I am currently living with my Mom, Step-father and half-sister. I am also 28 weeks pregnant. I am working 30+ hours a week as a waitress, 8 hour shifts. Right now, I am also going door-to-door enumerating for an upcoming by-election in our district. How do I get through to my Mother that I am tired? That I just want to sleep? That the sleep I am getting isn't all that restful, as I am up every 2 hours to pee? That I can't scrub out the bathtub because A) I can't bend over that far for that long without experiancing pain and B) because I can't use those types of chemicals? I was planning on moving out in July, so I could have the place ready by August. But she thinks I should stay until the begining of August, and that she will help me move my stuff in. I think we might not be talking if I stay until August, but how can I explain that to her without hurting her feelings? She is honestly driving me crazy. I love her dearly, but she doesn't seem to understand that I AM PREGNANT! Am I being overly hormonal or do I sound sane here?
No, you're not being hormonal at all. My best advice would be to stand your ground and just tell her, "I'm pregnant, it's harder for me to do the things I used to. I don't want to hurt my baby by stressing out about little things (like cleaning the bathtub)." You're only pregnant for 9 months...take it easy. You're working a ton as it is with your job alone.
Thanks for the input.... I honestly don't know what to do. We've never had a "good" or "easy" relationship... and it's just getting worse. She PROMISED me that she would come to my pre-natal classes with me. My husband is still living in the states, so I am pretty much alone in this. There were 2 classes. The first she missed because she wanted to go to my younger sister's (18 yr old) ball game instead. Fine... i was honestly OK with that. The second one she just didn't show up to... she totally blew me off. The class started at 7, and I waited at home until 6:45 for her to show up, but she never did. I got home at 9, and she was standing in the kitchen, eating the pizza I had bought and brought home from work for supper.... like she didn't realize that A) I had bought the pizza she was eatting or that B) I had been at my prenatal class for the last 2 hours ALONE. I locked myself in my bedroom and bawled... i felt so betrayed and let down. I just want her to acknowledge that she stood me up.. that she "forgot" or whatever... i just want her to admit that she fucked up. At this point, we haven't spoken to eachother, not a single word, since Wednesday morning. I just feel completely alone and isolated. I need some "active love" from her... and instead I get a note Tuesday asking me to clean the bathroom if I wasn't working. Well... I am now on my 7th day straight of work (my co worker's boyfriend killed himself, so I picked up some shifts to help out). There is just soooo much backstory and history of this sort of thing throughout our monther-daughter relationship... I've needed her, she bails. So, I guess I should be used to it now, right? But its like Charlie Brown and the football.. i fall for it every time. Anyway... thanks for listening/reading my rant. hahaha... sometimes i just get sooo tired of it all, and just need to spew it out, and it's not fair to continuously spew it at my husband!!
Oh, honey, I'm so sorry. ((((((hugs))))))) How long till your hubby makes it up there? Do you have any close girlie-friends who could maybe step in with the classes and whatnot? It sounds like you and your mama need to have a good sit-down and just talk it out. But it wouldn't hurt to have a backup plan if your sit-down doesn't go well. In any case, it sounds like one of those situations that, when left alone, is only going to get worse. You need to talk to her soon. Good luck, and feel better!
move out in july, or earlier if you can. fib to her if you have to. say the place won't be available in aug. it'll be easier to move the less pg you are. you mom doesn't seem too relible even though she says she'll help you.
