Planned Parent Hood sucks

Do you really think that most of us over the age of 18 have not been in a similar situation? Really, who here has not, at some point in life, wanted to have sex and had no birth control.

It does suck that funding to Planned Parenthood has been cut and you now have to pay for birth control, but as adults we usually have to take care of ourselves. I can't remember the last FREE anything my family or I received.

The original post sounds alot like you want us to pay for your birth control now or we pay for your baby later. And yes, I am paying with my tax dollars. Mind you I would be happy for taxes to fund Planned Parenthood and your birth control instead oil wars, but that is out of my immediate control.


Some possible options:

1) Find some work to fund your pill. You could try alternatives like baby sitting or yard work around your neighborhood.

2) Abstain from intercourse.

3) Use a CONDOM.

4) Roll the dice with the cycle or other natural methods of birth control. (I have two natural birth control kids)

Good luck

 

People should be bailed out the first time they make a mistake then after that you're on your own.

 

How much are they charging yoru for it? Without coverage your pills can be almost a hundred bucks a pack. Even if they are charging you 20 bucks it is cheeper then a child per month. So even if you have to have a garage sale to pay for it...it's worht it.

 

Stop screwing the neighbors pool boy and then birth control wouldn't apply.

 

Birth control pills are only 20 bucks with coverage?!

To danielle,
Why can't you afford it then?- if you cannot afford 20 bucks, how can you afford a computer?

so, you have no coverage? or is it just that you can't spend 20 bucks?

 

Good point, Jedi!

 

$100 a pack??!?!

Mine are $30 per month without coverage. Perhaps you should switch brands.

 

The shot was 90 dollars when I was on it, but since it's only taken every 90 days, it averages out to be about a dollar a day. Surely you ought to be able to afford a buck a day. That's less than the price of a soft drink. If you smoke or drink cola or anything non-essential, maybe you could put the money that you spend on those things toward birth control instead.

Or you could apply for food stamps. you could save the extra money you usually use for groceries and use it to buy your pills instead. Even if you don't have a car, or a job, you're still not as fucked as you think.

 

it does suck that funding has been cut at planned parenthood. i went when i was about 16, and it was (thankfully) free. when i went back a few years later, i had to pay, and it was fairly expensive, but it was still cheaper than making a trip to the regular dr.
in my experience, bc pills are only 20-30 bucks a month, which isn't too much, when you compare it to the alternative (unwanted children). also, condoms are a pain in the ass, but they aren't too expensive.

i definately see where you're coming from, that it seems like you're being penalized for trying to be responsible and think ahead...but join the crowd, lol. we've all been there.

your choices basically are to
a) stop having sex (yeah right, lol)
b) have unprotected sex, and a couple of kids
C) come up with some kind of birth control, even if you have to pay for it.

 

guess no one understands i have no money what so ever the computer i sit at its my mothers the bed i sleep in is my mothers the roof over my head is my mothers the food i eat is my mothers the stuff i drink is my mothers......I have no car no way to work i live in the middle of no where with 5 people that's it 5 fucking people live on my road no children so baby-sitting is out and when we did have a car my mother drove me to my brother and sister-in-law's to baby sit every day i got there at 5 am every morning and stayed till some nights till 12 then would go home with no sleep start it all over again to make $50 a week $30 went in the gas tank and the rest was put right back into my brothers kids then she started not paying me so i had to say good bye. and um vie been on welfare before i was raised on it i was drug into every CACAO office to help pay for the lights or heat ive went without food,lights,heat almost all my life. Because my bastard of a father can fuck but not stand up and be a man he has 9 kinds THAT WE KNOW OF by 5 women. and i have all the right in the world to call him a bastard cause i met him last year and that's what he is a worthless bastard he blamed every thing on my mom and gave me excuses after excuses about he wanted to be there he was with my mom her first 3 months of pregnancy and he was in my life last year for 3 months and I have not seen him sense January.....

So i have no money of my own my mom gets $560 a month from SSI and our rent is $500 a month you do the math. seems like if i was a 15 year old slut you all would have alittle compassion for someone that just cant afford it you don't believe me but i don't have a penny to my self. so before i produce some unwanted child in the world that's going to cause you to pay you tax dollars ill just go shoot my self GOOD BYE ALL! May the lord be with you all!

 

WOw you are like me... wait ... no you are not like me, ha! but I still feel this strong urge to give you this advice...whether it is paying for your college or for your birth control or for your survival you need the green stuff- ahem , money.

Your main problema is trying to make money,
Your main solution here is trying to find a job- www.monster.com will solve that problem for you...

Second problema, trying to see if you can get to your workplace to actually do some work... and you can work that up with your fiance- how? -

Simple- Use his car.

