im busted...need help

o man. this is the worst. ok well a few months ago i got expelled from school for smokin you know. well then i got put on probation...but it wasnt very strict n i havent quit cuz i figured i had a little while. well about a week ago my boyfriend (the love of my life) and a friend, and i got caught and searched and they found snow and on me they found about a dime. well now im fucked. my mom flipped out and banned me from seeing my boyfriend, i snuck out and she called the cops on me. they caught me and now im at my dads waiting out to hear from my probation officer. my mom is done with me and wants me sent away...even though she smokes herself. I just dont know what to do... this is so shitty because this drug should be legal. I live in a small town and the cops are all over us b/c they have nothing else to do. I really want to just run away to cali...its my last resort plan...but i dont think thats whats smart. well if anybody has any advise im open.

 

i dont feel like saying much, so im only gonna say what may feel right may not neccessarily be right, so just take some time and think things through. Cuz right now it seems like you definitely need to get your shit together

 

Smoking a school is a dumb shit thing to do.


learn from your mistake.

 

yeh man, who tokes up a school? thats gotta be nasty.

 

i toke during school if that counts..... me and sum m8s just go out of school at lunch and then just come back blitzed out, school is da best stoned. i once had a practical in science and i was trippin balls, and it seemed soo cool. only crap thing was that the teacher saw i was really strange and came over to help me, so shes like k, put the acids in now.... and im like ok- acid- 2 sec leiter im lookin out the window igroring her. lol i just got sent home cuz i said i felt tired. the thing is never smoke IN school, or hav any weed on u while STONED in school

and i do it because it makes school seem like a movie- like really cool shit lol

 

hey! there's nothing wrong with smoking at school! as long as you don't keep your shit on you, or even in the school. you can always hide it outside somewhere, or (if there are housing developments by your school) you can leave the shit at someones house and go there before school, during study hall, during lunch, etc.

anyway, freespirit420, if you mom is "done with you" as you say, then the boyfriend ban is probably lifted, unless your father is also against the boy. also, i would advise trying to pull some of your shit together, or at least slow things down right now, because you're in a lot of trouble. when you get caught you should always slow down, because everyone is suspicious of you. running away is only going to make matters worse, just suffer the consequences for your actions and get on with life. oh yea, and what did you mean when you said your mom wanted you "sent away"? sent away to where? does your dad have anything to say about this? it doesn't really seem like you've done anything really worthy of being "sent away" anywhere...well, i can understand her concern about the cocaine, but a little bit of weed never hurt anybody, and if your mom smokes then i don't see why she would make such a fuss over weed. so, i don't know. maybe there's more to the story?

 

hey everybody...i didnt smoke in school... they just found something on me in school...but thats not really the issue the issue is that im in a lot of shit rate now for something that i feel should be ok. i just had to get out my words to people that i thought would also understand. my biggest thing rate now is not being able to see my boyfriend and how my mom is misunderstanding me.

 

well i dont do coke... i just got caught w/ someone who does...n my mom knows that. she just thinks she cant control me and hates my boyfriend and blames everything on him. but its not him i just make bad decisions. my dad wants me to live with him but he also lives 2 hours away so i still cant see my boyfriend. i know it sounds stupid but its just that were very very in love and its hard to imagine being away from him. my mom just went balistic and is trying to get my in trouble and sent away.

 

your about a year away form being a legal adult, im sure you and your bf can communicate through letters or the phone and if hes 17 he should be able to drive over to see you (or vice versa)

 

^ dude yea, if ur trully in love u will find a way. erm i know this might sound a little insensitive but this story cracks me up a little..... u sound a bit like 1 of those 'fuck u i wont do what u tell me' ppl, well hav u tried talking to ur mum fairly explaining everything in a neutral manor- like without omg u such an idiot/hippocrite stuff. when i got hotted smoking by my mum, she wnet mad, and i was wrecked out my mind and still managed to pursuade her its kk, it nothing serious etc, so she wer cool. lol now remebering that time i sounded so proffesional, yet was fucked out my mind. so try talking nice, explaining that ur boyfriend is cool, maybe even arrange for them to meet eachother properly without rubbing anything in. by the description of ur situation u got very few options but yea its ur choice, its just that u should know better than to run away. the solutions to lifes problems isnt running, so just chill, bypass the anger and think!!!

 

in my opinion Your mother should not be so upset and done with you i mean as you said she does smoke too and if a parent smoke or does anything most likely their child will take up the same habit. so you should sit down with your mother and explain to her why you think it is unfare for you to be sent away to your father just because you got introuble for something that you know she does also. Dont run away that is the worst thing you could possibly due your probation will get fucked up and youll get more time added on to your probation if or when you get in trouble again where ever you go. and like what one of the posters already said learn from your mistakes. dont be carrying your drugs on you leave them either in your car if you have one or if you have a gym locker keep it in your gym shoes (that what i did ). another thing i hope you dont get addicted to that blow. My experience with that was horrible i woudl do anything just for a sniff and it could be laced with something that you dont know about. dont get me wrong im all for you to having a sniff here and there but when it gets so out of control that is when your in trouble. im not going to post a big long lecture on here but if you need to talk to some one who's been there done that and so on pm me ok.

