No control over my own eyes

Hey whats up, this following problem is a jedi problem , and it has never happened to jedi for he could control them before.

this is a humorous problem , so just have a laugh if you find this funny because I sure do. Alright, I study in a group and it consists of one girl and 3-5 guys including me. for some reason, this never happened to me with her before, but I can't seem to control my eyes, i keep staring at her for whatever reason( if not directly , then from the corner of my eye), i can't concentrate when she comes to the table and sits with us to study... I tried to chill but I can't, I am now avoiding her and whenever she comes up, I leave, I try to avoid her if I see her from a distance, idont' know why but i am running away from her like a whimp, but I don't know why... what the hell is wrong with me?

 

Are you afraid of being attracted to her?

 

maybe she has extra delicious pheromones

 

Its kind of like a habit.

 

I think thats it and I think she noticed it too that I stare at her and now she is avoiding me, but then now it makes me feel guilty that I made her do it. How do you get yourself not attracted to some one? You see the problem is , just because you get attracted to them, they turn cold then that would just make you guilty.

 

I admit it, but how do i make myself admit that I don't, truly.

"Are you afraid of being attracted to her?"

yes, because of several reasons.
1) I would like to be her good friend , not scare her away from me.
2) I can't believe with all my philosophical bent, I could be subjugated to my own senses in such a degrading manner.


"Its kind of like a habit."-Green
Jedi : What? make some sense man.

 

Can you absolutely not control your muscles and look away from her, or do you just find yourself staring at her and become aware of it?

 

just beat off befroe you go.

 

"Problem #36 is tough. Would you like to get some coffee and help me with it."

key points:
"Coffee" - not dinner, not a date, but sharing food (even a doughnut) is good. Inexpencive doesn't break your bank, doesn't create an (imaginary) obligation, cheap enough that she can reciprocate next time without you looking like a cheap bum.

"Problem #36" - Don't make it too tough, you don't want to look stupid. But it is a built in conversation starter.

"Coffee shop" - Public (safe)

If you want to be friends with her, you are going to have to talk with her eventualy.

 

No its not that I never talked to her man, I have talked to her, but its just that I have never seen her with that view, now I am afraid that my conversations with that person could no longer remain impersonal... do you understand? maybe I should just not dwell into this... maybe it is a fear that people would run away from me if i am attracted to them...So the question is how to make yourself not attracted to them?

 

Is there some reason why you are freaked out by being attracted to someone? I don't get it. And why do you want your conversation to be impersonal?

 

Don't be afraid of rejection. Just go for it, dude...life is short.

 

Nah, I can't do that man, but I have to get over my attraction for her, it bothers me that I don't see her just as another person, thanks for your advice though.

 

haha when i used to drink i would be like that with girls boobs and i couldnt stop it haha

 

Why don't you just go for it?!


It beats trying to avoid her.

 

hes actually atracted to the 5 guys but using the 1 female as a excuse.

 

hahaha thats hilarious, I will just say one thing, why shouldn't there be a reason for me to not go for it? is it going for it the only logical conclusion, if you are attracted to a woman? you have no other choice but to go for it? isn't there any other alternative?

 

There is an alternative, are you enjoying it?

 

I don't think that really solves the problem, I have to ask her and be honest with her about this. thank you though

 

hell, i guess we all experienced this. dont worry. if u get rejected, there are plenty of targets elsewhere.