Pregnant with twins

hippychickmommy
Thank you so much. We also thought that it shouldn't be anything alarming but its nice to have a little reassurance from a person who had gone through a pregnancy experience.

Thanks again!

 

You're welcome.

 

Congrats! The only suggestion I have is to tell your wife to stay away from fish because it carries high levels of mercury, which is the leading cause of autism. I work in the autism field and I go to school for education with a concentration in autism. I never had a baby before, so this is the only advice I can give you. I'm sure you two will be great parents!

 

Unfortunatley, we don't have our own pond to carry fish so we decided to stay away from fish. Thanks a lot, Bumble.

 

good to hear! I've seen soooo many pregnant women eatting fish like there's no tomorrow.

 

My wife is into her early second trimester now and so in the first trimester we have cut down on our sex life substantially, have always used a condom since we have learned about pregnancy to rule out any possibility of infection (BTW is it generally adviseable to use a protection during pregnancy?) and we intend to do the same thing in the third trimester. But we feel like wanting to have more sex in the second trimester, no more than 2 or 3 times a week, and that of course only when my wife wants sex and can have sex *coincide* especially now that I got her and myself a new selection of condoms to try

As you already know, she's pregnat with twins and has a slight tonus with occasional mild stomach cramps at the sides of her belly (referred to as legiment(sp?) stretching). Also she felt the twins, both of them, moving inside her just a few days ago for the first time.

So, my question is, is it safe to have sex during this time, in her second trimester, assuming that she shows no signs contradicting it and no pressure is placed on her stomach squeezing it in the least. Also, does having an orgasm make a difference in this sense and because of the accompanying contractions it should better be avoided, or, is it not as significant to worry about so she can relax?

Certainly, our primary concern is our babies and we are ready to completely abstain from sex if it is any dangerous to the mother or the babies.

 

As long as your doctor or midwife say that it's okay, then go for it. My hubby and I were able to remain sexually active up until I had my twins. Now granted, it required some flexibility and almost acrobatic moves at the end, but, where there's a will, there's a way.

 

hippychickmommy
LOL! Yep, our doc didn't say it's ok but neither did he say it's not. Since this is not a hypertonus case sex is not generally forbidden, but you know it's a twin pregnancy a high risk pregnancy so to speak...so that's why we shouldn't be lax...But your experience is quite reassuring Thaanks!

 

My wife is 16+ weeks now and she started having more severe symptoms now when they were supposed to lessen...Like before she'd vomit only once or twice a week but now she pukes almost daily and her ligament(sp?) stretching pain is more pronaounced as well. Besides, her appetite remains about the same as before, moderate, I would say. No other symptoms. Is this normal? (she's pregnant with twins.)

 

Sounds pretty normal to me. I noticed that my symptoms became more pronounced as well. In fact, I didn't have much nausea in the beginning, but it seemed to hit me more in my 3rd trimester for some reason! And the stretching pain, definitely normal, especially with their being her first pregnancy, not to mention her expecting twins! I had a lot of the round ligament stretching pain with my oldest son, and had it with my twins as well.

 

Thank you, hippychickmommy!

 

You're welcome.

 

I agree .... This is all pretty normal. I lucked out with my twin pregnancy, I never got sick. But stretching on the other hand < i had plenty of that happening. Just reminder her to keep it easy, and don't over work herself., and one lst thing drink lots, and lots of water at all times even if you don;t feel like you are thirsty. Plus it will help with the nausea! Good Luck!

 

I've popped in and out of this thread a few times, and I just wanted to say it's cool that it's still going! You should keep on posting messages here throughout the pregnancy, and when it's over you can print it all out and bind it up as part of a baby book or something! Like some kind of interactive pregnancy journal (plus it shows how active daddy is in the whole process!)!!

 

Has anyone tried taking calcium medication (tablets) because of diary intolerance? If so, is it safe and after how many months? My wife stopped having the urges to puke as soon as she stopped forced intake of milk, cottage cheese, but now I am concerned that her teeth may start falling apart toward the end of her pregnancy.

 

There are other calcium-rich products besides dairy...Almonds, legumes, green leafy vegetables, etc...

Have you looked into the Brewer diet for your wife? It's a very good diet put together for pregnant women....Has served me well this pregnancy.

 

As hippyfreak said, there are many other foods that can provide the much needed calcium that your wife should have during her pregnancy. I didn't have a problem with dairy, however, while pregnant with my twins, I took TUMS for the heartburn, which is also a calcium supplement.

Just be sure she is indeed getting the calcium she needs. I would definitely make a point to talk with the doctor about suggestions, maybe ask for a diet plan for an expectant mother of twins.

How has she been eating lately?

 

HippyFreek2004
Yes, I've looked at a list of food items containing calcium, but no other food seems to contain as much calcium as diary (milk and cottage cheese, most imp.) and I am worried that she won't get her daily supply of 1300mg of calcium from almonds and green leafy veggies...I mean realistically, how many almonds can you eat...they do contain some calcium but only a fraction of what is contained in diary products....I dunno...that's why I though about supplements....

Thanks hippychickmommy! Yes, she's been alright, eating as usual. As soon as she stopped taking milk products she stopped vomitting. She had her regular check-up with her doc on monday and he said she's fine...the machine checked the heartbeats of the twins and both of them are fine. She'll have her next ultrasound scan on friday, hopefully, we'll know then if they are girls or boys or... Not that I am intensely curious, as long as they are healty....The doc said she could start taking calcium supplements after five months...the only dowside being that her stomach muscles might tense up as a result...

 

I have seven kids and I still have all my teeth!

the calcium from dairy is poorly absorbed anyway. Most people around the world don't drink milk after they've been weaned from their mother's breast, have a very small dietary intake of milk products like yogurt and cheese, and they get plenty of calcium. (Dairy products are practically non-existent in Asian diets)

All fresh green veggies have calcium. Small fish with the bones in, like sardines, are loaded with calcium. Fortified soy and rice milks have plenty, so does tofu.

If she does decide to take a calcuim supplement, make sure there is exactly half the amount of magnesium. 1000 mg calcium should be taken with 500 mgs magnesium should be sufficient as a supplement, taken before bed, and not with her prenatal vitamins.

 

http://www.blueribbonbaby.org/ifyouarepregnant/1-introduction.shtml

I didn't comment on supplements because I just don't know...And I know it's probably going to be darn near impossible to get that much calcium unless she eats almonds and broccoli all day long...Definitely talk to her OB about supplements and such...See if you can be referred to a pregnancy-knowledgable dietician.