Getting fixed up by a lesbian

I'm not sure what to do about this, so I figured I'd toss it out to see what you all make of it.

I have a lesbian friend who has tried fixing me up with guys. In all other ways, she seems to know me better than most people. At the same time, she fixes me up with guys with whom I have nothing in common and with whom I have no chemistry, no spark, no *anything* with. She'll tell me that a guy is really cute, and the guy turns out not only not to be cute, but to be particularly unattractive.

Later this month, I'm visiting her in the larger city where she lives. I know that there is at least one guy she wants me to meet. I'm trying to be as open-minded as possible, but I've got this funny little feeling of dread.

On one hand, I'm willing to at least meet the guy. It's not like I'm meeting compatible gay men every single month.

How do you think I should handle this?

 

i would start by giving her a list of what you are looking for... including what you do and don't find physically attractive.

 

Just tell her you're not interested in her picking out guys for you...?

I don't know?

 

Your advice is good. I have so much trouble finding gay guys that I try not to close off too many possibilities.

I've done a lot of thinking about what I do and don't find physically attractive, and I don't really have all that strict a list. I am attracted to a fairly wide variety of guys. If a guy really looks like he doesn't care for himself at all---morbidly obese, bad hygiene, etc.---it's a deal breaker, but I don't think that eliminates all that many guys or that I'm being unrealistic.

I'm probably more fussy about personality. If I ask a guy how he is and he's stuck for an answer, that is a problem. I'm not interested in bitchy guys. Unfortunately, these seem to be the guys that I meet.

 

I'm back from visiting my lesbian friend. Schedules didn't make it possible for me to meet any of her gay male friends, so that wasn't an issue.

She lives in a suburb of New York now, and we spent a lot of time walking around the city. On Sunday we cut through Central Park and there were a lot of hot roller bladers and joggers, etc. I pointed out the guys I found attractive and she pointed out a very good looking guy I missed. That solved that problem.