i started going out with this guy a few months ago and i really realy like him, we've even dropped the L-bomb, but every once in while i just dont feel like i have that jump in my stomach for him. i dont get it. i know i still want to be with him, if we brok up i know i;d be devestated, but i just feel like something makes me feel jusst a little put off by him. i dont know how to explain it, and this is all just random late night ranting. i dont want to lose him because of these weird feelings
well you should probabl;y stop using the L word if your getting these feeligns because the L word and the lifelong commitment that usually implies is probably contributing to those feelings in the gut. you're 17 you 've got a lot of dating ahead of you, jsut enjoy the guy for who he is, you certianly don't have to marry him.
Well, like some of the above posters said, at this stage of your life, this doesn't really have to have anything to do with love-just relax and take it easy. Even if it is about love, love isn't primarily a 'feeling' that you have that you've only got when you have the feeling. I think the term 'love' is kicked around too casually today anyway. Hell, everytime I go to the grocery store, I hear people on their cell phones talking to somebody, and it's like it's a requirement that they say 'I love you' before they hang up. If we really had that much love in this society, we'd be in Utopia. I say don't worry about it. If you really are in love, it'll hit you like a ton of bricks sooner or later, and you'll KNOW you're in love. Just relax and enjoy yourself.
