girl going to movie with some other guy "friend"

Ahh.. Well, nice come back, and I'm afraid I will have to admit to my failing to read accurately....

Although, that still leaves me wonderng as to whether or not you generalize all women based on your personal experience. Let us hear...

 

Nope. Lotta good chics out there man , just also quite a few that should have some hazard warning lights flashing or sumthin.

BTW respect man, u took it on the chin and admitted ur mistake , lotta folks don't...

 

Ahh, there you go. In that case, I apologize for jumping to conclusions too quickly. Yes, you're right in that there are many wonderful girls out there, and also many who leave much to be desired as far as the personality department is concerned.

As for my admitting to my mistake, I just see it as a fair thing to do. I have a tendency to point out to people if/when they are too quick to jump to conclusions, and the least I can do to remain fair to those people is by admitting it if/when I myself do the same thing(if unintentionally). Besides, I re-read your post and was like "oh damn, how could I have missed THAT!!" LOL

Cheers, man.

 

ok so im pretty sure the guy is gay and shes not lying..infact this is old news its already been settled..i talked to a couple of female co workers and they also said that he was gay...anyway she changed her mind and said she would rather see the movie with me..i didnt even say anything so its all good, but im not an idiot and i will watch my back in the future.

 

I knew a guy who pretended to be gay to lure females. Its the greatest scheme ever, they think your gay so they feel completly comfortable with you then when the time is right you are suddenly straight and she is the female that made you realize this. It has worked for this guy I knew. I dont see him anymore as that is a decietfull thing to do and he in general was a decietfull person but I wouldnt discount anyone just because theyre "gay".

 

if he has to be gay to get some oh well he will get whats coming to him.

 

I almost admire your enthusiasm for this girl. It's appropriate to your age, no condescension meant. Just be aware that likely when you grow older you might also grow less possessive (not always the case) toward your women. They aren't concubines no matter how much we try. And once you realize that, it's a very liberating feeling. Just one guy's experience.

 

Interesting stuff.


Stef has a bunch of male friends. I trust her implicitly so it's never been an issue.

One thing I would be interested to know... if your girlfriend had gone to the cinema with a female friend would you have had an issue?

Now imagine if that female friend was a lesbian. Would this have cause the same trust issues to be raised in your mind?

Also if a guy or girl makes a pass at your significant other, which is rejected, surely your respect for your partner should go up not down...

Simon

 

Girls and guys can just be friends yanno.

You should be able to trust your lady enough, so that even if this guy did make a move you'd know she would tell him to buggar off.

I guess if some people have been cheated on in the past it's pretty natural to think it may happen again and be wary...but if this is the case, give the girl a chance.

Stef.

 

Hahah. Trust you to write on here .

I do indeed have a bunch of chap friends, and Simon has a bunch of lady friends, but it doesn't mean we're off cheating on eachother with them whenever we see them on their own, or thinking that every time one of us goes out without the other they're going to be unfaithful.

As Simon said, he trusts me entirely, and I him.

Love you Simon. Bwahah.

Stef.
x

 

My first diagnosis would be jealousy...but you claim that isnt so.....

SO...im gonna go with insecure....

Be a man...stop worrying about it...if you she going to leave you for him..or fuck him..or whatever...she has made her choice....so stop whining...and see what the day after the movie holds....

 

props brother...well said!

 

You might feel that you are in a committed relationship but, obviously your girlfriend does not. Why would she accept an invitation for a date with another guy if she is supposed to be committed to you? Whether he is gay or not, I feel she was out of line and has no respect for you.

 

He's gonna fuck her, man. Trust me.

If you're so worried, follow her.

It's your freedom.

If you spot anything out of the way, just tell her the next day that you thought it best if you two go your separate ways since you are a jealous man and she is an evil slut.

If I were a jealous person, which I am not, I would do that.

But, even if you trust her don't trust ANY other dude , ( I know, because I AM ONE).

I know what guys are after. I know beyond all the superficial bullshit, it's all about TAPPIN' DAT ASS.

*just kidding, girls*

 

Most of you guys are idiots. I have mostly guy friends, and the girl friends I do have are lesbians. That, however, does not mean I fuck any of them (except my specified fuck-buddies). I go to places all the time with them, and it's not a problem.

I had a "boyfriend" once who used my friends as an excuse to act like a jealous, abusive shit. I dumped him hard core. If I actually was "an evil slut" that would be different, but ... guess what. I'm not.

 

You shouldn't be worried, but you are.
You cannot helf the way you are. You are young and you obviously care deeply for this girl.
Here is what I suggest. You take a girl (FRIEND) to dinner, and if you cannot afford that, then take her to a movie. You may elect not to tell your girlfriend about the dinner (or movie) date until the next day, that is up to you.
See what her reaction is. If she gets upset, then remind her that it was O.K. for her when she did it. Then tell her that you will not have two sets of rules.
What is O.K. for her is O.K. for you, and vise-a-versa.

 

Good advice.

 

Not really jealous? Then why did you threaten to kick her friend's ass? Look, jealousy is normal. Sometimes when my girlfriend is out with her friends (a lot of them guys, btw), I can't help but feel jealous. And I'm sure that she feels the same way when I'm out with my friends (a lot of them girls). So it's okay to be jealous. Let me just warn you about expressing your jealousy in such an extreme manner. Threatening to beat the living shit out of your girlfriend's male friend might push her to do the very thing you do not want her to do. It's normal to feel that way, but if you're not careful, you'll only end up pushing her away.

 

Stupid me! That's what I get for posting immediately instead of reading this thread through. If it's already been settled, then good for you both.