confused.... don't know what to think

OK, so I've been seeing this girl for about a month now. Not really seriously, just having fun..... however, she's always asking me how I feel and saying that she's curious about me. We have a lot in common and always have a great time together.

Last night we were hanging out at the bar for a while and then we went back to her place. Out of nowhere she says "sorry if i'm not that nice to you in public" (I didn't notice, she wasn't mean or anything) She is 5 years older than me, has lived here longer than me, and is a very talented musician.... I understand that she has a lot of friends, which doesn't bother me. She also tells me that she feels like she's wasted her life and she's unappreciated at times (she's INCREDIBLY talented, and was pushed her whole life to use that talent)

Anyways, she starts saying things like "I don't think I care about you as much as i should" and "I shouldn't be in relationships because I'm always unfaithful and I don't want to hurt anyone."
Shortly before her and I started hanging out a lot, I had just got out of a serious relationship and that wasn't what I was looking for. However, I have recently developed stronger feelings for her. I can also tell she cares for me very deeply.

I know that she's a very independent person who has been hurt before, as am I. But I feel she is scared to get into a deeper relationship than what we have now, as she has admitted to me she tends to hide from situations like this.

I just don't know what to think/do/say/feel.......... anyone have any advice?

 

Sounds like she's a little bit insecure.I wouldn't worry about it yet n just play it cool

 

Well, maybe she is with relationships. But like I said she's a musician... she's been performing onstage her whole life. She's played all over the world..... so that's why I don't think she neccesarily an insecure person.

 

She's probably more insecure abotu her emotions than with her body etc.
Which will only realy manifest it's self when a relationship or some thing more emotionaly involved is on the cards. all i could sugest is takeing it real slow and see how she is. good luk man.

 

Get out quick. If you get attached and start getting controlled by emotions, that could lead to marrige. Marrige = game over

 

Hah
Just try to make her feel comfortable with you, try to make her feel nice in her skin and she will be happy. That is how you ll be happy too

 

All I can think of is to just be yourselves and just go with the flow. IMO, from personal experience, i wouldn't hold back. If you have strong feelings, you should let the other person know. You never know what may happen if you hold back.

 

Wonderful advice.

But I would caution you to still remain a bit detached on your part. She sounds like she DOES know herself and you acting like a lovesick puppy is the last thing she may need.