my boyfriend watch nude...

hello...im new here...
i am having problems with my boyfriend...he is watching nude on the internet...not nude movies but nude pictures...
i find some nude pictures in his pc before 3 months which he told me to delete them if i want to..and i did..
but now i found it out as i checked his computer address bar that he is visiting nudes sites....
i discussed it with him..told him that i dont like him to do that...but he told me that he really reduce it from the day he meet me...he told me he cant controll it..its like a hobby he had for years and he told me he lave me and is a stupid reason to break up........i love him but im really thinking to break up....


what do u think i must do..
i would really like to hear another oppinion..

 

Buy a digital camera and ou two can make your own? Hell its just pictures, I mean is he getting all worked up over em or just a collector of em in a pervy way or what? If it is a real solid issue for you and he was not doing it before to your knowledge than he should respect your wishes. I mean let you two have fun with the camera and enjoy viewing them between yaourselves or something.

 

people dont change. if you expect someone to change to be worthy of your love, you're going to be disappointed a lot

 

That I disagree with. People change. They just do it for themselves. If they change for other people it doesn't last. He wont stop looking at them until he decides he doesn't want/need to. Until then you can either deal with it, or not. I didn't mean that to be rude or anything, but those really are the only two options. Im not sure what else to say.

 

he is just a collector...but i dont like that.....
no if we make our own pictures with the camera..he 'll still watching on the net is not that...it is like a hobby..but i dont understand why he need it..

we are together 24 hours per day..we sleep together..we do everything together....but the mornings he wake up earlier than me..and then we watch nude pictures.... and when im asking him he lie..that he didnt see any..until i see them on his pc...

 

okay

poisson~sounds like your guy has an addiction. porn can be a big problem for some pple. good luck.

 

if he feels he has done nothing wrong then he would not lie, man some ppl have issues you know, like drugs, booze, food, ect i guess porn can be the same too. You need to do what will make you happy for life not short term. True love will do anything to stay, if it dont then it was nt meant to be.

 

yeah i know that........and i hate porn.....i believe that the best thing is to break up..to show him that he must learn to respect the other peoples feeling..coz what hurts me the most is that he know that this hurts me and he keeps doing it....and he is liying....

 

Start collecting some pictures of your own.Of men .See how that works.He'll either understand your point and quit or you'll like it and you can do it together.

 

and i cant stay with someone whos watching nude......but i really love him....
we are studying together..but he is leaving in 2 months....to study for php to another country....so its gonna be hurt...

 

yeah thats what i was doing....i told him that when he wasnt here for 1 week i was watching a porn movie and musturbating....at first he get angry but later on he didnt believe me...he believe that im too innocent..
and that meke me feel complex for my body...im starting to believe that im not good enough for him....coz he really like blondes...with big tits..and i have black hair.....and because i was a sprinder i dont have such big boobs...

 

I don't really understand what's wrong with him having porn

but if he feels as though it's a compulsion and not a choice, it sounds like it may be an addiction for which he should seek counselling (on a professional level)

 

Ah-----see what I mean.He watches--it's OK.You watch--no good.This is the sign of a controlling person.And an unfair person .If you need or like being controlled--stay with the unfair guy.If not get away and find a guy who likes a beautiful black-haired woman like you ---a guy that will treat you with love and respect.You're not good enough for him???Thats a laugh.Do the right thing FOR YOU.

 

dont worry about his blonde big hooter issues,that is so over rated, there like assholes to many people want to be em. Live for yourself and find love that is for you, about you and forever you.

 

If he really loves you and you love him and you believe him when he says it you'll be find, at least he's not cheating, it's just a guy thing that they really find a pass time, I had the same problem with my boyfriend but everything worked out,but I agree with you I don't like it either.

 

*shrugs*

Honestly, it sounds like, he probably has a high demand for stimulation, and perhaps he feels like he's not getting enough from you.

Could be a bad thing, but it doesn't have to be. Depends how you look at it.

 

Is the porn a big promblem to you and if it why?

Just wondering it would of course bother you that he lies about it, would you feel better if he did it with you having no way of knowing?

Or do you want him to not do and have the want to not do it on his own

Is the porn addiction interfering with your relationship like you be having sex more or making love more if he was wathcing porm

How much harm is it actully doing between you guys? other then the issue itself becasue if it on his own time and done't hurt his body why stop him?

It seems like a stupid reason to breack up because he likes porn, or is it becasue he won't stop porn for you?

their a lot of things to have desire for and at least with he doen't hurt anybody

But don't worry about the fact they have bigger boobs and are blonde or any other differences he just looks at those becasue they are differnet then you if you ahd big boobs he look at small boob women men just want varity but then again he should be happy just looking at you

You explained your reasons agoinst porn and that it hurting you and why it hurting you and that it is hurting your relationship if it is?

luck

 

My fiance collects porn. It doesn't bother me in the slightest. I think the only time this becomes a problem is when it affects your sex life. If he is looking at pictures instead of being with you, then that's a problem. I've found that often if men think you're going to overreact about something, they'll gloss over it or lie, in order to prevent a conflict. (women do it too.)

 

porn for some guys is like shaving and brushing your teeth in the morning... its something natural in a guys life, really. when i had a girlfriend, (or now, when i kind of do) i still look at it, hell i'm looking at some now, dont take it the wrong way!

 

Do the guy a favor and break up.