hey just started fooling around with a guy and the foreplay is absolutely amazing but as soon as we start having actual intercourse he blows in about two minutes. we're both really open with eachother, and frankly it doesnt even frustrate me that much since he's so talented at everything else but it obviously gets him down and he says he doesnt know what to do... this has been happening to him for a while (before we started sleeping together) and he says it'll only get worse. I've read that masturbating frequently, or just before sex can help, but he says that hasnt really helped, that the more he sleeps with a girl the more he can visuallise everything, the worse it gets... the other night all it took was rubbing up against him while he was touching me and he blew all over my leg he says he cant help it, just gets too turned on, and doesnt like the idea of 'thinking about something else' to delay his orgasm since the whole point of sex is being completely involved physically and mentally.... i do agree with him, but what else could he do? has anyone had this problem? how did you deal with it? peace, mooka
1.)the second he blows, start couting slowly to 30. 2.)Then begin doing whatever you have to, to get him hot again. 3.)Once he's hard again, stop! His turn. Don't touch him. 4.)When you're just a minute or so from orgasm, get on him and ride!! If prematurity repeats itself, repeat 1.). Keep it up 'til he's worn out or gets the idea. No excuses from him. Soon he'll learn to adjust! Have happiness!!!!
hehe thanks for the advice yea i guess that is something that helps: he can keep going and stay pretty hard even after coming, and then get hard again not too long after... so i'll suggest it man we go through alot of condoms lol
Just tell him to RELAX. The worst thing is if/when he becomes all stressed out about it. That has been known to make such situations worse. If he reaches a climax fast, that means, as you yourself have heard him say, he's that much turned on by you. Now, he needs to take that as a GOOD thing. He needs to feel more comfortable with his performance, and you can help him become more at ease with his reaching climax fast. Once he becomes totally comfortable with it, I'm sure the rest will fall into place. Best of luck to you two.
I used to get worked up like that too. Ha... I still do if I haven't gotten it in awhile. For me, I don't think it started to get better until I was truly comfortable with myself. There is a lot of pressure on a guy to be able to keep it up for a long period of time. It might be different for him, but it's something he has to be willing to address. Do you know what worked for me. My "patient" girlfriend and I would have sex once, then she would arouse me until I was ready again. Then usually the second time, it was much longer and less stressful.
I guess it worked when you made that Trappist Monk break his oath of silence. Man, he'll never poop the same again.
I have found myself "psyched out" before during sex. If foreplay takes too long to get to fucking, I usually come very fast. If I'm a little nervous I dont come at all, most of the time remaining hard the entire time. My girl liked that. Condoms complicate things for me. The girl has to be very wet for me to go long enough to come. Its all very mental. Some of my biggest erections and longest lasting orgasms have occurred during masterbation when I control all the variables. I've noticed during masterbation my mind is completely into my fantasy. I've had sex with girls and had obvious distractions. There is much to be said about having a steady partner. Casual sex can lead to some anxiety and lack of comfort due to wanting to impress a partner. As much as I like giving a chic anal, I don't even bring it up until we have been together for a while and I know we could have a bad experience and be able to get over it. As far as premature juicing, give your guy a drink, talk more about your sex life with each other and spend more time naked asexually so he doesn't get so excited so quick.
i just recently read somewhere that masterbation technique can efect whether your prone to premature ejaculation or not, as in 'teaching yourself' through masterbation to come quickly, not voluntarily but just because of how you masterbate, your body can become accustomed to that pattern, and it can lead to premature ejaculation... so do you think the reverse would be true, like if you practiced masterbating so that you drew it out and concentrated on controlling when you reached your climax, it could reverse what you;d 'learned' before? maybe instead of controlling your hand, masterbate normally but focus on not letting yourself come too soon... its gotten a little better, but as soon as i say anything, like 'harder' or something hehe he blows straight away
