Okay, so my fiance and I have decided to try anal... on him. I'm just a little unsure how to go about this. I've used a srap on before, with an ex girlfriend, so thats covered... but he wants to do it while laying on his back, instead of his ass up in the air. While conversing with a mutual firned of ours about anal, she said that sometimes its alot harder to do when you're on your back, because of the position. Unfortunately, I've never been on the giving side of anal, and I only got it once, and it SUCKED. So I have absolutely no idea how to do this. Any tips on ANYTHING will be very very helpful.
I'm not a fan of receiving, but the times that I've done it, it was easier to take while on my back as opposed to doggie style. another easy position is for him to lay sideways and you to spoon him. and I shouldn't need to mention LUBE LUBE LUBE!!!
Never received myself but my girlfreind likes to take it doggy style now, but when we first did anal she could only take it if she was on her back. Once her arse got used to taking my cock though we could do it doggy. But one thing is a must. Make sure you use plenty of lubrication. You cant have enough KY jelly!
beat him until he agrees to bend over.! or put his legs apart or on your shoulders just like if he had a pussy but aim lower
ROFL. He's worried about getting hurt. It being the first time he's had anything BIG up his ass, I can understand. So the general tips are to just lube up like there's no tomorrow. I think the legs on my shoulders thing wouldn't work, he's ALOT taller than me, and I'm kinda weak in the upper body strength area, so that might jsut make it difficult for me to move... The spooning thing might work though. Thanks everyone!
Another bit of very important advice is just to take it slow. Very, very slow. His sphincter muscles need to relax in order to recieve whatever it is that's being stuck up there, and their natural reaction to having stuff go through the wrong way is to clench up. If entering him right away is uncomfortable, then you may need to use a few fingers or a smaller toy to work him up to the strap on. Once he's loosened up (might take a bit, depending on your guy), then you can ease Mr. Big in there. If you give him a handjob or blowjob while sticking things up there, that'll definitely help him relax too, having something up your ass feels a lot better when your cock is being stimulated. Good luck!
Put a vise grip on his nipples and twist when you're jamming that dildo up his ass. You can also put a spoon on the stovetop till its good and hot and touch it on the back of his neck.
i did this with my SO a cuple of weeks ago, getting him to relax wasnt that easy but what did help was getting him on his arms and knees (arse up) and then getting him to breathe in through his nose and out through his mouth as if he where to blow a candle out, he did this for a few times i then lubed him up got him to keep breathing then just held vib on him for a few more breathes then with each breath pushed it in a bit further, once in he was ok and turned over, i then gave him something else interesting to take his mind of what i was doing until he had the most amazing orgasm that i ve ever seen - god i was so jealous, wish it was me that could be like that!
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If he's never had anything in the out door before, it's best to start small. One finger one knuckle in. Once he's used to that, go another knuckle deep. Then move to two fingers. It might also help for him to push out with his sphincter as it will allow you to push in further and keep him from clenching as much. Hope this helps.
tip on relaxing the sphincter: most try to allow the object being inserted, to slowly enter and try to maintain a relaxed composure, not easy if you're nervous. if the recieving person pushes out, like trying to keep something from entering and holds this push until they can't hold it any longer, when they release the sphincter will over-relax and if all is lubed well, things just slide right in and totally painless, practice with something small at first and have the reciever in control. with him on his back, you'll have a better angle on his prostate and also be able to stimulate his penis. unless you're taller than him kneeling down, doggy won't allow you to get the right angle. might be easier to lay him on his belly on the edge of a bed or straddle him maintaining the proper angle will be easier, but you won't be able to stimulate the penis as well. btw this all works the same whether the person is male or female. all the parts are basically the same, in the same general area. so guys take note, it's alot easier to get your girl to try anal, even after a bad experience, if you at least sound like you know what you're doing.
stick it into him when he's on his front - from experience, it's the easiest and most painless. when on the back with the legs up or spread, it's more difficult to penetrate and it's usually more painful.
Lol, you don even want to know... but ill tell anyway, vise grips, i learned that you have to tighten after you close them on ur nipples, cant get em to stay if i tighten b4 i put em on. BUt you can hang a nice heavy one on if you tighten after you clip. it scared my gf so she wouldnt let me do it anymore...
Why is it that you people always have to bring pain into it? If done well there should be no pain involved. Also it is a good idea to have some wet wipes handy to clean up the mess, best to put a condom on the toy to make clean up easier. Get him to take a big crap beforehand to make room, or an enema if you wish. Get a high quality silicone based lube and use lots, even put some extra on during the act. I know this has been said but he has to be in control of how deep how soon, once he is fully adjusted you can try different techniques and then you can really go to town and give him a good fucking. This sort of thing does require practise so take your time.
All good info. There is a set of butt plugs for beginers. Lube up with "ANAL EAZE". Give it a few minutes to de-sensitize. Start small and go up from there. I found when I got started it was easier doggy style. After a few sessions I laid on my back. Even today after 14 years of getting it I usually start out doggy style, then flip over on my back.
