I might be pregnant. It is not for sure yet, but I just want to know what would I do if this is true. Im almost 17 and my parents will be furious if they find out I had sex. However, I love my boyfriend and he loves me. We talked about this twice and he told me that we can have a baby. As long as we are both sure and we are. My best friend thinks we are stupid. For her, baby at my age is just a problem. So, what advice would you give to me? If I am pregnant, should I born my baby and live with my boyfriend (who is only 18 btw) or should I have an aborion. Thanks
whatever you do take a folic acid supplement ASAP! daily..maggiesugar~ what is the proper dosage again?
It's not really my place to tell you whether or not you should keep the baby. I can suggest the things that I would ask myself if I were pregnant, though: Do you think you can provide for him\her? Will you all have a place to live? Do you think you are emotionally prepared to be a mother? Stuff like that. It's probably financially easier for someone in their mid to late 20s to have kids, but that doesn't necessarily decide whether or not they're good parents. My suggestion is to get a pregnancy test before you make any decisions.
yeah, start taking prenatal vitamins and act (eating right, no drinking, smoking or drugs, ect...) like you're pregnant, just in case. what is tipping you off that you might be pregnant? Is your period late yet? Are your boobs swollen and tender? Are you feeling neasous? If your period is late, get a pregnancy test done asap! raven gave some really good advice, IMO. When your 16-17, worrying about being a good parent really isn't at the top of your priortity list, but that doesn't mean that you wouldn't be a good one. Just ask yourself if you're ready to put your life on hold for this little one and work your arse off. I know your boyfriend says that you're in this together, but be sure that you stress this to him, too. Sometimes men have a hard time comprehending this kind of thing until they see the belly growing, or even until they see a real baby there.....then they get scared. I don't know your bf, and he may be a wonderful guy, but there are some jerks out there, too. As for your parents.....do they just say that they would be mad if you had sex, or are they really religious or something? I've seen lots of cases where the parents would be mad, but come around....even in my case, even though I already lived on my own with my boyfriend. It really is hard to contemplate a decsion like this when your young. ((((hugs))))
My parents are religious and in my family we never talk about sex. Thats why Im alone with my bf now I had sex with no protection and now my period is late and sometimes I feel sick. My boyfriend dont want me to have an abortion, his parents will help us in any case. But.. Im scared. Im not sure what should I do. I feel like I am the kid and I dont know if I am ready to be a mother (and can I be a good mother) Ill get pregnancy test as soon as possible. Thank you all (((***hugs***)))
You're parents might be upset with you, but if you are pregnant, I'm sure they'll be supportive. I am generally one who believes that the decision to keep the baby or abort should be made between both parents, but if you're not sure you're ready, that's something you really need to think about. Being a mother is a lot of work, certainly something I'm not ready for. Have you and your boyfriend really discussed this in depth? Because these feelings you're having are really, really important.
It is your choice and no others, people have made it younger and under worse conditions and others have failed being older and had lots more. Age and money is not the solid answere to the well being of the new life, but rather love, your willingness and your actions. If you feel it is too much for you at this age then I would say seek an alternative action than keeping it for you and the baby, if you both feel up to the challenge and worked it out understanding its tough then step up mommy! Either way there is no shame, better to understand your situation and face it and deal with it accordingly then get rid of just becuase or keep it just becuase or adopt it out just becuase. Talk about it, you and him but mainly you as he may not be there and one should assume he may bolt, the same as he should assume you may bolt and leave him with the baby. Make plans for all choices and see what plan suites you both the best as to what you are willing to do and not do.
I got pregnant when I was 18. The first couple of weeks when I first found out was a shock, and a tough time. Soon I became excited and hopeful. Maternal instincts were activated in me, and my parents who I had not spoken to in a year wanted be in my life again because I was pregnant. They too were furious that I moved out and leaved with my BF at the time.
*waiting for an update* If your period is late, that's a pretty tell-tale sign right there.... you might be feeling sick from the thought of what's going on....when I was scared to tell my mom, it made my "morning" sickness worse. But it could very well be from being pregnant. One of the most common signs are sore boobs......are you experiencing that? Mine hurt like hell, much more than they used to before my period. That's great that you have your bf's parents support.....do they know that you might be, or is that an assumption that you guys made? Of course you feel like the kid ....seldom to teenage mothers suddenly feel like adults the minute they find out they're pregnant (or might be)...if anything, it probably provokes more adolecent feelings because you're worried about telling you family, you're still in school...you basically feel like a little kid who did something bad and don't know how to explain it to your parents (not saying that you did anything bad, just an analogy). Just as another poster said, your maternal instincts will kick in, and you'll feel more like a mother. Once I officially saw that positive test, mine kickmed in about 30 minutes later when the shock kinda wore off. As for knowing wether or not you'll be a good mother, everyone contemplates that. Don't worry. trust youself. That is also very true about the more money doesn't equal a better upbringing for your child. My dh and I decided it was time to go back to school when we found out, and we're going to be living off student loans for the next 6 years...now that's broke!lol......but we have had some of our best times when we've had no money at all. We fight more over it when we DO have it than when we don't. Sometimes going the hard way is the best way. It's cliche, but ture: starting out with nothing makes you appreciate everything you achieve all the more but yeah, i hope to hear an update soon (((((hugs)))))
You and your boyfriend may be in love....but being unwed, unplanned parents really puts a strain on the relationship. If you're both strong....you can make it. There will be times in the first couple months when you think you'll never make it together....but fight to make it work....it'll all pan out in the end. Money is an important thing with a baby....but love plays a huge part. If you're emotionally ready to love and care for a baby....you'll know. And, there are other options besides abortion....if you have any doubts about it right now....don't have an abortion! Carry it to term....that'll give you and your boyfriend and both your parents (Should they decide to not be asses and include themselves in their potential grandbaby's life) a chance to discuss whether to keep the baby or maybe put it up for adoption. Abortion is yours and your guys decision....but there ARE other options. About your parents....they'll eventually come around. Especially if this is their first grandchild. My mother was shocked when I told her I think I may be pregnant....but she's become my best friend and super supportive of my decision to keep my baby and raise it the best way I can. Religion doesn't play a role over the heart in most cases like this. So, if you are, you may as well tell them as they'll find out anyway. Being pregnant is a big deal emotionally and physically. Your body is going to change a lot and you'll fell things you've never felt before....for no apparant reason. As the other ladies have said....start your vitamins immediately. Then, make an appointment with your health department for a confirmation that you're pregnant....if you've taken a pregnancy test and it's come out positive it may be a false positive. Then, go from there. Good luck.
