I'm a long distanced relationship and I was looking forward to seeing my girlfriend this summer for 2 week in the end of june. Of course my parents are paying for all the plane tickets and everythig and after seeing her I'm supposed to go work on my uncle's ranch. But then the schedule got all messed up and the time was shortened to 10 days. Still decent I thought since I wouldn't be doing anything besides spending time with her. Then my school decided to postpone my final exams so now I only get to see my girlfriend for 6 DAYS! Of course I feel kind of sad since I was really expecting a long lasting time with her and now it's going to last barely a week. But when I told my girlfriend she totally freaked and started accusing me of not caring enough to try and push for a longer time. Though I agree I should have tried to push for longer when I still had the chance (the plane tickets have been finalized and everything so I can't change anything), I also felt like things were fair since my parents were paying for everything and it would sound ungrateful to pressure them to add more time. Anyway, now my girlfriend has her doubts about me, thinking I might not be serious enough about the relationship. So yeah, I just felt like sharing this with someone. I'm not really expecting any advice, I'm just sort of hoping it will help me find the solution this problem (if it can really be called that).
well if she's accusing you, you should've told her about your rents paying for it and not to pressure them to not look like an asshole. so it seems that she should be more grateful towards your rents and be happy with what you have and make the best of it.
mind if I ask whereabouts she is? She sounds, well, a little overly needy. Initial flip out makes sense, but if she keeps pushing/whining/freaking out, may want to reconsider the longevity of you two
It not like its your fault she isnt spending as much time there. She was probably expecting and really wanted to spend those 2 weeks with you, so give her some time. If she really has a big problem with it, i would say she is being a bit overly clingy and a bit controlling. You dont want to be in a relationship like that.
man, that's hard. She's probably just disappointed and not to good with handling it. Or maybe she's been hurt before and somehow thinks that this is just a male, running from commitment thing (which I'm sure it's not, but girls can be paranoid and silly sometimes ) When you get there, show and tell her how much you do care and she should be sweet. But yes, long distance is hard - i'm in one too and it HURTS sometimes. My boy was supposed to be coming down but he got gladular fever I was pretty gutted, as was he, but we worked through it, I'm sure you and your girl can too. good luck and have a great trip
I just think she's disappointed she's not spending more time with you, but I think the next time you two talk, explain to her how your parents are paying for it, and reassure her that you love her and would like it to be longer, but there's nothing really you can do about it at this point , and explain why you didn't pressure your parents for more time. Good luck and hope it works out.
