everytime my girlfriend and i try to have sex, i end up getting too soft and i hate it...we put a condom on and after a few minutes i go limp. im fairly big and i have trojan magnums but its a pain to put them on. one time they actually broke as i tryed to put it in her...sometime they slip off....now im wondering whether or not its the condom or if its a mental problem. i mean im always aroused but once it goes in i cant keep it up. i mean it doesnt go totally flacid but enough so that it bends and hurts...i dont know if i should get different condoms or what...this sucks because she loves it when its in but after awhile we end up not going all the way. i also feel lousy afterwards and im sick of it. if anyone has any good advice i would love it, thanks
You wanna know my opinion? I think condoms are totally unnatural, they ruin the mood and the natural feeling and spontaneity that intercourse should have, for men AND women, at least this one-that's my two cents. I'd chunk the things.
Well, sex is for reproduction AND pleasure-to me, condoms screw up both of those aspects of sex-the reason that the guy that originally asked the question keeps losing his hard-on is probably because of the awkwardness and discomfort of having to deal with the condom in the first place.
You are prob trying too hard. Slow down. Lots of 4play to get YOU totally worked up. Don't even contimplate intercourse for a couple weeks. When you're as up as you can get, finish her off with finger or tongue, then let her reciprocate. Then snuggle - she'll love it! (hopefully) Try a couple of hjs with the condom on. The biggest problem is your confidence - can drive you nuts. You're ok, just worried about 'performing.' When confidence returns slip in early, bang away with your orgasm as prime consideration (explain what ur doing, she'll understand if she loves you.) After a few of these (pleasure her afterwards with finger/tongue- hard work, but do ur best) you'll be good and confident as new. If problem persists, see a sex therapist or try viagara. Best of luck, bro.
I'm talking from experience. InsaneJester is 100% right on this one. Keep the condoms on. Sex is even less pleasurable when you have an infant crying in the background. My first roommate had to get checked for an STD once. It didn't sound fun. Basically, they took a long q-tip and inserted it into his penis to get a sample. He said he cried and bled at the same time. No matter how much you think you can trust a woman or man, don't. You don't want to end up with something you can't get rid of like herpes or warts. And not everyone shows symptoms for these STD's, so they might be a carrier without knowing it. If your condoms are slipping off, then they might be too large. It sounds like you're really getting worked up about this. I wish it were as simple as telling you to just relax and enjoy it, but that's all up to you. Have you tried different positions where you might get more stimulus. Do you think you're getting enough stimulus from her while it's in? Does it feel good?
Maybe you're overestimating the size of your penis? Try SMALLER condoms. It may hurt your pride to walk through the checkout line with size small condoms, but they just might work a lot better for ya. Is this your first lay? Maybe you need to buy a box of practice condoms....practice putting them on....if it's taking you long enough to put one on for your dick to go limp, you're obviously taking too long.
this happened to my bf too in the beginning and he said it was mostly because of nerves.. like the pause to garb/ put on the condom draws attention to whats about to happen and instead of bring a turn on the anticipation/what he imagined my expectations to be just made him tense/ nervous it still happens sometimes if he's really tired or has had alot to drink/ taken any drugs... i'm not a guy so maybe this advice is useless, but two things came to mind: maybe if your gf put the condom on you, the fact that she's touching you might be stronger than any uncomfortableness or what someone else mentioned, maybe masterbating with a condom on might help you get used to the feeling/ break the psychological association btw having a condom on and not being able to stay hard/ blow
haha! that's my problem. I'm bad at sex, seriously. but i'm a girl, it's less of a problem... i think.
Female condoms! they are underated... planned parenthood sells them for 2.50 they work just as good as male condoms and in some cases better because there is more skin covered... this is what women need to start carrying around in their purse but unfortunatly people are more likely to stick with the male condoms and therefore its not that easily accessible like at your local cvs...
