not sure what to do. advice please. (kind of long..)

You've only been together 2 months.
Give him some breathing room for craps sake.
Plus....tell him the truth. Omitting IS lying.

 

wait what?

we were together for 4 months. and tell him the truth about what?

 

I think moonflower is confused and didn't read the whole post. you did the right thing chica no worries.

 

I read it....but I guess I still got confused.

 

oh its ok! sorry. my whole relationship was confusing!

 

you just tell he what you want, find out what's happen, i think that no who's fault problem, he dont want to hurt you, but actually he did, you know, i did the same thing with my ex-girlfriend, so i konw, it's an accident, but if the case did again and again, may be it's match problem, he didnt konw what you want, because he thinking dont like you thinking, this my opinion, but i dont want to see how the sort love over, keep going ,,,,,

 

with him i was never a priority. drinking. drugs. friends were. if you can call those people his friends. he would talk about the future with me, tell me he wanted a long term relationship, tell me he loved me. i felt some amazing things from him. i felt like i had found my match. but in the end i just couldn't compete. looking back on it, and being out of the relationship i realize how messed up he is and that he was never there for me, even on a friendship level. and that sucks. i couldn't count on him. and i deserve way better. but i guess how can i expect him to be there for me, when he can't even take care of himself. he thinks he doesn't have a problem because he still goes to work. but he has some serious health problems that he is ignoring and has been ignoring for over a year, and just that fact alone is a huge sign of how bad off he is.

it sucks and its heartbreaking to me because i see his potential and i see that we could have been a really great couple. i feel like he is a soulmate of mine, but it just can't work out because he is sick.

 

if you haven't stopped ripping lines by the time you're 28, it isn't just a phase.

 

yeah. that's what im saying. lord knows i have been wild in my days. but there comes a time and a place when you can't continue, and its time to grow up. if your health is seriously at risk, and you can't keep people in your life who truely care about you, then you have major problems.

he thinks he's some sort of rockstar or something. but what he doesn't realize its all in his mind and people are not laughing with him but at him. i mean, i should have known. random people made comments, "oh are you sure you want to date chris, he's an alcoholic..." i didn't really take it seriously, because he seemed so together when i first met him. and i like to get my drink on too. but holy crap. he brings that to a whole new level. and most of his friends are worse off or just as bad as him, so of course they aren't going to help him. they just help to make that lifestyle normal. everyone has just sort of expected him to be messed up all the time. they don't even think anything of it. and of course i was like um....hello? are you trying to kill yourself.

 

I feel ya and we've all been there. Don't feel embarassed. Excessive talk from men is cheap after learning some hard lessons I don't take any guy seriously unless his talk is followed by action because like you and every other person on this planet I deserve somone who is super duper lol no but seriously if somone doesn't love enough to sacrifice that is not somone I need in my life. Just be thankful that you are healthy and know what to look out for next time and good job for being strong. It's not easy!!!

 

holy crap! i think im pregnant with his child! i took a test this morning. and it was positive!

eeeek!?