You see, I am also dependent on my parents, but I am able to use my mom's car. All you need to do is drop your fiance at work and you can go to yours and pick him up from work while you get home.

There are plenty of jobs you can do that you can get good money for, you just have to know where to look.

By your most recent post, money is the issue for you in every single thing you do , then get a job that pays you well and there is no other way but to do it, it is not the time to complain but to take action.

No matter what, there is a hidden skill in you, everyone of us has one. Go out there and show them what you have got!- THis is how I got my job... and i am a complete idiot

again... try a few websites like careerbuilder or something else like the one i mentioned before- www.monster.com

Try it and do it.

1000 mile journey always begins with one step, atleast try to make that step.

 

Just a comment. You said you are being "responsible" for getting birth control. You are. Yet now you say, If you get pregnant so be it. HOW, if you can't afford the Pill, are you going to afford a BABY????

I was on the Pill when I was your age. It was the late 1970s and early 80s, and I was paying $12 a month for it. I can't beleive the price is still so low! Twelve bucks was a lot more then, than twenty is now! My parents didn't even know I was on the Pill. It never occured to be to ask anyone to pay for it, I just took the money out of the meager amount of money I made making $3.25 an hour, at my 18 hour a week job. I didn't get pregnant, and that was worth more to me than anything else I could have done with the twelve bucks. Do the math, I had to work 3.6 hours to pay for my pill. It was worth it.

Grow up. It sounds to me like you are threatening to "punish" Planned Parenthood by getting pregnant. Please. Sex is for mature people. Not people with the attitude of a three year old.

 

Sounds to me like the issue here isn't money, it's self pity.

You could walk or ride a bike to work if that's what it takes. You can stay at a shelter temporarily until you get up on your feet. There are plenty of people out there that have it much harder than you but they still manage to get out there and accomplish something. And the thing is, ALOT of them also have children to deal with as well. You are grown, you have no kids to watch and arrange babysitters for and all, you have absolutely no reason why you can't be out there doing something. You can either sit there in your bad situation and wallow in it and feel sorry for yourself and blame the whole world for it, or you can at LEAST try.

 

Lets seem 1st i have no money where am i going to find the money to buy a bike? and hmm thats would take how long to ride a bike 40 miles? or how long would it take me to walk 40 miles? and dont you think getting in a shelter in the city would have crossed my mind. But been there done that i have been to every shelter through out my closest city allway through out cincinnati and even above cincinnati nothing is open here unless i have a child or i am a man. You know and i did go and try to get help and the woman at the office looked at me and said go get pregnant and come back and your state will help you. i just looked at her and was like what? and if we had a kid we could get by ....it would be hard ...... but he already has interviews this week for a managing positions so he will be getting paid double the money. and be on stable work. And how am i punishing Planned Parenthood if i have a kid? um theres nothing to it for the first of all they dont care. I just see why can they give the pills to my ex sis-n-laws little sister for 3 years for free when her parents make together over $6000 a month and they cant afford the pill? wheres the sliding scale eh? she got on the pill at 14 cause she screws any thing that has a dick. i make let me count again hmmmmm $0 a month and my pills arnt free. but it doesnt make any sense or it doesnt matter any longer were movin on to better things

 

Frankly, I thought I was being relatively understanding. Have you at least called the Department of Health (every county in every state should have one, as far as I can tell)? They may not be as convenient to get to as Planned Parenthood, but they should have a little more funding available, so may be able to give you what you need, & your fiance must have a day off every now & then to take you there.

If that won't work, what about a diaphram? They're a pain in the ass, but you won't get pregnant... Frankly, if it comes down to it, you could spend 2 or 3 hours at the exit of a Walmart parking lot with a sign (yes, panhandling) & make enuf to buy that diaphram. I'm sure I'll get plenty of flack for suggesting that you panhandle, but desperate times call for desperate measures, if you can't get the money any better way. And, no, I'm not trying to insult you by suggesting this, I've done it myself when I lived in a tent (as in homeless, which is why I thought I was being rather damn understanding about the no money thing).

And, well, I scrolled down & saw that you replied since I clicked on this thread... Congrats on the fiance getting interviews. As far as the 14 year old sister-in-law, it doesn't matter how much the parents make if she tells them she can't legally get a job (not old enuf) & can't tell her parents. That's where the sliding scale comes in. Free for 3 years... Does she have to pay now? If not, see what happens next year when she turns 18 or when she moves out of her parents' house...

 

i also thought that i was being pretty understanding..


anyway, you didn't say, but are you in school? if you are under 21 (i think), and enrolled in college, you can be covered by your parent's insurance (assuming they have any). you'd still have to pay the co pay, but it would be somewhat less.

if you haven't done so already, i would agree with everyone who said to try the health department. it's worth a shot.

also, the last time i knew, planned parenthood gave away free condoms, if you said that you couldn't afford them. i'm not sure if they still do, and i know that condoms are a pain, but it might be worth asking.

the thing about your sister in law's kid is that she probably said that she couldn't ask her parents for the money, so even though they have some, she doesn't have access to it. that's essentially what my situation was, when i went to planned parenthood, when i was about 16. my mom and stepdad would have had the money, but i knew better than to ask them for money for birth control.

