When/Where/How do you and your partner make love? LOL I don't need details or anything, but this came up in a conversation with a friend, and I was talking about all the zillions of benefits co-sleeping has to offer. He brought up this issue, and I didn't know what to say... (I'm not a parent). Personally, I can see how in infancy it wouldn't be an issue to be in the same room, but as the child ages I can see how it would be an issue. All in all, the argument still ends up in the same place the way I see it - if this is the happy, healthy thing for your child, it's worth sacrificing a little nookie. But I wanted to hear the responses of all my favorite AP parents!
uh, anywhere else? LOL! Does your friend have no imagination? sometimes in the bed, when the kids are in the other room. sometimes in the other room if the kids are in the bed. in the garage, in the kitchen, in the car....
Yeah, what she said. Anywhere except where the kids are and this includes when they are infants. Kathi
Yup, anywhere else Once the kiddies are 2-3ish, it helps if they have their own room &/or bed too. My kids coslept in our bed exclusively until 3 1/2, and at that point they would start the night in their own room (makes this MUCH easier ) and then if &/or when they woke up they'd climb into our bed. love, mom
Thanks, mommies! That's pretty much what I figured, I just felt... like I wasn't qualified for handing out such advice without some consulting, you know. Sometimes I wish I had a kid just so my friends with kids would listen to me once in a while!
Wherever we can. When the baby is asleep in our bed as he usually is we go into his room. If by chance he is in his room we use ours. Having been parents for eighteen years and with the kids spread from 6 months to 18 years we have learned the art of stealth sex and quickies. Never overlook an oppotunity.
our ultimate plan is to have three beds, one in each bedroom. A king, a queen, and a double/full, and just see what happens. I would prefer we all sleep together in the big bed, but my little one does not like to be snuggled at night (she's the snuggliest kid when she's awake though) and she will get up and sleep somewhere else even if she does start out the night sleeping next to me. With two kids, and three beds, we should be able to come up with a workable solution.
Oh yes. The bathroom floor was a good one for us. "NO, you can't come in, mommy and daddy are taking a.......bath........." Ugh, Sage nearly walked in on us on Mother's Day. I TOLD him it was too late in the morning....
i was gunna post this same thread a couple days ago, lol our only problem is that at the moment, we live at my mom's place, so anywhere but our bedroom is off limits. we stay downstairs with leane in our room....but she's getting older and the only spare rooms are upstairs, both being taken up.....i have no clue what we're going to do in a few months......
we have a bassinet pulled up to the bed, when we want to have sex we lie her down in it while she sleeps and just pull her back in after. *blush* The bassinet we keep by us loaded with the sulplies I don't want to get outta bed to get in the night... like the boppy, wipes, diapers, blankets, extra change of clothes ect.
a nice pile of soft blankets in the corner out of eyesight is great...after your done bring her back into bed... we live in one room together w/ riley.... the boys have their own so we understand the living arrangement thing where everyone is everywhere lol
I imagine getting laid requires creativity for parents whether or not you co-sleep. Here's a hint, though: When your kids get older, don't tell your kids any of your, err... strategy- you know, to keep them occupied. Let's just say I can never watch the Smurfs again.
