so my boyfriend and i have been going out almost 5 months now. he makes me so happy and i really would be sad if i had to let him go. hes 21, im 16, and so the only problem weve ever had was our parents not liking the age difference, but theyve kinda gotton over it. i thought our relationship was doing great until this past couple of days. he went out of town for a training camp saturday morning, not to return until monday or tuesday. he called me the friday before he left from a pay phone to tell me that he didnt have his cell phone and that hed try to call me later that night if it didnt get too late, and that he loves me. well it must have gotton too late cause i havnt talked to him since. i know im over-reacting by even posting this. i guess i am just ranting cause i dont really wanna complain to anyone because I KNOW its stupid. i must have some issue with being alone cause wow, i feel like shit. i guess im just lonely and miss him :/
He'll come back soon enough. Don't worry, you have it way easier than some people do. We all get lonely at times. That's unavoidable in life. I myself am in a long distance relationship right now, and I long for my girlfriend each and every day. The trick is to think about how lucky you are to be in a relationship with such an awesome partner. On the days you guys are apart, let that appreciation fill your heart rather than concentrate on the fact that he's not physically be there with you. That's what I do(or try to do), anyway. Cheers!
It's okay to miss people. Infact it helps to know that your partner cares so much and misses you. Just do not let it take control of your life. It's not stupid, it's co-dependent and incredibly annoying to have a clingy partner. Chemistry fizzles out FAST.
Come on! He will call you! Last month, my boyfriend wasnt here a week! He also hadnt got his phone (his parents, grrr ) and for those days, he phoned me only three times and he sent me four sms (form his friend). It is not a big deal, Im sure he misses you all the time. Ill have much bigger problem this summer (month and a half, remember? ) and I realised I have to be strong! Love *
It seems to be a common theme in your posts about how annoying clingy or needy people are. Maybe you had a really bad experience, because this is repeated in your posts on relationships. I for one would like a girl who would really, really miss me if I were far away from her. I would like a woman who'd forever dream of me if I ever passed away or had to leave to another country for some reason. I don't want to be just another person in this world. The world is already filled to the brim with such "people."
missing people is normal and healthy. It shows that you care about him. Just think of all the fun things you two get to do together once he gets back
Speaking of obsessions, take a good look at my sig pic. It has Salvador Dali and his muse, Gala. Dali was obsessed with Gala. He absolutely adored her. When his wife died, he lost his will to live. I think that's awesome. Really, really awesome. When you are devoted to someone and someone is so devoted to you. I think obsession can be a good thing. Some of the best novels are based on obsessions. Of course, my view may be a little extreme on this.
Obsession is kind of pathetic. It's fine to miss people...completely natural, but when it consumes your life...that's kind of pathetic to let one person do that to you...even if you do love them.
You are right, Dali was pathetic for obsessing so much for Gala. He would have had a much better life, and maybe contributed more to art, if he were like us.
Gala also drove him to the breaking point. His art was fueled by insanity, not drugs, which is a huge misconception about him.
this is almost exactly like my girlfriend leaving for florida for 4 days. i missed her like you wouldn't believe. she never called me and that didn't help but it makes your relationship and trust stronger knowing that your partner can go on trips and not come home to something bad.
