Since there isn't a marriage thread that I can find, I'm going to post some q's here. My wife and I have definitely different sleep schedules. I'm awake until 2am, she's out usually by 9, 10 tops, and often is asleep by 8. She wakes up at 6, I at 8. This is ony for now, once september comes along, I'll be waking up at 5:30, when I wake up this early, I'm usually in bed by 12, but that's still minimum of two hours after she's asleep. How do you all match up? Either in marriage or with your SO/BF/GF?
Well, it's too bad that this thread has seemed overlooked. That's a great question. When I was living with ex-bf, sleeping schedules were rotten. He was a late-day person and I was not. I was a morning person and on our days off, I'd have loved to go out early to breakfast together and then enjoyed the whole morning whatever we wanted. This rarely happened and it was frustrating. He was a pure lazy arse in the morning and even during the times when I could get him up early, his mind was asleep and somewhere in la la land. He'd also stay up late into the night and while I loved my nights just as much, I would sacrifice them to enjoy my mornings by sleeping early. Our whole fuck schedule was off, and frankly it was just annoying having to sleep with someone with different sleeping habits. There's the shifting in the bed, the bathroom sounds, the lights off and on. I found myself gradually moving to his kind of schedule and that was infuriating. It ended. Thankfully.
My husband and I have different sleeping scheduals. He would go to bed around 10, I would stay up until midnight or later. He would get up around 6, I would stay asleep until around 9 or 10. It was nice... we both had our alone time. Why do you need to have the exact same sleeping patterns? Is it a sex issue?
My wife and I have pretty close sleeping schedules. We are both late night people especially since it is our time to be together without the kids. Since the addition of the new son (8 months) I have a few later nights a week and she sleeps in some weekdays.
Icedteapriestess: It's not that we need the exact same sleep schedule, I do appreciate the alone time, but it's nice to fall asleep together sometimes, which we used to do before my work times changed (about 9 months ago), now, we fall asleep together maybe one night a week. Also, what Hannah said about the late night noise bothering her, well the early morning ruckus bothers me a bit, the moving of the bed, the opening of curtains, the turning on of lights in the bedroom as she dresses and leaves for work. I'm better off waking up at that point than trying to continue dreaming about whatever I was, since the dream state has been damaged by that point. I find myself conforming to her morning schedule, but still staying awake many nights until at least 11:30
Oh man-I remember when I was married I worked the over night shift. I was completely on a whole different clock then my family and it really sucked. Now I have no schedule and stay Up most nights working on my Art. So if I was in any relationship it would not work if the person was in a 9 - 5 type gig. In your case though I think you will work it out since it sounds like your in a great relationship. With that you can pretty much work around anything if your both in love with one another.
We used to have the same sleeping schedule, but now I tend to fall asleep when he's waking up. I go to bed with him, because I don't like being by myself at night and I can't sleep unless I'm in bed with him, so if I am tired, I don't go to sleep until he gets tired too. I don't know how long that's been happening, maybe a month or so. But I stay in bed just lying there most nights and fall asleep around daybreak, and about an hour or two later, he wakes up. It's really odd.
Hannah is right,Who can you blame? My boyfriend owns a night club and it throws the entire going to bed thing and sleep schedules off! ruin our relationship. I wake him up sometimes because I am lonely morning person- that is probably selfish of me.
My husband and I go to bed around the same time, which is between 10-11 PM. We both wake up around the same time too, although I'm usually up before him a little earlier, around 6:00 AM, whereas he sleeps until 6:30 AM, but I get up earlier to take a shower and make breakfast. For the record, I'm a stay-at-home mother and he works Monday-Friday 7:00 AM-5:00 PM.
I suffer from insomnia, so I rarely go to sleep when my husband does. We both enjoy our "alone" time, but make it a point to spend some quality time together every night. It was hard on him at first, but he understands....and that is what matters
