To cut a long story short,- I'm 33 - but what you are about to hear sounds like teenage games,which is why I'm fucked off with it all.I finished with this Polish girl around november - after 8 months. We split and within a week she was suddenly going out with my workmate.I never showed any anger - though I have to admit I felt pretty small - cos everyone at work knew.I remained a gentlemen - I approached the workmate in question - he'd stopped talking to me and I said very simply - 'are you going out with ***** he said 'yeah' - I said - mate it's ok - I don''t have a problem'. So last week they split up.I'm going to my usual bar on a friday night - live band lotsa newcastle brown - when she comes in with a mate.Her mate is English - and we get chatting - we hit it off - there's an attraction and we chat and chat and are having a good time.so ***** persuades her to leave for another club.Next week (tonight) theycome in again - again - I get chatting to her mate.We organise a date - I'm to call round her house on tuesday night.But by this time - this girl has realised that **** is my ex-girlfriend. She starts questioning us about wether or not we still love each other.I say 'it's over' - ***** just says 'he's a bastard - because he called me a prostitute - blah blah blah - yeah - I did so what.So her mate gets all bitchy and tells me to stop it - ***** is in tears about I don't know what.I chuckle and retort and the same time 'What have I done?' - but I don't say what is really on my mind - e.g. 'she fucked off with some other guy straight after we split up - not me' - this girl is telling me to stop - 'stop what I say? - I am sitting drinking beer' - I ask her about our date on tuesday night - her exact words are - 'you fucked it mate'.I didn't do anything! - afterwards I sat in a field and gazed at the moon. Well these days - I'm pretty strong - and I can make myself laugh about these ridiculous situations.I might call round on Tuesday anyway - if I'm told to fuck off then fuck off I will - but on this occasion - I have nothing to feel guilty for - so there you fucked up women.If I can get your mate around to going out - I will - she's really quite attractive - and a stereotypical blonde with big tits - which is what I was mindlessly after.You don't have to comment on this if you don't want to - I just used this post to get my thoughts in order. Do I sound like an asshole? - not at all - I was bought up to believe the sun doesn't go down on an argument.Some girls are too wussy these days
There you go - I edited it.Is still a headfuck though.Don't worry - I'm not.Just organising my brain.
emm..... yeah, sorry, if you called one of my gf's a prostitute I would never go out with you, no matter how much of a twit she may've been. It's disrespectful... if you cant' respect my friend how could I expect you to respect me? You'll probably be told to fuck off again. But, looks like you're just looking for something casual, lots of fucking less talking, so there are plenty of dumb fish in the barrel
What? - so you think calling her a prostitue was a little unsensitive then - even though she lied about still going out with her boyfriend when she started dating me? and lying about moving to Poland when she was actually going out with another guy - yeah right - I'm the guilty one in all this - ? I don't treat people like statistics - but she treated me that way - I ain't gonna hit her - I ain't gonna stalk her - but she comes looking for trouble then a bit of verbal abuse is all she's gonna get - and only if I'm pushed - and she pushed it.Her actions were far worse then anything I might say.and yeah - I know - verbal abuse apparently can be even worse than physical abuse - but what about women just - treating you like a piece of shit? whats that classed as?
Hmmmm.... I guess you could've worded it differently, paddler... But then, you were angry and hurt. From the way you described this girl so far, I kind of think she had it coming. As for her friend, I'd forget about her if I were you. Chances are she won't be inclined to see your side of the story, from the way she sounds. It may be either that the girl in question hasn't told her the complete truth, or that she has and her friend's just trying to defend her. Unfortunately, the way in which this friend of hers is defending her really doesn't strike me as a smart one. She is a THIRD PERSON, and a third person must understand BOTH sides of the story..or at least TRY to. Doesn't sound like she keeps that in her mind. Sucky situation, eh.. Try not to let it get to you too much, man.
hey thanks - you make a good point.Iits not a good way to start another relationship - plus the two of them both live together in a hotel (this town is full of people working and living in hotels - it's horribly incestrous) it kind of spells doom from the outset. It's a tough one cos there are hardly any english girls round here which is wierd considering I'm in England - but yeah she could just be another cartload of complications
Sounds like you were actually serious about the girl's friend and hitting it off with her. Did you honestly think it would work? If so, it's likely the worst situation you could ever put yourself in. Don't waste your time on anything to do with the first girl. But that's just my take on it. On your topic of "wussy girls", I think that would be better termed as plain "Liars" and "Cheaters". You were screwed by a girl with too much baggage and little conscience, from this perspective anyway. If I WERE the girl's friend, I'd simply label you as "sleazebag". You knew the girls were close friends, what were you thinking? An eye for an eye? Yes, there are morons walking the earth. Try and hone your skills avoiding them, eh? Hitting up the the original girl's friend or even calling her... lol, mate, you be the judge of that. If you can't make that decision, you shouldn't be playing in the kitchen if you can't take the fire. And pardon the bluntness, but it does seem like you CAN'T take it. You're upset and pissy (perhaps rightly so). You seem to pride yourself in your integrity, so why do you mix yourself with the braindead? Remove yourself and move on.
