my relationship has changed alot in the past 2 months. my boyfriend never use to leave without saying that he loved me or kissing me. he leaves without saying a word so he can go next door and play video games with his friends. for about a month now, 2 of his exs have been calling. one of them is the town whore who always tries to get back to him. the other ex was his first true love that ruined him. he had walked in on her cheating on him with another guy. he use cut himself over her, he got himself arrested because he would do stupid things in her presence. she just called him about ten mintues ago and he came back inside the house all pissed off over it. the issue between him and i is severe. i love him but i am not sure how he feels anymore. i have to be the one to say it first and I have to be the one to kiss him first. He spends all of his time with his male friends and only sees me for a short period of time each day. i really love and care about him and i do not want to lose him, but when I try to talk to him he gets upset. he told me from the beginning that he doesn't trust women and he says that every single day he worries about me cheating on him. one time when we broke up, i ended up in the arms of his friend while he ended up with one of his ex girlfriend's (the one who calls the most). he claims that he never touched her that night, though she tried. after a fight we got into about two weeks ago, he told me that he has never forgotten about me ending up with his friend (though that friend and I never had sex). his best friend says that he knows my boyfriend is still hurt by it. i do not know how to win his trust or to even get him to speak to me. he has a very hard time revealing his feelings. the first time he told me he loved me, his friend had to say, "why don't you just tell her how you feel already." his little sister and his best friend seem to think that he is testing me to see if i will always be there for him like i claim. but how long do these tests have to go on? then there are time when we fight, when he says things he does not mean like, "i never loved you anyway". after, he says, "why do you make me say things that you know i don't mean." i don't want to let go but it hurts. what should i do?
It sounds like you already know where this is heading love or not, no one on the planet deserves being treated like they are second best... I hear it all the time from my fiancee' she honestly thought we were never going to get married, I love her, and I did many of the same things... Either he is considering f you two should be together at all, or he is trying to decide if you are the one woman who he wants to spend the rest of his life with... I would venture to guess he is no where near getting married; however, it does not matter why is being the way he is, you have to sit down and talk to him, alone, with NO interuptions... make a stand, tell him you love him, but you can not be treated like this and that you want to help him, or that you two need to split up... The truth hurts very often and in your case you REALLY F'd up, you wonder if he did anything with the woman he went to, but you don't think he should wonder if you slept with his friend.. come on... get a reality check... if you were in his shoes how does it look?? ESPECIALLY when you knew he had trust issues... My advice would be, if you love him let him go, and if he loves you, he will come back of his own accord, but do NOT date, show him respect, and for god sakes no matter what you do, do NOT goto his friends "arms" **rolls eyes**
i agree some what with what themechanic said my fiance did the same shit. i know it hurts honey but it sounds to me like he is playing the exsact game that mine did . and what i did was just give him his space if he tells u that he is going to his friends dont act mad or upset or anythig just say ok and tell him ur going to go do something with ur friends. that says that u do have a life too and ur not stuck around him all the time.and dont nag him about it just act like it doesent bother u. now i wouldent suggest to breaking up with him or anything but if it does come down to that DONT date anyone else that will make him not come back . " if u love something let it go if it comes back its yours and if it doesent then it never was" and that is the truth mine has been gone for 8 months and i know its hard but if he loves u he will come back .
I know that being with his friend was a big mistake. The mutual friends that introduced him and I to begin with were the ones who brought me to the guy's house. Technically, him and I were broken up at the time. We had gotten into a fight and he stated, "I will never love you the same way I love the one girl who killed herself". It turns out, he never even had a girlfriend who committed suicide. Last night he told me that he was upset to hear that my best friend and I had experimented with one another. (hey, sometimes girls do that). He claimed that it was cheating and then went on to say that if I could cheat with her, then he should be allowed to touche her as well. I told him that I loved him and that I didn't want to lose him to her. He said quote, "You had ____ dick in your hand and I didn't leave you" (no we just got into a HUGE fight about it and the cops were called and he punched the walls at his house and left a big ass hole). He said that he was not going to leave me for my best friend and it was stupid of me to even think that. See, in the beginning, we use to play around with one another. But he was my boyfriend and I started falling in love so I had to put an end to that game. Now, since he knows that her I had experiemented with one another, he wants to play around. He says that he is only going to touch her, he will not sleep with her. By if he really loved me, then why would he want to be with my best friend? He said, "You won't lose me, I am stuck with you, remember?" Where is the love?
