LOL poppers last a matter of seconds.. not even a full minute.. well one inhalation does... if you use it at first and then when it starts not hurting so bad, just enjoy the anal, then thats fine.... :H
Try your own finger first, you need to know what feels good before telling anyone else. There are small toys on the market. One is called a slim jim. It is a great starter vibe for anal. I like KY jelly not the Ultra jelly that is to thin for anal. Oh and RELAX! If it hurts stop you dont want to cause damage.
your fiancee may just be too big for your ass. i just had this problem with onew of my girls the other day. fingers, toys, beads etc. fine. my dick with plenty of astroglide.. just rips after a quarter of the way. she says it feels good but the pain isnt the good kind of pain. so i would just stick to something smaller. anal pleasure is amazing.
Painfull anal is the best part...lol. Not that I WANT to hurt the female, it's just SUCH a turn on when she screams, weeps, and grabs for everything in front of her. lmao