Does marriage change anything

What is your view? Does marriage change the dynamic of a relationship or is it just a piece of paper and a ceremony?

 

Depends on the people. For some people it changes the dynamic of the relationship and for others it doesn't. It depends on the individuals and what they think.

 

For my husband and I, it didn't change a thing. We felt married to one another before the piece of paper stated it was legally so.

 

yes, marriage changes everything but not as much as having kids does.

 

Marriage changes everything. For us it was for the better. Our relationship became much more solid once we were able to make the commitment.

If marriage doesn't change the couple children certainly will.

 

Yes, I do agree with mamaboogie and Peanuts. Having children changes things even moreso!

 

My life changed post marriage
for the worse

 

Marriage is nothing to take lightly.. Yes, it changes everything.. For some it's just a piece of paper and nothing more, it totally depends on the people involved.. You're taking 2 different people and merging them into one (in one household) and you start seeing all those things about that person that you never knew existed, assuming you aren't living with your soon to be spouse, already.. Ex: my ex couldn't stand waking up to my leaving the cap off the tooth paste.. He threw a bitch fit like no one I've ever seen..

Let me add, that by having children with your partner it will definitely keep him/her a part of your life forever.. Even if after the divorce the other parent is nowhere to be found.. The child is a part of you and your partner for life and the 2 of you will be forever linked.. If you never believe another word I type, please read these carefully.

 

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the woman drops in attractiveness to the man, and the guy is allowed to grow a gut.

 

Scientist have discovered a food that decreases a womans sex drive by over 98%. Know what it is? Its called Wedding Cake

 

It says your age is 24 but your answere is so much deeper than that. I am very impressed with the wisdom you display far beyond your years.

 

yeah my ex stopped foreplay alltogether after we got hitched. he got real lazy.

 

I think marraige is when you decide to stop walking a path on your own destination and merge it with someone to walk somewhere together to a better place.
Kind of like peanut butter and jelly, sitting alone in thier respective jars and merging to go into my belly.

 

Is that smooth PB or chunky?

 

Thank you, Roger!.. Dealt with a lot in these 24 years..

 

For me it does - sure, it's "just a piece of paper" but it's also a committment. You've signed something that says that you love that one person and will forever

 

I think it depends on the people. Yes, I realize I just repeated what some of the posters said on this thread, but... That's all I can say with a strong conviction at this point.

 

We have been married since 1983. going out for a few years before that.

Yes, Marriage tends to focus you. You are not only married to your Spouse, but you are married to the whole family, mother, father, brothers sisters cousins.

The whole package. Having a supportive mother-in-law is key.

 

I definitely agree, IF the support is coming from a loving, caring heart.. Rather than someone who has yet to cut the apron strings and lives to control/manipulate the situation/couple so they can still be in control once their 'baby' has attempted leaving the nest..

My ex was a man (7 years older than myself) who had the maturity of a toddler.. If I didn't want sex he would get it, if I didn't do everything the way he wanted he would throw the most horrible fits I've ever had to deal with.. My son is 6 now and has more respect for women than that man ever will.. The reason for his actions is because his mother/father never let him grow up.. He is not, nor will he ever become a real man because of it.. He allowed his parents to control every single thing he took part in and I'm the COMPLETE opposite.. My parents love me and don't question their parenting skills by controlling me, so they know I'll use my head and do what I believe is best..

I won't get too detailed about my ex monster-in-law, but let's hope for the sake of future relationships that parents learn how to cut the apron strings.

Oh, sorry about the little rant.. I just will always have a lot to say about this matter.