Dealing with Ugly Chicks?

I go to a low grade city uni. I'm taking one course this summer. Jazz Appreciation, so im learning about WYnton Marsalis, John COltrane, CannonBall Adderly, Jaqo pistorius (and Weather Report as a group that revolutionized jazz-rock, or fusion) and all that cool shit. Any way theres this girl in my class that must weigh at least 325 lbs., and her face is freckled, and her head looks like it got run over with a Chevy 4 by 4 twice, and then her face was cooked in the microwave for 20 minutes on high. Really a she-beast. She won't leave me alone. I for one have only average looks. I rate my looks at 5 on a 1 to 10 scale, and girls that I'm freinds with rate me at 6. I'm a little over weight myself, but all the chicks tell me I've got a nice smile and nice eyes. Case in point, this girl is like way under my leauge in terms of looks. Every day I walk into the class, she freakin says hi ____ [Peter Pan], and smiles, and lifts her fat leg up on the chair to try to get my attention. The worst thing about it is the class is only one day a week, on Friday. It's a 4 hour class, (well technically 3 hrs. and 50 minutes), so on every smoke break she comes out and asks for my lighter, and she pretends to inhale a Kool. She proceeds to ask me on a date for that night, and i've told her no like 4 times. I don't know why I appeal to mostly ugly girls, but I don't know what to do, cause I have a heart, and wouldn't ever try to hurt someone's feelings, but this bitch doesn't get the point. i was pondering inviting her for a cofee after school, just to try to help her build self esteem, but then she'd try something. I've pondered telling her to f off, but I can't say mean stuff about people to their face. I don't have any idea how to solve this problem.

 

You really care about hurting her? Because it doesn't sound like you care one way or another about her existance. I mean, you go on and on about how ugly and fat she is... all you seem to care about is how she looks. She might be the nicest person you will ever meet, but you will never know because you can't see past her outward appearance...

which makes you seem ugly, at least on the inside.

 

I liked the whole "below his ..." So he rates his presence in the world as more worthy than hers?

 

Your post makes sense, but I forgot to mention that the girl is pretty stupid, and mentally ill with Bipolar (she told me), (scxhito-effective disorder, sorry about the spelling, not the same thing as sczhitzophrenia, but almost that bad), and has a large ego, and acts really freaky.

 

Be more assertive, and sugar coat it enough not to hurt her feelings.

 

i don't think i can offer any advice..cause i'm an ugly chick myself...good luck with that

 

well, of course! I mean, she is fat but seems friendly... and he is a 5, after all.

 

surely you cant be serious.

 

Her hope is ugly? Her dreams are ugly? Its not like she is holding him down and forcing him to have sex. She just asks him out and maybe thought he said no becuase he did not know her well enough or maybe she just really likes him. Guys will do the same thing with hope that the girl will change her mind. You talked about a guy in an earlier thread that kept at you and changed his attitude and your thought of hooking up with him. So he is ugly inside?

 

Well... I am freckled and also have a mental disorder. Also act pretty freaky according to the people in my smallish town. And am pretty fat as I am 8 months pregnant...

so I guess I must be worthless too

 

Well unless someone hacked into yer account, you posted one post in the l;izard queen's guilty/innocent thing. Before the sigs were taken away, you had that picture of yourself with the dyed hair, and the lipstick on. Im not telling you what to think, but your NOT ugly. In fact you look a little better than I do. No no. I mean this girl in my music class is like a freak of nature, the ugliest I've seen in my life.

 

umm its like a fat guy wearing a shirt that says "no fat chicks" on it.....

 

Thanx, that's the best advice I've gotten.

 

With the last creepy guy to follow me around I had to pretend that I had a boyfriend. He quit asking me out, but he would give me those sad puppy looks all the time. I was so glad when he left. If you don't want to get to know her just tell her you're not interested in anything but that class. And when she comes to hang out with you during break - leave. I know that sounds harsh and cruel but if you don't want to be around her then don't.

 

I see. So i can't live my own life. I should just be nice to everyone that likes me, regardless if they are a teenager with dementia.

 

You can totally live your own life... but it doesn't take a lot of effort to be considerate of others thoughts and feelings... because even fat ugly teenage girls with mental problems have feelings.

 

Hey now, fat chicks need lovin' too.

 

U didn't read my post at all. I said that I am not not mean. It isn't all black and white. Its not like i'm suing her for SH, or I'm waxing dat ass. U know? I never wanted to hurt her feelings, and I never did, and I never said anything mean at all. Thagt was the whole point of this thread: To figure out ways that I can get her off my back without hurting her feelings.

 

i really think you should look at it as "how to turn down girls" instead of "dealing with fat chicks" i agree with icedteaprincess whole-heartedly too. anyway, you gotta learn how to say no, but you can always just smile and try to enjoy her company during the what? four more classes you have this summer? i mean, really what's the problem with talking with her? is she scaring off your other friends?..... i'm assuming you don't actually have anybody else you're trying to talk to in that class since you didn't mention it.... if you really just do not like her or her company then i suggest getting a book and keep yourself busy.... you don't have much longer to go. but... really i think you should try to be a little nicer and openminded. ever see that movie shallow hal? that's what this reminds me of.... haha. the cute girl across the hall didn't want anything to do with him until he started dating "ugly fat chicks".... lol, shallowness is a turnoff. oh well.

 

how is he not being considerate of her feelings?
hes come here to ask for advice so he doesnt hurt them, as he has stated.
sure hes said many things that would offend her if said to her face, but they were not said to her face.