What. The. Hell.

I'm frumpy. My sister's off having a blast at prom, and even though I'm only a freshman and didn't get asked by anyone, I'm pissed.

I'm tired of my frickin' parents telling me I'm gorgeous. Because that's obviously not the case if other freshman girls are at prom and I'm not.

I'm tired of waiting for my first real boyfriend. I'm tired of waiting for guys to knock down my door, as my dad puts it.

I know this is strictly teenage ranting, but I'M TIRED of not being listened to! I try to talk to guys, but THEY won't even listen to me!!!

I'm at my wits end! Does ANYONE have anything to tell me?!?

 

Get yerself out there. Promote. Nothing will happen if you don't promote. Be exhuberent and outgoing. Do shit yer know you shouldn't do.

 

Thanks for the advice. I'm going to try it...

But for everyone else: Please don't hesitate to post!

 

most guys don't go for chicks who don't believe in themselves, at least to an extent. If you're filled with self-hatred, it's gonna translate into your actions/moods/how you interact with others, and most folks don't find that appealing.

Be happy with who you are. Smile, laugh, be approachable, genuinely listen to others... it'll help.

 

Be yourself.
Just do what you want

 

Whatever you do don't ever change for the sole purpose of getting someone to love you.. It's a waste of time and in the end they aren't loving you, not the real you.. Sometimes you can't please people, no matter what you look like, nor how you act.. You can be the most beautiful and caring woman in the world and someone will still find something wrong with you, believe me I know from personal experience because I've recently dealt with that.. I tried everything I could think of to work things out and I was pretty much told I have a lot of rage in my heart and that I'm crazy.. Which speaks for itself of the other persons character.. Oh, and it may be teenage ranting but let me tell you this much..... some men don't listen any better when you're older.

 

what do you feel you are lacking? Is it confidence or do you need to maybe spend some more time taking care of yourself? I was not the prettiest girl in high school by any means but I always had dates because i was a concieted bitch now go look through your closet, put on the cutest thing you have and go to school on monday and act like you are the shizznat and everyone else will too. do something different than the rest of the girls too, don't look like a clone. If your parents wont buy you new clothes then trade with your friends or go vintage shopping, or even part your hair on the other side. I am sure you are beautiful but you need to believe it before anyone else will. *hugs*

 

if u want to be heard, first listen carefully. if ur listening, others will think u can understand them (actually u will).

im sure u wanna find true love, but from your angry tone i can tell u also wanna attention. thats fine, but u have to protect yerself. dont go blind.

Love

Hauk

 

Don't change your self for someone else. Once this person comes along he'll love you for who you are. I don't know you, but be your self. And try new things, come out of your shell a little (if you haven't already), be positive. Don't change in a bad way. What I mean by that is don't become someone you know you won't like. Being your self and being truley comfotable with who you are and having self confadence and self respect is an attractive thing.

 

exactly what I was trying to get at, heehee.

it's from within before it really shows well on the exterior

 

Wow...thanks to everyone, your advice is probably the best I can get. I do think I need to come out of my shell a bit more, and I'm generally not the nicest girl out there. Your advice is going to be put to good use.

Thanks again.

Rev

 

Maybe you being an asshole has a lot to do with why you're not at prom tonight.

 

Ooh, that was harsh.


Sad, but true.

I can be awfully bitchy when I wanna be.

 

I feel sorry for you. I am just the same as you, and I would be happy to listen to your feelings if you ever wanted to talk to me. You say that you are tired of waiting for your first real boyfriend, and I feel exactly the same way about getting a girlfriend.

You have every right to rant as much as you like, and you can even vent your spleen if that's how you feel.

I put myself down a lot as well, so you aren't the only one. As for you parents telling you you're gorgeous etc, I get told that as well, and don't believe it.
My mum and dad might say to me "You're a good looking lad" and I never believe it, and just wish they would shut up.

All parents will try to convince their kids that they are good looking, and say things to make you feel better.

 

Your parents really do mean it when they say those things. They aren't saying that just to make you feel better. They mean it with all their hearts and souls. I never believed mine either, until I had kids of my own, and Oh My Gawsh, they are the most beautiful people I've ever seen in my entire life!!


about the prom...are you sure you really want to go? why? just because your sister is there? because some other girls were bragging about going? screw that! go somewhere else and make your own fun. if people see you having fun they'll join you in whatever you are doing. going to a prom isn't my idea of fun. Is it really yours? Be true to yourself. What is it that you really like to do? Standing around listening to bad music, eating bad food, and sipping bad punch, wearing a horrid uncomfortable dress, and having to dance with some boy you may or may not even like to be with isn't my idea of a good time.

 

i remember my freshman year... i was ALL mixed up but i definitly didnt think so at the time. take it from someone who knows- all you want to do during this time of your life is 'fit in' and 'go with it.' but beleive me, these will be the days you look back and think "how could i be so nieve?"

ahhh enjoy that time, it gets much more complicated the older you get.
im sorry about you missing prom, but beleive me, youll go and have an even bigger blast because you didnt know what to expect.

 

I don't remember even considering going to prom when I was a freshman, and I don't remember any freshmen at my prom when I was a senior.

Its probably not a big deal. Those girls are probably with older guys that are jerks anyway. Just chill.. you're only a freshman, you've got a lot of time for boyfriends. No need to rush into anything, really.
And your parents really do think you're gorgeous, I'm sure. And I'm sure they aren't the only ones.

 

chicks with low self-esteem are my bread and butter.

 

I always had my best luck when I wasn't looking, just living.
Hope things change for the better.

 

Luck you then.

I wish I had a girlfriend, but what would a girl see in me anyway!!???