Okay so me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months, he is one year younger than me. we have a great relationship and we love eachother very much. The problem is school will be out in two weeks (we go to a private school) and as soon as it does he leaves for three months to go to New Jersey where his family lives. (also, he has a tendancy to get in trouble up there) I worry about him alot, especially when i dont see him for long periods of time. Currently, he is grounded from me (and he has been for 2 weeks) and I feel like im going insane, i worry about him so much mainly because his father is psyco. His dad tries to encourage him to cheat on me and just do some really stupid things, its really sad, his son is so much more mature and smarter than him. So my question is, is it worth it? All the stress/depression it puts me and him through. How do we mantain a healthy relationship through three months of not seeing eachother, plus all the added stress and anxiety? Sorry if my thoughts seem kind of scrambled, they are. thanks for the help peace and love
If you trust him...then...you have nothing to worry about. He is a big boy and can take care of himself and make his own choices...no matter what his parents are like, if he's responsible and can make the right choices, you shouldn't be worried. If he's not even responsible enough to stay out of trouble...he's certainly not going to be responsible enough to be in a relationship... So don't invest too much time and energy in him if he's just a big troublemaker.
Okay so let's say I don't invest too much time and energy into him and I don't worry about him, how do we make this relationship work? we spend three months apart and when he comes back, then what? I just don't know...
Like insanejester says, just have fun...if he's away and you guys are still communicating regularly and talking, you guys won't have any problem coming back together when school gets back in session. Don't wait around for him to come back...you'll end up miserable...and then you'll regret it when he comes back...you'll feel like "hey, I waited around for him and he's acting like this?" You'll feel like it's been a big waste of time. You're young...you should be out hitting the beaches and looking at the "cute" guys...not waiting inside by the phone for him to call. I have a feeling you're headed that way if you don't just say, "Hey, fuck it, I'm young...there are more important things in life than this!"
