"we kissed twice but then he didn't come upstairs because he said he had a meeting, what does that mean?" "he is just not that into you. i'm sorry but when a guy is into you he is coming upstairs meeting or no meeting." "what about extenuating circumstancees, stressed out, get up early for work, afraid of getting hurt, don't want to ruin a friendship, what about all the push-pull, there are a lot of mixed messages out there. " "there are no mixed messages. it is all code for he is just not that into you. it is very simple, if were into you were coming upstairs, we are booking the next date." ok this is part of a conversation from a tv show that has echoed in my mind tonight... so is this true? and if so, is this true 100% of the time? this guy and i have hung out for the last month, had sex about 3 weeks ago and have talked several times since then. so he called and i went over tonight and some people were having a bonfire at the beach (where he also happens to work) and partying and i didn't want to drive b/c of drinking and stuff which i had already been doing. so i was going to ride down with him and then he started saying he didn't think i should b/c he was gonna get fucked up and crash there so he could just wake up and be at work and then he was leaving town after work. then he went back and forth from going to not going and then at one point he was going to go but come back (again so i could go). in the end he went and i left to drive home and he said he was so sorry for being a punk (he kept saying he felt like a punk b/c he wanted to stay and so i couldn't go). at the same time he was forcing this cd of his on me (to borrow). he offered it to me earlier in the night because we were listening to it and i liked it. i was a hurt and didn't want to take the cd and tried to not take it twice. the second time i said i didn't want to borrow it b/c i didn't know when i would see him again (meaning i wouldn't be seeing him again) and he looked at me all intense like it scared him i said that and was like "you WILL be seeing me again soon". ok sorry for rambling but here is my point/question: if a guy knows he would be getting sex with a really hot, sexy girl and he turns it down to get fucked up with the boys and sleep on a couch at a work dorm so he could be right at work, does that mean that he "is just not into me"??? and if so then why the hell does he tie me down with his stuff so he has reason to get up with me? i also have a little feat pick (from the guitarist) of his that i have had for years (when he first gave me the cd tonight he said "junior can hang out with my little feat pick until next time"). so what is up with this guy? i have never heard of a guy turning down sex, are there real reasons a guy would pass that up if he dug the girl?
maybe he's got screws lose. maybe hes got erectile problems maybe he thinks youre spesh maybe he's f*cking someone else maybe hes afraid of commitment or maybe he jus t didnt feel like it that day
Yeah, contrary to popular belief, guys don't want to fuck 24/7. Now head...that's different. If it was head, then I'd wonder.
i don't know....every guy i know married, single, whatever, want it all the time and a couple of them would do it 24/7 if their wives let them. turning down sex for partying, just doesn't seem normal..unless there is a reason for it
so does anybody have any thoughts on this? is he just not that interested or did he just want to party and not have to worry about getting to work in the morning? is he sending mixed messages or can i just not get what he is 'telling' me?
