tell me she was surprised I made it into high school becuase of my mother and she told me I seemed SMARTER then her.My mother even told me she see's me and my brother as her brother and sister and not her children beause she never had brothers and sisters growing up. I just wish she would act like a MOTHER so I didnt have to act like an adult.
Exactly. If she lets you do whatever you want, capitalize on it. God forbid someone should not fit into a parent's normal role. And your 9th grade teacher sounds like a real idiot. Sounds to me like she meant you fit the mould better than your mom. I'm not saying your mom's smart, because I don't know her. She could be a real idiot. All I'm saying is, you've got it good.
i know how you feel my mom is the same way and at times i wish she would act more like a parent and less like a friend
just because you are allowed these freedoms doesn't mean you have to actually do all the things she allows you to do. Don't blame your mistakes on her. Yes, she didn't object to you dating a 25 yr old like most mothers would, but that doesn't negate the fact that YOU dated him. She didn't MAKE you do it. Take responsibilty for your own actions? I mean, she doesn't sound like an idea parental figure, but you have to make the most out of what you get in life.
When did i blame her for anything?Maybe you should learn to read better.I at no point blamed her for anything what so ever.I never blamed my mistakes on her.I dont regret anything I did because I learned something from it everytime.All i said was that I wish she could act like more of an adult. so she could of guided me and help me make better choices.I never ranted about how everything was her fault.
I believe you took my tone to be judging, when that wasn't my intent. I meant only to offer you a different perspective. I am taking your current tone as being really defensive. I am sorry you feel you need to be defensive, but alas... if you feel you must rage at me, then go ahead. By mistakes, I meant that you dated (noticed the past tense) a 25 yr old when you were 16. This, by many, could be thought of as a mistake. The fact that you mentioned it only further underlines the impression that it was a mistake. You dated him... you mother didn't date him. And while she could have made a fuss like a lot of mothers would have, ask yourself this: Would it have made a differance? Would her disapproving changed your mind? Or would you have done it anyway? I know when I was 16, the more my mother said "no" the more I said "yes".... but maybe that was just me. Mothers aren't perfect. No one is perfect. You could try to look at things positively, in that at least you have some sort of relationship, even if it isn't your ideal relationship. Again, sorry to have upset you, was just offering you a different perspective. BTW, my relationship with my mother has been an ongoing battle... so I do speak from experiance, even if it is just my own.
my mom left when i was in kindergarden and she has always, when she visit, felt like a freind more then a mom, but i guess i never minded or maybe i have but i guess, i was raised by my brother so i didn't need mom, that sounds wrong.....
Be glad you have a mother...even if you don't like the relationship you two might have... You could have no one. If you don't like it...move out...*shrugs*
Why is it that in this forum, you're either an uncool idiot for loving your parents at all, or an ungrateful bastard for suggesting that they are imperfect?
I understand what you're saying. You just want her to be there in the normal role that children and teens need. Contrary to popular belief, kids and teens actually want boundaries to feel secure and loved. In a messed up way, when kids are arguing with their parents about rules and stuff, they are pushing to see how far they can go, and even though they are pissed off in the meantime, they do feel more secure with their parents. Almost any teen out there is going to disagree with that, but it really is the truth. Have you talked to her about this? Told her that you need her as more of a mom and less of a friend? I've actually seen this happen with a friend of mine, and it helped their relationship a ton. If you wanna talk, you can PM me if you like