should she? Or should she back up her friend, someone she's confided in, trusts, cares about over someone she's only briefly met? Because even if my friend was behaving poorly in that sort of situation, I'd choose my friend over the stranger. I'd talk to her about it later on, ask why she thought it was appropriate behaviour, try to get her to see the other side of it... but in the situation, no, I wouldnt' date someone who called my friend a prostitute no matter how poorly she acted in another relationship or directly afterwards.
yeah you do kinda sound like a dick if you called her a prostitute...why do guys revert to name calling like that? I've never understood it I mean it is obvious we are not on the corner hooking lol
look at this way.she lied to me - and not about just any old shit - that week she had me running around organising a flat for us to move into - when i actually cut the crap and sorted one out - nice place as it goes with a large fireplace - she suddenly changes her tune 'oh well i'm not sure about it now' - she wouldn't even come and take a look.by the time next week comes she's going out with the guy i worked closely with.now,i never intervened in any way - i took it like a man - i didn't do anything to stop them and said nothing to her that was degrading - i was more pissed off by the fact that the guy stopped talking to me - thats being a coward on his part - apparently my friendship with him was worth nothing either - but i didn't let it get to me - he's a nice guy - i aired no opinions about her to him just said good luck. so what does she do when she splits with him? comes to the only bar i go to - there were plenty of other places she could have gone - and first off starts trying to flirt with me.i would have none of it - no way - i ain't some fuckin fly by night pushover.but she tried to push it all the same.i finally resorted to verbal abuse because she was NOT GETTING THE MESSAGE. so anyway - yeah perhaps a little bit of me was getting revenge on her by chatting to her friend - I'll admit to that - but it was her friend who was hitting on me - i was trying to stay away from their table all together.(girls hitting on me is not something that happens every day - as i work nights).point is - whats the first thing that happens? deadhead sticks the knife in,and ruins it. These people have no vision - no soul - i try to see everyone as an individual - their good qualities and try to skip the bad qualities - sometimes i like the bad qualities too if it makes me laugh.it takes alot for me to get rattled - but i have certain lines that you don't cross.
Oh, I understand what you're saying. I've already implied that paddler could have chosen a better word than something like "prostitute". That said, I could also understand where he was coming from as well. Let's just refer to the girl in question as "A", and her friend "B", for the time being, so as to make this less confusing. Now, as paddler's latest reply on this thread indicates, "A" did not treat him well at all. I think he was being pretty cool about it up until "A" split up with his friend and tried to flirt with him. Now, that's gotta hurt. While his choice of words could've been a bit harsh(which we can agree on), I personally think that "A" was kind of asking for it. Now, paddler has also said that "B" and he happened to hit it off nicely. But she then turns around and wouldn't even be willing to hear his side of the story? Now, that's gotta hurt too, especially considering he'd believed he and this "B" were really connecting. Wouldn't you agree that "B" should have at least tried to hear him out, instead of simply telling him that he'd fucked up and taking off? She could have listened to him AND also defended "A" at the same time, which she didn't. That was what I was talking about. I DO understand what you're saying, though, and I agree that friends should defend each other. I'm only saying that paddler didn't deserve to be treated the way he had by BOTH girls, while "A" kind of had it coming when she was called a "prostitute"(when you are angry, harsh words are bound to be spoken) considering her actions, and "B" was not being reasonable at all by not willing to hear his side of the story.
I had to read your replies to get the details for your original post. Lying to get out of a relationship is pretty lame. Rebounding is pretty common. She sounds like an ass. If you were just looking to 'do' the stereotypical blonde with the big tits, I don't see why you give a shit what she thinks about you, other than getting there...? As far as your ex goes...Screwing the stereotypical blonde with the big tits would probably insure that you just see more of her.. Calling someone anything is just that, some name calling when you're pissed..heat of the moment and all that. Shouldn't be a collosally big deal to adults. I understand that you're angry, but your original post does kinda make you seem like a dickhead, even if you aren't. :/ Being that you're looking to have rebound sex with someone you seem to view only as a stereotypical blonde with big tits...Well, it doesn't really make you out to be a saint. Do you really like her? Curious, when you first made the post, were you going for a nasty reaction from the women in here? Seems you asked for opinions before telling your whole story. I know I'm not psychic, I'm glad I wandered in here later than sooner. Anyways, best of luck to you.
thank you for your thoughts - i wouldn't deny being a dickhead at times - no-ones perfect.no - i wasn't just trying to get women angry - was typing my thoughts - i often find it helps to get things straight with yourself - usually i'd just write it on paper - but couldn't find a pen.Well - as it turns out i didn't go and see the streotypical blonde on tuesday night - it would probably have been just asking for trouble.also - i had a band practise - so life goes on - hope i haven't offended any women on here - was not my intention.if they turn up to my regular bar again i'll just avoid the whole situation
