Alright, so I'm in a bit of a dilemma right now. It all began with approximately 3 weeks left of spring semester at college. My friend (a girl) introduced me to this extremely hot girl, we started talking, and eventually ended up getting wasted and hooking up the night of my birthday Over the next few weeks, on multiple occasions, I continued to hook up with her. Immediately the phone calls began and we start hitting it off constantly. I extremely like her, however, I decided, and my friends suggested, that I not ask her to get involved in a relationship with me until we began the fall semester in August- this was due to the fact that she just broke up with her boyfriend of two years and wasn't sure what she wanted to do. I've gone to visit her (she lives several hours away) and she even wanted to visit me, but it's impossible because she has many family obligations that are taking her all over the country, so time is not permitting. Our phone calls and text messages cosist of "I miss you"s, "I want to see you"s, etc. etc. Furthermore, she says she really likes me because I'm a very calm and collected person, unlike her previous boyfriend. My patience is getting the best of me though, because I REALLY like her, and REALLY want to ask her if she would like to declare an official relationship and express our feelings for one another. I know I'll end up following through with waiting until the beginning of fall semester to tell her how I feel (it is kind of pointless for me to ask her now, seeing as how far away she lives), however, it's just plain driving me insane. What are your thoughts? Any suggestions? Thanks for your help in advance. P.S.- I just finished an hour long phone conversation if that has any bearing whatsoever, haha. Typically our conversations, at least when she is at her house (or otherwise alone and not distracted) last no less than an hour and have even been as long as six hours, believe it or not.
Well, sounds like your both really into each other. Talk about you too moving forward. Tell her you like her a lot cause it sounds like she really likes you. If she needs more time give her more time. Good luck
Yes, patience is called for. You have to make sure she doesn't feel rushed into this relationship, and she has to make sure you're actually someone worth being in a relationship with rather than a rebound material. Good luck!
definitely wait. Let her know you are really interested in a serious relationship, but tell her you will wait for her if she's not ready for that yet.
You already know what to do but wanted to hear yourself write about it. How long your conversations are don't mean anything. And are not significant of anything other than the initial stages that are natural when first getting to know someone.
Wait till she heals from her last relationship or you will just be a rebound relationship. But i'm sure you will not listen to this and I never do either.
CreaPuffWar- Ur only 20, u think shes the Best.... first try many HOT chicks and choose from them... ur life is just getting started... more chiks will come if u act right
So, things were sounding really good until this point: How often does she compare you to her ex? Just once during the whole summer is not a big deal (sometimes we pick up on this sort of thing, even if said only once, because it seems like a good sign). If this is the case, talk to her, tell her how you feel but that you don't know whether she'd prefer to wait until you're both back at school or if she wants to start officially dating now. But, if you mention this because she often makes this sort of comparison, I would urge extreme caution. That sort of comparison is a sign that she's not really over the ex, which would make you nothing more than a rebound, which will likely cause you more pain than it's worth. If this is the case, take your time and go very slowly. You may already have fallen into the rebound trap, but I don't know nearly enough details to say that. But, your best bet is to be very patient and go very slowly, and hopefully she will get over him before you two get too far along.
