so you may know ive been single for about two weeks now. still dealing with the heartache, but its gotton routine not to talk to my x whether i like it or not. so, im super lonely. i want a relationship. thats why i think im having such a hard time dealing with the ending of the last one. i know that sounds shallow, like i just want 'someone,' but its not just that. i want to care about someone who will care about me too. i need to move on. im sure someone will tell me that i need to be comfertable by myself and not 'need' anyone else. i understand that, but it doesnt make the lonliness go away. im not totally comfertable with myself, and so i realize that is the problem. but whatever- im still lonely!! i dont know what im posting for, just a rant i guess. somewhere to put my thoughts. humor me- whats the best way to get over my 'lonliness' as soon as i can?
LOL. My answer is to find someone else. That usually helps you get over it pretty quickly. But again, I do know that isn't always the best answer. I know it is a bad idea to jump right into another relationship. You need time to work out the issues you had with this past one, etc. blah blah, but I didn't think that was what you wanted to hear. I know when Jer and I broke up one summer a long time ago while I was very upset and hurt, it did help take my mind off of things when I met a guy and started conversing with him over email and IM, and stuff like that. It kinda sparked something inside of me ya know. Made me feel special even though it was harmless flirting and I didn't want it to go anywhere, it really did take my mind off of Jer (who eventually came crawling back if you don't know). It just made me feel like this break up is not the end of the world, and it helped me discover a little bit more about me. I also wrote a lot of poetry. About all sorts of things. Sometimes love and loss and sometimes nonsense stupid shit. Just whatever I could make verse out of. If that doesn't help, then hanging out with good friends sometimes works. Sometimes it doesn't, depends on your friends. Mine suck at the moment. LOL... here I go again. Good luck. You will be fine, it does get better, I promise.
No one likes being treated as a "rebound". With that as a disclaimer, I have to say in reality that it's going to be much easier with one than without. You may have a few issues to recover from, but who doesn't? Take it as it comes. But the worst you can do to yourself is become so desperate you'll do anything just to have a guy around you. It's natural to feel lonely after all the closeness. Give yourself time to adjust.
I know what you mean.. I just want to feel someone caring about me again and have someone to talk with and have someone to hold me and just.. be there for me I guess. Well.. I say someone but actually it's just this one particular person but that's not gonna happen soo.. Feeling so lonely all the time is just exhausting and it'd be so nice to make that feeling go away somehow. But I don't wanna be with just some random person when my heart belongs to someone special..
My answer is one you've already stated....you need to love yourself and be comfortable with just 'you' before you find someone else. Meaningless relationships won't solve any of your problems in the long run. You must first know that you can handle being with just you....no one to rely on to make you feel good about who you are. If you don't love you, why would you expect anyone else to?
I suggest getting absorbed in something else so you don't have the time to sit around and feel lonely. Go out with friends, get into a new, or old, hobby, raad, write down your feelings if you're so inclined (that always works for me, anyways). In essence, just get into doing other things. Hope that helps, and good luck
ive been rebounding like i could not imagine myself doing before. its like im just 'changed.' and i HATE it. i miss him so much. i drove by his house today, thinking, 'wtf am i doing.' i keep busy now with school and all, so its kinda easy to keep myself occupied. my summer vacation starts soon though, and i know thats guna SUCK. for so long, we would talk about how nice it will be to sit outside in the warm weather and just watch the night go by and wish on shooting stars. its cheesy as hell but its like, it made me so happy. just to be close to him. i was thinking today, what would i do if i actually SAW him? (we live pretty close in a fairly small town) Im sure id say hi, and then want to hug him and hold him and never let him go again but i couldnt do that. itd be too hard to say goodbye again. i guess id ask him how hes doing and act like im doing fine when he asks. inside im just torn. i thought i was pretty much over him, but today (after all this 'rebounding,') i realize hes all ive wanted. people tell me i couldnt be in love cause im only 17. maybe its true, maybe its not, but i care so sincerely and deep for him. the only thing that keeps me away from him is knowing that it is helping him. sorry, long post, but its only a fraction of what ive been carrying in my mind lately, so enjoy. :/
Whether or not you can love at your age is a moot point. You have feelings, & they are hurt. Time does smooth things over, eases the pain. (((((((dietcoketree)))))))) At least you can wander in here knowing that you're aren't alone in your feelings. Lots of lonely folks out there. Keeping yourself occupied sounds like a good plan. Hang in there!
Been there done that. Go out, have fun, try not to think about it. Talk to your friends all the time, cry, sceram if you want, just get it out of your system. It won't hurt forever. The sooner you get this passed, the sooner you will be ready to fall in love again. This worked for me. Try it.
ur a pretty girl, u will be fine. I just broke up with my Gf like a week ago. I was pretty torn up. But u will feel better in time, dont worry so much. Just try and let go. But i have a different kind of relationship now.....friends with benifits, Booyea! Just go out, party, have fun and meet sum1 and make new memories. Don't worry, Be happy!
Sweetheart,you're 16. Get over it. There will plenty of more painful real breakups & heartaches in your lifetime. Don't worry.
i know i know... i hate the patronizing tone i hear your post in.. "sweetheart, your 16." its like, i know. but that doesnt make it hurt any less. whether im 16 or 72, i fell IN LOVE.
