I dont know what to do. I've been broken up with my boyfriend now for almost a month. We were going out for almost 4 years and he broke up with me. He told me that he didn't know if he wanted to marry me or not and so he's just gonna break up with me. I just found out that he hooked up with some other girl and I'm even more hurt by this. I havent hooked up with someone other than him for 4 years and I just feel like there's no1 out there that wants me anymore. It's really lonely. And then the other day we had sex and I think it's gonna ruin shit.
I am not sure what to tell you but to just get somebody else. If you really think playing around with relationships is a good idea. I am lonely every single day but I have discovered hobbies to take away this mind urge that people have put in place.
Ex-sex is a definate negatory in my book... the only thing it will accomplish is sexual desire, but it will make everything else worse. I just advise you dont continue doing so. He probably just wanted to 'play the field'. Its pretty cold hearted to go out there almost immediately and go fuck a girl, but we guys can be like that sometimes. There are PLENTY of people that want to get with you if you feel that you are attractive and have good self-esteem. Even if you don't have awesome looks or confidence, I'm sure that if you talk to guys out there and hit on them a lot, I'm sure you will find a keeper, if you are ready for another new relationship. Since you feel insecure about people wanting you, maybe it would be a good idea to just take a break from guys, and even if you want to, just have a fuck buddy or something on that order. There is no need to be serious like marriage or something. I just turned 21, and I am still planning on 'playing the field' plenty in the future. (Even though I do currently have a girlfriend who I think is the best girl on the face of the planet) There are always people out there who want you, they can just be shy or not let it be obvious... so make it known. Good luck!
I'm in the same boat sista! Relationships hurt so bad. My x b/f of 3.5 years has been openingly fucking one of my "friends." They invite me to go places with them, but it hurts way too much. All they ever do is hook up in front of everyone. I can't be around that bullshit. I never actually hated someone until I broke up with him. He cheated on me 5 times! I'm very lonely too. It sucks hardcore. Just do yourself a favor and don't have sex with him because it's going to hurt more everytime it happens. I know it's hard, but it'll be harder if you remained attached to him.
We had broken up over the summer and the same thing kinda happened and we wound up together again but now i feel that its done for good and he never wants me back ever again. But we're so attracted to each other and I dont know if hes just fucking me to use me. I'm very confused
Yeah pretty much you fulfill a need for him but he doesnt forsee the relationship going any further than just that.. try and forget him.
Unless you like being used or cheated on LEAVE HIM. We waste so much time worrying about the WRONG people for us that we miss out on all of the good ones!
don't have sex with him. he shouldn't be allowed to have his cake and eat it too (no pun intended) and don't get back together with him he doesn't sound like he really cares about you. That may sound harsh but a lot of guys unfortunatley are very selfsih and will never be what you want them to be so it's better to cut things off now and save yourself a lot of pain. I hope things work out for you and remember there are plenty of fish in the sea...that's the wonderful thing about being a girl as oppossed to a guy we always have other desirable options
come on, you all use to much emotion, your heads has already told ya he is a dick, now let your heart know and then take a good hard look at yourself and realize he was trash and the only loss you have is the time wasted with him. There are mountains of guys out there and some may treat you like pure gold. Your just feeling a bit lost right now and that is a phase that will pass with time while your emotions heal. Cant see ya on here but I have never not seen a person that did not have something about them to offer the world. Its his loss now, close that door, dead bolt it and look for your happiness.
Yeah,what Yank said.I would suggest you look for no one to be with.Help your self and don't get into some rebound relationship.For sure don't have sex or anything else with the ex until you have you feet back on the ground.