Really i don't know where to start. I am 34, female and divorced since 1 year (a year during which I refused any relationship of any kind). That's a good start. (o: For job reasons, I started chatting with a guy a couple of month ago via phone and sincerely from the first phone call, I felt strangely interested in him. The situation evolved to contact at home via msn, then a first appointement for a day (we are 800km from each other) as friends and even if some other ideas went through my mind ( )nothing happened but I wasn't disappointed of my day. Back home, back to the phone and msn, by force of chatting we both discovered that we did fancy each other. He's not interested in a serious relationship and neither I am, just want to have a good time. By the end of the month we organised to meet a second time for a full weekend and I am getting nervous. Other then this last 'empty' year, I have been with my (ex)husband for 12 years and even if I wasn't a virgin on my honey moon, I think I lost the hand with all the dating/sex game. I'm getting worried of the first move and follow up, even more now that we both made it clear that we want something to happen. Before the month end I will be a nervous freak.
Just talk to him about it, he obviously knows your past from convos or so I assume. He will be understanding and hell sex is sex, if he scores he will be happy. Relax and stop trying to hard. just let it flow. If there is the awkward pause, just grab his dick and ask if he intends on using it our just let it hang around. He will start up then.
"Relax and stop trying to hard". That's exactly what I am trying to do but without much success. And yes he does know that I've been married, not how long though (what's past is past and I never got into details). We are just having fun and I don't want to make it sounds like a big deal to him. The story to grab his dick gave me a good laugh. I will keep it in mind. To make everything perfect I had a bike accident last week and i have a plastered ankle. Can't find more sexy then that. LOL
Dammit it gurl, your getting all injured before, thats a bummer for ya.I guess Im old or something. I have to really be into a woman before I want to have sex. I mean I will make jokes about shit but to really go and do it, well okay Im a sap
im in a similar situation, only we have talked for years online, new years we decided to get together and.....she lives a long ways away. and well we never talked about feelings and it finally did come out, i think it took away from the relationship we had, she said she didnt want a long distance relationship, wasn't in love with me, yes it hurt...just be careful of online love, what you say because sometimes you can feel more than the other person , take it REALLY slow , it can hurt like a mofo!
xyank It is not in my habit either, that would explain part of why I am nervous about it. I just decided to go for it because I fancy the idea of sex with no pressure of a relationship and with someone i appreciate. My way, to be back to real life. xjerry I can understand it but we made it clear that at the end we are friends and any attraction in between us is not what we can call love. It would be a friendship with a bonus. I am not making myself any illusion about it. Who knows? Maybe nothing will happen.
stop yer fussing, its all for naught.... if something happens while together then so be it then take it from there,,, fi nothing happens thats kewl too....its gonna go as its gonna go n you can sit n type n get all hyped up when ya just take it however it goes,,,, and with no expectations in either directions,,, you will be fine,,,,
Sorry been drinking my beers (diet sprite) that shit has a kick, lol I dont drink so have to pretend with the ol dt sprite.
No sex, no beer you are nearly a saint Yank. Anyway you are right, I will try and stop thinking about it and as it goes it goes. Writing it down made me realise how silly it is to get worried for that. Surely in a week time I won't say it again. LOL