 

I don't see anything wrong at all with panhandling, just so long as you're respectful about it. I've never been exactly 'homeless' but I've been in some pretty run down, no lights, no food, no working toilet, no running water type of places. It's not pleasant. I also completely understand how hard it is to come up from that point. I think this girl danielle or whatever is just taking suggestions on ways to pull herself up from the hole she's in as attacks on her character instead. There's no reason danielle for you to be all snappy and defensive, unless of course you really aren't willing to work for it and you're just looking for the easy way out. You also don't have to be all spiteful towards your ex sis-n-laws little sister for being on the pill, it's not HER fault you're not on it.

Simmer down, sounds like you've got a grudge against the entire world

 

yes i have been homeless as well living in the back of my brothers truck.sitting in aparking lot. i have been throug alot of shit in my life. and about my sis-n-laws little sister her parents are the one that got her on birth control cause she was screwing the neighborhood....... they take her to get her pills all the time. her mom goes in with her. and the only condoms i can get from the health department is ones with spermicide and then i get an infection. No im not is school. again how would i pay for school? i dropped out to first of all take care of my brother after he came home from the hospital after he was shot by his best friend on purpose. 2nd of all i hated school we were all split up into classes where all the rich kids where in 2 and then all the poor kids in another they treated us like shit and i ditched that place as soon as i could. but got my GED last year.....i didnt study or any thing my cousin was going and she didnt want to go alone so i went with. and i passed with flying colors so im not exactly stupid. But with out some type of degree even with my GED i cant get shit. i tried to get a job when i lived with my brother and no one hired me when i put an app. into every place located near my brother. so i could walk. and the only school round here is major university and im not going to get in there if i wanted to. plus that school is about 50 minutes away. if i cant get to the nearest city how i supposed to get there. my finace has been going to that school for 4 years and still is about 2 years away from getting a degree

 

Don't mind me saying this, but seriously if you are going to improve your condition you have to think in the present.

Get a job, forget the past. If all the people hung on to the past we wouldn't be in this place talking... there wouldn't be technology, there wouldn't be airplanes, there wouldn't be the modern age... everyone would be worried about how they were in a pathetic situation in the past and they wouldn't have thought about how to improve life as it is in the present.

If you think like, " I applied to so many , no one will give me a job" then, I have to say thats major BS. If you seriously need money, you should find any other possible way you can make money, if the person won't give you a job, then ignore it and apply to something else, dont' feel rejected and go back into that cave of self pity again.

You have the internet, find a job and apply online- even if it is with a major BS resume, just do it. Then find a way to get to that job...

Ask your friends to drop you, your neighbor... some one. And in the worst scenario- publicize, "Driver needed- to drop this person to work" -contact this phone number blah blah blah and post it at your local laundry room or just on the street I guess- and set a little sum of your work money- that you will get for this .

The only way you will improve your situation is if you really get out of that self created mental hellhole that always takes you back to the past and talks about how you are so hopeless and everything. Try to get out of that first... then you will see that you have alot more options available than you think.

 

WHERE are you going to find the money for a child???? The state will "help" lemme tell you, it is not enough to actually raise a child. AND you are stuck with a LIFETIME CAP of 18 months of public aid. That is it. You can't get more, and if your child is on it, he won't be able to get more either.

I have four kids, and altough I have never been on public aid or WIC, I have some friends and a lot of clients who are. IT ISN'T ENOUGH TO TAKE CARE OF A CHILD ON! Not even close. And by the time that baby is less than two, you are kicked off of it. Do you REALLY want to raise an innocent child in total poverty? My God. NOT the attitude that good parents have. GROW UP, stop complaining, get a job and either panhandle or find an other clinic to give you condoms or foam.

Getting pregnant and bringing an innocent child in the world becase you can't "Afford" birth control is one of the most immature decisions I have ever heard. You gonna raise a baby in the back of a truck? What are you going to do if that child needs more than the couple of doctor visits a year Public Aid will allow you? Let the baby die and blame someone else? What will you do if you have to take him to the emergency room? How will you get to a hospital which takes public aid? What if your child needs to see a specialst that isn't covered by public aid? Public aid doesn''t pay for toys, or school supplies or even nice things like Desitin. What will you do when your 18 months are over?

Kids cost money. MORE money than $20.00 a month for the pill. Maybe abstinance IS your best choice at this time. What other choice do you have? Raise a baby in the back of a truck?