This makes me so mad..

I would just go buy another box at the store and use them anyways. What is he gonna do...check if she's waring a pad? If so then they have bigger problems. Yes he sounds like he is a controlling man. Unfortunate your friend lived in that environment. Hopefully she will find a good man and not fallow in her mothers footsteps on that one. But yeah I would just buy some anyways.

 

I know a man who makes his wife use socks for her period. He says pads are a waste of cash. If any man tried to tell me what to do with my sacred menses I would kick his ass.

 

And another thing people are talkign about money etc....when you have a girl ...a baby girl you are responsable for her self care as long as she is in your care. When you marry a woman with a pre teen doughter you are taking in all that comes with a growing woman. You are responsable for her care. When you have a baby you feed it and diaper it. When you have a teenage girl on her period...expect to buy her toilet paper and pads. It's just life. The man is obviously very insecure about women.

 

DAMN STRAIGHT!!!!!

 

jiimaan.......this is the second time I've come across one of your post...and once again must say....GET OVER YOUR SELF .......this young lady made a good point...we are not talking about sons..........we're not talking about parenting....GOOD GRIEF....WE'RE TALKING ABOUT THE USE OF TAMPONS AND MAKEUP.........First of all, a young women has the right to choose if she wants to wear tampons or not, unless told OTHERWISE by her gynecologist. If I told my son what kind of condom to wear, he'd laugh his head off and give me a hug........PLEASE........Secondly, a relationship between a husband and a wife should be born of respect for another's choices within then sanctity of marriage....I would probably step in if my husband was running around naked, but short of that, he dresses himself...............I'm a high school English teacher, and have been educating teens between the ages of 14 and 19 for 20 years........Those who had fewer adjustment problems...better social skills...keener senses of humor....were those whose parents taught them the value of independent thinking.........taught them how to care for themselves....and then watched them fly............I had a controlling mother, and for many years, I couldn't do anything for myself....I wasn't taught to be a survivor...an independent thinker.........And I swore when I had children, that I would love them, set bounderies according to their age, and teach them that growing up is a series of learning experiences and consequences and growth....NOW DON'T PANIC......I DIDN'T LET THEM WALK ON HOT COALS TO SUFFER THE CONSEQUENCES OF BURNING FEET .....They were well nutured......and now, at 21 and 19, they are absolutely fantastic...responsible young adults.........I did my very best to raise them.....and will stand by them until there is no breath in my body........but I will not impose my opinion unless it is asked for.........And, you know what?.......they think I'm a great mom and don't hesitate to say it to me or anyone else.........For that I am grateful.......

Lila

 

Still no response from jiimaan on this thread?

 

I hope your friend & her mom can move away from the stepdad, or possibly make the stepdad move out of the house. I hope the mom can divorce the stepdad. Maybe your friend could tell the school counselor about the abusive situation. Does the stepdad ever hit the mom or your friend? If so, there are grounds for your friend to be moved out of that abusive home, and/or for a restraining order to be placed against the stepdad so that he'd have to stay away. The easiest thing would be divorce, but the guy sounds like a wacko who might kill.

 

jiimaan
Give me a break. What do you know about bleeding outa vagina for a week of every month? What do you mean who gives a shit who's body it is? She cares it HER body! it would be different if there was a good reason behind it but it sounds like you and HIM don't know half a coin about a womans menstral cycle and what we go through. So you have no place to tell any woman what she can and can't stick up herself to help the issue. Tampons are nothing to be a concerned father about. Actualy I would be educating my father on the issue if he tried to do that. Stick a tampon in a glass of water and see what happens. Big deal. Nothing to fear about. He's just probably uneducated and thinks if she uses tampons she will feel something sexual or something like many other men who don't know waht the heck it feels like to have a tampon in.

 

jiimaan....you know what I think would alleviate the absurdity of your comments? Stick a tampon in your mouth............Lila

 

What right does anyone have to dictate the sanitary method of anyone

suppose your partner (though I doubt you have one with an attitude like that, and if you do, I feel deeply sorry for him or her) said you couldnt use toilet paper, that you had to wipe your ass with tin foil... just because they earn more money than you, which I would like to point out was not suggested in the original post. Would you be happy with that? Would you think wiping your ass with tin foil is acceptable, given that YOU MUST wipe your ass everyday because you are naturally afflicted with having to sh*t...

Suppose you had glasses and this partner said you couldnt wear them because they thought that you look stupid when you wear them.

Marrying a man does not make a woman chattle, for f*cks sake, get outta the middle ages!

Who says its HIS house? who says its HIS money? infact its not even HIS familys life this man is dictating, its someone elses.


Jimman - you make a damn good candidate for sterilisation, may you never reproduce.

 

he was banned for disagreeing with people.

 

I never intended to sound like the domineering step parent in this post. I totally agree that the step father in this situation was being disrespectful as well as abusive. What do I really know about the use of feminine hygiene products.

Being a step parent is quite often more difficult than being the actual parent. And as far as respect goes it should be earned not demanded, but there are times when one must put their foot down. A feminine hygene issue is not one of those cases.

In any home women are not the chattle of the man....ever. A home should be ruled by joint effort of the man and woman (or partner and partner). Both parties should support each other.

I've seen a couple of single mothers I knew marry assholes out of desparation to make ends meet. I feel terrible for them as well as the girl and mother in this situation.

 

Respect for step parents or real parents should be earned... some parents deserve respect... most of them don't.

Either way, girls stepfather was a best, a fucking Idiot. Being uncomforatbale with a womans body is one thing, but if thats the problem he should just let the mother handle it.

 

to the original poster:

i know you're probably telling the truth, but it sounds funny telling this whole story about a "friend". how do we know this "friend" isnt you? im just kidding, im sure you wouldnt lie about it.

anyway, your friend's father has no right to decide that type of thing, nor does he have any right to tell her mother she cant wear makeup or curl her hair.

and as for what a very early poster said, i dont think her friend's mother has any right to tell her dad he cant dress or groom in a way she finds "unbecoming".

freedom is the key. do what you want and allow others the same right

 

WTF? What possible help could making a comment like this be? Not very sensitive.

Jeez. Think before you hit "Submit Reply."

 

she needs to move away from that bastard

 

ahha wow its been a while since i posted here!! i got scared away by jimmaan.


hah i live with only my mom and me in the house just in case yer wondering. no stepdad here!

here's an update for all you folkies though: Amber can now use "internal protection" now!!!! lol. woooooooooo amber!

 

are you serious??? i put him on my ignore list. lol.

 

whoa this thread is crazy long - i originally had a more pertinent reply but it was pointless after i realized this thread was 10 pages long

 

I am so sorry that happened. Be strong, Womyn! You don't have to fight, but please don't' be afraid to let someone who hates scare you away from a good thread.

I'll PM you.