 

Thanks everybody for your advise. ITs getting a little better now. You see my mom used to be totally opposite and had no rules...we would smoke together and everything...its just when i got arrested she went crazy. But my dad has been pretty supportive. i even got him to go meet my boyfriend and his parents and we all had a long talk. So now im just staying w/ my dad until we figure things out and talk to my prob. officer. As for me and my boyfriend its been hard because we went from seeing eachother 24-7 to being dragged apart and being 2 hours apart.... but now that my dad is letting me use the phone we have just been talking on the phone a lot convinsing eachother its ok. You all are right i just have to wait it out for 6 more months until im 18. Im just takin a all things illegal break for a little so my boyfriend and i can be together. thanks everybody who cared to try and give me advise . peace to all of u!

 

i whent through the same shit...doing meth, mom kicked me out, go to dads, smoke weed everyday, goto school got to know my dad , it was all good.....then i started doing meth again, and coke, and a little crack, started ditchin schooll again, failing classes and just lost sight of shit, so dad kicks me out, so i whent to san jose, cali for about 3-4 months and stayed witha buddy, buti didnt know my dad reported me asa runaway ( yeah, bullshit, i know) and i had a warrant, but long story short, i get arressted and brought back to az, now im back with mom, smoking weed....everyday, painting my graffitti, and doing a lil meth here and there, not making it a habbit, jsut like on the weekend to stay up and party....well i started stealing cars again to get around, and ended up getting caught...whent to jail for two months, and now im on house arrest and intence probation for 12 months...cant smoke bud either cuz i get random drug test once a week...i do a little blow here and there and shit they dotn test for but i cant paint graffitti ( true love) or smoke ganja anymore( another true love)....but i feel you on this probation shit...sucks ass!...where you live that ur thinking about living to cali from?

 

I live in PA .. small town called Shippensburg.. nothing to do but get high really. Yeah its hard to just quite a lifestyle that you get so into. for the past year my life was weed and experimenting and my boyfriend...its hard to change...specially if you dont want to. But today was actually good...my boyfriend drove the 2 hours to see me n we hung out for a little, he is actually goin to cali tomorrow for 9 days. His brother lives down their so we have a place already. i just want to be 18 then it will be so much better. My mom is fuckin crazy n i dont want to live with her but i dont want to live at my dads b/c of the area. I like my small town for now... But were still waiting to hear from my prob. officer, im just afraid she will try to ban me from my bf ... b/c thats what my mom will push for. Wow THCsetmefree you have quite the experiences. That really sucks that u cant do the 2 things you love, i feel ya...its tough shit

 

Sounds like the Coke is the problem. You mum is worried you boyfriend will get you into it. Explain to her you just smoke the weed. Coke is nice but it messed my life up, stay away from it. Play the part of the remorseful daughter and I'm sure it will all blow over.

 

i still fuck around with that shit and i went for doing it 2x a year on new years and independence day to doing it once a month. then i went to like every other week then weeklk now daily. I went from 175 and built to a scrawny 135 pound kid. Dont get ureself into it too deep. Ive cut back to every other week cuz my doc gave me a perscription thats like aderall to help. Just save ure time, money, body, and friends. and especially ure money. And i just recently got off of probation for a simple battery/domestic battery charge/schedule 5 drug charge. What did you do?, How long do you have left?, And what kind of program are you in along with probation?

just trying to see what kind of a situation ure in.
-cgree

hit me back with a pm.

 

cgree,
good thing you cutting back cuz i had a friend what OD at 25 on coke.

freespirit420,
i also sugest the you BF looks into quiting that shit is toxic.

 

I know what ur saying about coke...believe me...my boyfriend did go through some shit with that but it was in the winter and he really wasnt messin around with it. We havent been messing around with anything but weed for the most part its just that night he got a really big paycheck n we ran into a friend, and other people wanted us to get it for them so we had a lot on us. But we really arent coke people were weed people. both of us dont even want to touch it again b/c of our shitty experience. i can understand my parents being pissed because of coke i would to if i was a parent but thats not what i was caught with i was caught with a dime bag of weed and my mom flipped out (even though she smokes it).

 

Dude if your two loves in life are grafitti and smokin pot, thats really sad. Get a life! A real life....

 

dude who the fuck are you to tell people what to do with their lives, its his life man, ffs if sumtings make him happy than let. i hate little perfectionists that boss shit about on people they dont even know