I hate being bisexual.

Hi, I'm new here. I'm bisexual, and have known this since I was very young. All my life it seems that I was trying to gain acceptance from someone, either freinds or family or politicaly or whatever. Recently I realised that I am the one who can't accept my sexuality. I hate that I am attracted to men. I wish it would just go away. I wish I could just be normal. I'm realy depressed about this. What should I do?

 

Why would you want to be "normal"? To me, that is depressing. You are being who you are, and that's a beautiful thing. Hey, if you me to be cynical about it, at least you are attracted to women as well. That makes me more "normal" than me!

 

ya.. dont beat urself up over it.. i used to.. untill i just accepted it.. with the help of my friends.....
i think you need some other gay/bi freinds.. or someone who is really understanding and excepting

 

^whut he said.

 

Okay...well, welcome to the club. Actually being Bisexual doubles your chances of getting a hot date on a Friday Night (I think Woody Allen said that).
Serious... Hey dont go nuts over it, you are who you are and make the best of it and enjoy both worlds, its really cool once you get used to it. I am Bi myself and have no prob with it. It makes you more open minded about basic issues in life, you can see different points of view and understand both sides of an arguement, personally I think it makes someone more in tune and in touch with the world. Embrace who you are, you cant change that, so enjoy it it.
Jon

 

First of all you are normal. Hetrosexual, Homosexual, Bi-sexual and anywhere in between, are all "normal" sexual behaviors. You are trying to live you life in accordance to mainsteam sexist, homophobic criteria. Please seek out support from gay, bi, or trans friends. Contact you local gay organizations and it will allow you to meet and associate with other like minded people in a non-sexual enviornment.

Good luck on you path to finding inner acceptance and peace.

BTW, Sockboy the line about being bi doubles you chances of a date on a Friday night is from the great George Carlin.

 

everyone goes through this feeling of "wishing to be normal" or wishing to be hetero. its normal and youll get through it. eventually you will accept your self.

goodluck my friend

 

Well, I guess part of my problem is that the public perception of gay and bi men is that they are somehow less masculine than straite men, and I find this extremely offensive. I feel that I am as masculine as the next guy, but that my sexuality is an attack on my masculinity. I, like most average guys, hate being perceived as effeminate, and I hate myself for this.

 

It'd be nice if we all went online and got the answers we really sought. Sure it helps to get out there in some form or another but the bottom line is you got to find it within yourself not from others.

 

As a long haired, skinny man, I got over people mistaking me for a girl a while back. I suppose it's guys like me you can blame for that stereotype of the effeminate bisexual. But Panzer, you sir are making yourself out to sound like a victim. Attacked by the public perception. You need to have the balls to stand up to that public perception and fight it.

Also realize that masculinity is broader than it is made out to be. There's more to it than the lumberjack image that comes to mind.

 

give it time and you'll be fine just stop avoiding it cause that's not making it any better.....cause when you wake up in the morning you'll still be bi-sexual.. and those are my words of wisdom for the day... lol

 

I know what you mean but think of it another way. Many geniuses were bi and therefore more complex, having BOTH the masculine and feminine sexuality. Remember, Alexander the Great was a bisexual.

 

see my reply in the What was the hardest part of being gay for you? thread.

It should be fucking obvious from what I have written so far that I would certainly stop if I could. I have no more control over my sexual orientation than any one else does, which is none. It is simply imposible to change what your mind/body tells you is attractive.

 

"Normal" is for the birds. Be yourself. Be happy. If you like guys, you like guys. In this day and age hardly anybody is going to judge you. You may get a strange look from time to time or people ask you about your preference but odds are, you're not going to be killed for liking me. I'm bisexual as well and sometimes it can be embarassing when I'm trying to discuss it with a freind or such, but generally they accept it.
Point is, be happy with who you are. You are georgous and the gods have blessed you greatly. You have a soul and a heart that loves more than most people can onlydream about. You love all people no matter what their sex is and that is something to be extremely proud of!

 

I'm depressed. I feel like not being bisexual anymore. I just want to be strait. Does it make me a bad person that I feel this way?

 

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No. Feelings don't make you bad or good. If a breeze tickles the hair on your arm, you feel that but that feeling doesn't mean you're good or bad. It's what you do about it that's good or bad. If you break the window rather then just shut it to stop the breeze, well that might be a bad thing.

Now, you are sad because you don't feel like being bisexual anymore. Why don't you like being bisexual anymore?

I mean, I don't like being a lot of things that I am. Sometimes I don't like being my age. Well, because people treat you differently when your beard is grey. What I really don't like is how people treat me. I can get sad about that, but depression comes from repressed anger. I just try to say, "fuck them" and have my mad for a second and then move on to more important stuff. That's what I'm working on.
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I just want to be completely masculine and feel that my bisexuality makes me seem less so.

 

lol, i guess youll have to get used to it, im completely gay and i dont feel any less of a masculine person.

 

Well I am a woman- but I felt like addressing this issue. I hope that's okay

I think wise words were spoken above.

There's little I can say on those thoughts that I could say any better...

I wanted to add this. What defines masculine? To you? To the world? Why does it matter what defines masculine to anybody else other than you? What is necessarily unmasculine about finding men attractive? Perhaps you appreciate the very traits in a man that you yourself have (or would like to). I know that for me, I appreciate very feminine women (and some less so, too). I simply love a beautiful woman- but that doesn't make ME feel any less feminine. Many masculine men love beautiful women, too. That doesn't make ME masculine- at least not to me.

In my opinion, it is a sad trait of society- to label things as strictly male or female!

It's okay to feel the way you do- but I hope you can work through it and feel for yourself that it's OKAY to be who you are- masculine, bisexual, and all.

 

its ok to question who you are and what you are, most people wish they where something else at some point in there life, just because at times you struggle with your sexuality, it doesn't mean that you are saying that being Bi is wrong
S