Would You Give It Up for Her/Him--Poll

If she doesn't like me for who i am, she can hit the fucking road

 

if they cant accept me for smoking weed, they shouldnt be with me in the first place.

Id definately be willing to cut down, or just not get high with them present.

then again, im desperate and depressed as hell, so that would be a terrible ultamatum

 

I can't see myself being with someone who did not approve of me as me.

 

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In a heartbeat.

 

How dare they take away my meds...

 

my girlfriend didn't really like me doing it, but she said i could do what i want. her main concern about it was me getting hurt or something. and i completly understand that. i've smoked for about a year and a half now, and i'm just getting tired of it. i never smoked all that often anyway, at most maybe once a week. lol, although, somehow, i became the weed guru of my school. people always came to me with questions, and i always had an answer. but i've finnaly decided to quit. i mean, i told her, "i'm not saying i'll never do it again, cuz i'd prefer to get high then to get drunk, but i'm going to stop buying and such" so i'm giving away my bong and pipe and whatever weed i have left.

 

i would def not trade love for pot!

 

It's not love, if they don't love YOU. And if it's part of YOU...they need to love all of you.

 

Hello everyone, heres my first post and I hope you could help ...

Found this forum while searching for all sorts of information of how to stop/reduce high habits

My hubby and I smoke for over 10 years now. He is the best and kindest person Ive ever known, perfect and ideal for me in so many ways.... but....

Pot has overtaken our lives to the extend that now I have become bady and last week did say to him : me or pot

Please keep reading, just give me a chance to explain and help out if u can, I realy do need ur help cause Im sure some of u have walked in my shoes...

Getting high is great, I love it, occasionally or even few times a week, thats fine... but how do you, or did u cope when getting high took over ur lives?

I love my hubby more then anything in the world, and Im trying to help him and make him aware that his pot habit has gone over the top, far over...

by that I mean, he is NOT stoned only earliest hours am - while at work. The minute he leaves the work - hes smoking ( in the car on his way home and thats 1-2 hours every day driving totally stoned in a rush hour and then continue to smoke all evening... on his days off hes stoned by 2pm and continue to top it up till the bed time

We had so many conversations about it in the past, Ive truly tried not to go hard on him, just tryed to make a point that hes doing it too much and make HIM to descide to slow down, but I failed evry time,

Now hes having a mood swings,anger and agitation are happening more and more, but, to me with no realistic reason, he has become real introvert....

I really don't know what to do.

I do feel bad to demand me or pot and I do agree its wrong but seing him high and high only im starting to dislike his all the time layed back attitude to life, theres so much more to life, but by that im not stating pot is bad or wrong, id just love him to find a way to find a measure...

I want to love him for another 50 years, happily is that so wrong. We had great relationship up untill 6-12 months ago, and now its rapidly going down the hill and I beilive its all down to pot.

I agree its wrong asking someone to change in order to suite you, but what when someone change over the time and is self inflicted - do I have a case to fight because I know how wonderfull he was a year ago? Im sure he was happier himself when he didnt smoke this much

 

Excessive smoking can bring out minor underlying mental problems. Has he said what he thinks is behind his moodswings. Ask why he feels the need to get stoned all the time. I would only make ultimations as a last resort and if i was willing to carry it through.

 

Damn.... I'm pussywhipped...

 

Thanx 4 reply Buffoo,

He can't explain his outbursts, he recognise them as over the top reacting as well, but can't help it.

I did ask him why he needs to be stoned at least 8hours of each day, hes telling me that his mind just can't swich off if hes not stoned and that he can't relax othervise.

We don't have any problems in our lives, not financial, or any worries at all, we could have so much fun and doing different things all the time, instead we r growing apart...

This is my last resort, and if I have to I will carry it out but will do everything to try to do it differently.

How long have u been smoking for? How offten r u stoned? Do u ever think of maybe missing out on something ?

Thanks again

 

Sometimes people grow apart . Are you sure cannabis is the problem? I only smoke in the evening these days as otherwise nothing would get done. Used to smoke 24/7 when younger but it started to make me paranoid and became unenjoyable.
For somebody to stop taking any drug they need to do it primarily for themselves otherwise it is unlikely to work. Can you not persuade him to smoke last thing at night.
In the past I have been addicted to hard drugs so I certainly know all about missing out, these days my happiest times are whilst straight.

 

Ive tried to persuade him, I would settled with nite only smoking time, we use to have a chat about that, it would last for week or so... then he started to be dishonest, denying he smoked on the way home... thats what I mean by disliking the kind of person he is becoming, he had never ever lie before and now, hes prepared to do everything for pot, even lie to me.

Everything u say stands big time, for him to stop, he needs to decide that he wants to do that

thanks for listening

 

same..whoever would choose weed over a girl that they 'love' is an irresponsible(sp) person who should have never smoked weed in the first place. Same with all you people that smoke more than twice a day...fuckin addicts. How can you live your life like that? Same goes for tabacco fiends.

Now of course im not trying to bash anyone but this is just my opinion.

 

I would only stop smoking if my grandmother asked me to.

 

fuck no, i wouldnt quit nothing i do for a guy. but maybe if i was like 40 and still not married i would. just maybe. i know for a fact that all the guys i date smoke weed anyways

 

Wow 40 thats well past it.