hey everybody, as i mentioned in a previous post i am pregnant and currently i am in the process of looking for a dr. i have insurance and they give me a list of dr's but i am really nervous about choosing one. how did everyone go about finding one? did you interview a couple of them and then decide? did you ask questions on the phone and make decisions based on that? i don't really know any other mama's in my area so a personal recommendation is kind of out. i have chosen a dr. before by just picking a name from a list and it ended up being a really rotten experience, so i have that making me even more nervous about deciding on one. any advice is much appreciated!
i deffinately agree with going with a midwife. it is so much more of a personal experience than a docter. i used a docter with my first child and while i didn't have a "bad" experience i much prefer the experience i am now having with my midwife dring this 2nd preg.
What I do is bring a list of questions with me and refuse to take off my clothes before actually talking to the doc and getting a chance to ask my questions. If they are put off by this, I go somewhere else. If they don't answer my questions the way I want them to, I go somewhere else. If the office staff is the least bit rude or condescending to me, I go somewhere else. I did the same thing to my midwives, believe it or not. Some doctors are more likely to support a natural birth or VBAC than some midwives are, some midwives are less trusting of a woman's ability to give birth without her help, you just never know until you meet them. You really have to make sure your care provider is someone you trust with your life, with your baby's life. You have to be on the same page regarding what is and is not necessary during prenatal care and during birth. Being pregnant should not be treated like a disease, but too many doctors and midwives don't understand this very important (important to me anyway) fact.
