Ok, so I was dating this guy for about a month after meeting online. We got along really well and everything seemed to be going alright. I was quite comfortable with him and i thought he was with me too. Then I don't hear from him for about five days and sent him an email to ask how he's doing, after all, it was rare that he wouldn't get in touch for so long. Anyway, he writes me an email saying he feels confused about his life and that his mind is so fuzzy and such a mess and when he gets in this sort of episodes, he has to back out from things, so he thought it was best if we stopped seeing each other. So basically he dumped me by email. I was rather shocked by all this, and i immediately started blaming myself and feeling pretty shitty about the whole thing. so the thing is, he texts me today to ask how I am. I mean, what game is he playing at? The email break up was such a shitty thing to do, i mean how could i ever think of actually speaking to him again after dissing me that way? sadly, I still think about him a little, and sometimes I find myself thinking about things that we did together and how fun it was. But I dont think it's a very wise move to get in touch with him again, after all i'm still very offended by the email dumping method! any opinions about this issue would really be appreciated.
you went out with someone from online? dont even bother making a thread if the anwser is yes, such a waste
What I find confusing is, did you date in person or was it specifically an online relationship? Because if it was just online, then how else did you expect him to end it? But if he had other means of ending it, then yes, that was very shitty. My last boyfriend e-mailed me a rather nasty break-up letter and barely explained himself or why we couldn't make it last, and told me not to bother calling him. I made the mistake of calling him right afterwards and yelling at his answering machine...then I called right after that, a sobby mess, apologizing for yelling. He e-mailed me again the next afternoon to tell me that there was nothing to discuss and he was pissed that I was mad at him. I told him off and we barely spoke for months. Pretty bad breakup. But why do people have to be such chickenshits? I've had guys dump me through e-mails, through letters...over the phone was the best because I really don't think I could've taken seeing his face when he did it. But argh...I can see where you'd be mad.
We met online through an internet site, we met up in person after about three months chatting, exchanging emails and such, and started going out the same day we met up.
Ah, I see. I met a guy online through another friend and we talked for about a month and then met in person and started dating in person the day after we met up, so I completely understand.
Well, which is better, hon, an email to end it or nothing at all? I've had the ill fortune of once knowing someone who didn't have the decency to say a THING, and slink out as if nothing happened. It was bizarre and surreal. This was after about 4 months of intense couply behaviour. I was also in a long distance relationship of over a year with someone before he decided to finally end it. Over a messenger system online! That was much more serious and nearly immediately afterward I was just as offended about the way he did it. It wasn't even a phonecall. He apologized later sincerely. What's there to keep being bitter about? There's no easy way letting someone down and I've had my share of being the "jerk". Though it's never been online. I've always tried to keep it in person. The person deserves to hear and see me no matter how hard. I can understand how offensive and insulting it can be. But frankly, I think an email from him was more decent than pretending nothing happened and slinking away.
There are two things that could have happened here... 1. He really wonders how you are doing and he was truthful in saying that he's confused and his mind is fuzzy... 2. It's a game and he was seeing someone else and it didn't work out, so he's trying to see if you still like him. Either way...proceed with caution. Reply and say fine... And go from there.
Online relationship (but just started online and later continued in personal) doesnt have to be that bad. Before I met my bf we were talking by skype for suck a long time and after I finaly saw him, I realised he is the one. I felt in love for a second. So... You dont really sound like youve been hurt or like you are suffering bout him and if Im right just go on with your life. If you are - than try to make him come back (Im sure you can find some way!)
Agree with Hannah on this one, email is much better than nothing. Know someone who had a similar experience and he just scarpered. Thing was, she was getting pretty pissed with the situation, so basically he did her a favour, having said that, she would have liked to have remained friends, catch up now and again. Although it was a cowardly thing to do, in retrospect she realised it was part of his character, he has a lot of growing up to do. In your case I would be wary as he could just be playing games, and personally I wouldn't want to go down the same road again.
