1st d8 n 2 years need some pointers

ummm ya my last girl cheated on me and i havent been with a girl in 2 years and havent had a real good relationship in like almost 3. im out of the dating game i dont know how fast to move i dont know what to say shit i dont know anything. i met the girl im talking to on the internet and we have hit it off pretty good. ive been talking to her on the phone and she is coming to see me today and were gonna go watch the bourne supremacy. so ummm im totally lost ne help y'all?

 

The best thing you can do is just be yourself. Don't try and impress her with bullshit you're not about. Be honest and open. In my opinion that's very attractive. And don't be too desperate... that's a huge turn off. Try to be as natural as possible. And don't let the fact that you've been cheated on stain your opinion on future relationships. There are shitty cheating people in this world and there are cool, respectful non-cheating people too. Don't let the shitheads jade you. I've been cheated on too, but I'm with a really cool person now. The worst thing you can do is let that shitty cheater have control over your future relationships. Don't know if this helped.. but I hope so. Good luck.. hope I wrote this before you met with her. Keep us posted..

 

ya i got your help in time i still have a few hours and thanks for ur help. and the hard part is if this gets serious i dunno how to explain to my mom that i met this chick over the internet lol. i think she will just be happy i finally found a girl i like but then again she worries alot so im not to sure if she would even let me go on a date with someone i met online and talked to on the phone.

and what do y'all girls like to talk about cause im hard to get talking i mean i just sit there when i first meet someone but with my friends im like the life of the party and keep smiles on everones face.

 

Well..ask her about herself. Tell her about yourself. You've already kinda met and know each other a bit so it should be a lot easier for you than if this were the very first time you've ever conversated. What do you talk about online? If you're a shyboy at first with people... let her know you are.. that way it'll be less awkward and she'll know you're not just some boring guy. I wouldn't worry about it too much... what will be will be. If you guys really like each other than no worries.. it'll all fall into place. As for your mom... don't tell her 'til she meets her and likes her... then tell her. If she pesters you just tell her and stand your ground. She has the right to be nervous for you (the internet harbors a lot of freaks and weirdos waiting to prey on young people) but she also has to realize you are coming of age and you have enough sense in your head to take care not to get yourself into dangerous situations. Always have an out. A movie theatre is a nice safe open place to meet someone and a great conversation starter afterward. Good luck!

 

once again thanks for the help but now im wondering if she is even coming down today. i talked to her this morning and she said she was but i called her back at 2 when she said and i just called again a lil bit earlier and she still wasnt home so im doubting it. and ya she knows im shy and online idunno its quiet sometimes but we have like little bursts of talking lol.

7:50 =-/