Ok so all my friends are pretty much guys and I have been finding out that almost every one of them cheats on their girlfriends. This is fucked up. The other night I went to a party at my friend Rob's. We started talking about how much he loves his girlfriend and how he can't wait to see her this weekend, blah blah. Later that night I left and came back to his place and we were both much drunker (don't worry I didnt drive it was all walking between dorms on a college campus) and I returned to his place to get my things I had left. Well I walked in on him alone with some girl on the bed-obviously about to hook up. I just sorta laughed and left. But he's such a nice guy I never would have pinned him as a guy who cheats. And today he is at his girlfriends and it makes me sick knowing what he did to her. A few weeks ago I had a long conversation with a friend of mine who I also consider a nice guy. He constantly talks about his girlfriend-he used to live in Brazil and they were together a few years before he moved to america and she stayed there. Now he only sees her every couple months and always talks about how much he can't wait until she moves to America, how much he loves her, blah blah. But then he mentioned how he sleeps with other girls, even though he and the girlfriend had all these conversations about how even though they'd be so far away from each other they wouldn't hook up with other people. He said he does it because she might be doing it too and he doesn't want to have missed the opportunity. I think that logic is utterly fucked up! They talked about how they would never cheat on each other and he cheats on her on the off chance that she does it too. He said he doesn't care if she does things with other guys as long as its not sex and he never finds out. I pointed out that he has sex and he said "yeah well its different for girls." no it isn't! Does every guy cheat? After these two incidents I asked a bunch of my friends if they have ever cheated and they all said they have! Every single one! -though I know that's not like they are cheating at the moment, but some are. I have been with my boyfriend for three years and I know he loves me, but now I know he has or is or will cheat on me. They all do.
I'm a guy and I would never even THINK of cheating. Thats one of the worst things you can do, in my mind.
I think its the worst thing too! But EVERY single guy I know has or is doing it! I'm so depressed just thinking about it.
Sorry to hear that, P-81. I don't know if that's a regional thing, or is just that you've just been unfortunate in meeting decent male friends... But certainly NOT all men are like that. But then, shit happens. Some of my friends have cheated on their partners before. I don't judge them based on such instances.
Nope, cheating is not cool. But then again, the guys on here aren't exactly your "normal-let's go get drunk and hook up with every girl possible" type of guys...
no, not all guys cheat on their girlfriends. You must have a really skewed idea of what a "nice guy" is.... Nice guys don't cheat on their girlfriends. Nice guys don't ever put women down or make fun of them or say disparaging things about them, either. The best clue about how a guy will treat his girlfriend/wife is to look at how he treats his mom.
no thats just what i'm saying-the two guys in the example love their girls, treat them like princesses when they are together, generally seem to respect women, but happen to fuck other girls behind their girlfriends' backs. its despicable to me but they dont seem to see anything wrong with it. i've also heard it asserted many times by many different guys that any guy would cheat if he knew his girlfriend wouldn't find out. its depressing me
So basically men around you suck. That IS depressing because those guys do nothing but give men a bad name, like, stereotypical "men are pigs who has nothing but sex on their minds" BS. I feel for ya, P-81. Just don't give up on us boys; there ARE decent, genuine, sincere fellas out there. Might be hard to find for you, but they're there.
no, they are not nice guys, they are emotionally abusive pricks. Not all men are like that, really. Some men actually do respect women, and treat them with respect, whether they are there with them or not. It is NOT respectful to cheat on his girlfriend, whether she knows about it or not. Thinking all men treat women that way is like saying all people who live in subsidized housing are shoplifters, it just isn't true, and it isn't fair to the honest ones to even think it for one second!
What sucks the most is actually being that nice guy who sincerely, honestly cares, and would never even THINK of doing anything bad to a woman....and watching all of the women around you go for total dicks.
i really dont understand how someone can cheat. its the most selfish and degrading thing you can do without KILLING someone. if i ever had someone cheat on me, id definitly be gone and hope he has a happy life with his whores.
