Just woundering if anyone can give me some advice. I am a straight guy who has been sexually active with my girlfriend for 3 years now. How can I talk to her about her performing anal sex on me. Just a finger is OK, I don't want her thinking that I'm "being gay" in any way. I am not attracted to guys at all. How can I talk to her? What do I say? How do I bring it up?
you should say, "hey (insert name here). how are you? have a good day at work? thats nice (make her dinner). so (make up some dumb conversation shit) and by the way, will you let me shove my cock up your ass?" that should do the trick just fine
"I don't want her thinking that I'm "being gay" in any way." - feelingood ...because likeing something in your ass makes you gay. It never ceases to humor me when people say that.
feelingood... I believe you when you say you arent gay in any way. Im sure if you and your girlfriend are open and honest with each other and have a basically secure relationship, then theres no question about it. So dont worry about what other people think if you want to experiment like this. Both of you are probably willing to try new things... she maybe even would LIKE to do that to you, but is afraid to try (ya never know, lol) because some guys are weird about this sort of thing and so girls feel weird asking or trying it out on their man... I personally dont feel theres anything that appears "gay" or "wrong" in a straight relationship even if the couples like to play around with "role reversal" ... you both know what you prefer (each other).. so what harm is there in having a little goofy fun together? I had to beg my boyfriend (now ex) to have anal sex with me... I dont know why, I figured most guys would jump at the chance to experiment around like that, but he didnt act like he wanted to. When he finally did, I liked it, but I think it just made him feel weird. But hell, if he had given me the chance, I would have tried pleasuring him anally also! But I thought he wouldnt want me to because he was so weird about doing me that way. So I never tried. But I hear that alot of guys DO enjoy a girl to try it on them but like you, are afraid to ask. Oh and just because you want to experience that doesnt imply you are being gay, so just ignore peoples ignorant remarks if they leave any here. As for what to say to break the ice with your girlfriend... hmm, not sure... but I always believe that honesty and sincerity are the best approaches to anything in life (even sex).. so ... just tell her how much you love being with her and making love to her in many ways... tell her how you would like for both of you to try out some new things to have fun and grow closer by exploring more things together ... (if youve ever given her anal sex maybe you can mention that, or, have it again, and then afterwards, tell her you wonder how it feels, and would she do it to you, so you can know what it feels like, too?) ... well I dont know if any of this helps or not, but go ahead and just ask her. Good luck! and enjoy yourselves..
thanks free2fly, finally someone on here who just doesn't joke around all the time. I will try your advice it sounds good. Again thanks.
I've never read another more untrue statement than this. It's obvious from the Threadstarter's topic that he's well aware of how his body functions and I'm glad for you, Feelingood. The prostate gland is located near the rectum and when stimulated, can bring explosive orgasms. Stimulating the prostate gland or rimming is NOT uncommon in heterosexual couples. Which brings me to the question, why on earth do people consider it an exclusively gay act? Wake up, people. Truly, do have fun and bring it up gently with your partner. If she is squeamish at first, let her use a latex glove. You might want to ask her to trim her fingernails also. Use plenty of lube and who knows, perhaps she'll be asking you to reciprocate on her too!
When you're taking part in sexual activity just casually bring it up. Say like she's sucking you off, just tell her how much u like it and and then tell her to stick a finger in your ass.
I want to give my wife full on anal sex so bad... im being a patient hubby tho. She told me one day it would be hot to give it to me w/a strap on. at first i didnt like that idea at all... then i played with the idea for a while and realized that I could let her do that, i'd be ok with it... now i think it would be kinda hot. went and got a strap on and everything... then she got stage fright haha... oh well dont worry dude your not gay, thers a lot of nerves in the anus that get stimulated in both male and female.
I see it also as a power exchange, where she would be more dominant and I more submissive. we havent really explored that realm too much, but having her do something like that with me... ya i consider it submissive on my part HAHAHAHA... It's also changing roles, wheras i would be experiencing more the feminine side of my sexuality and she exploring the masculan of hers which is a good practice according to the sexually knowledgable people i've talked to and gotten advice from.
ask her first if she wants to wear a surgical glove or something...some times people just get grossed out of the idea of getting shit on the hands... I used to finger a guy, and I could even make him come, only through fingering him, and tickling his balls - not even touching his penis! His recovery time was shorter too with this...
I fingered my ex not because he necessarily wanted it or asked for it. And I don't think it had anything to do with dominant or submissive. I just asked him if I could try because I wanted him to feel a bit of what I felt during anal sex. He was also curious. It turns out he disliked it, so that was that! That particular ex wasn't very sexually experienced so who knows, he might enjoy it one day. Maybe not. There are other men however... who can't get enough of every inch and don't want to stop playing. Yum.
We will need some more information to be able to see the situation better. For instance do you play with her bum? Does she like it? You can't excpect her to do something you would not be willing to do. Also are you able to communicate well with her? Some things to do to give her the idea that you like her to pay more attention to your bum is to put her hand on your arse cheek while you are doing sex position 1. Not straight away on your hole but just your cheek so she gets the idea that you are not adverse to having your bum touched. Another variation of this is while you are having foreplay is to roll over and ask her to massage your back. This gets her thinking about your backside and all the bits there. If she starts to massage your lower back moan your approval and tell her that it feels nice. This gets her working closer to the target. Once this has been done a few times ask her to massage your bum and tell her that it feels great. Preferably she will be squatting over your legs so that when she spreads your cheeks during the massage she will have a look at your chocolate starfish. All this is called pre-conditioning your partner to the idea that men have more than one erogenous zone. Now that you are both comfortable with that it is time to get closer to the action, you may want to lightly touch her anus while rubbing her back and judge her reaction to this. If she screams and calls you a dirty bastard you will be best of to shelve the idea of having her finger fuck you. If on the other hand if she quite likes it then you can make it a regular part of your sex life. However be aware that touching the outer rim and digital insertion are two different things and while she may be happy to have you play with the rim she may not be cool with you poking her. Basically it is a matter of slowly getting her used to the idea, don't rush it you have your whole life to play around. It has taken me 11 years to get the missus "comfortable" with touching my bum and only recently has she started venturing down the grand canyon. No fingering yet but am working on it. Another thing for further down the line is sex toys but worry about getting your partner comfortable with the idea first. Another way to approach this is to accidentally on purpose leave this thread on your computer (that is if you share a computer), women are very curious creatures and if you leave this thread on the toolbar she may well have a look. However this is dangerous insofar that she may think you are a sicko and pack her bags, so think it through carefully. Lastly make sure to be clean, if you don't get a chance for a shower make sure you give yourself a wipe with some baby wipes. Toilet paper is just not good enough in this context. Try it, give yourself a wipe with T paper and then go over it again with a good quality baby wipe. Cleanliness is most important because she is not likely to want to play in shit.
My wife and I enjoy reading stories in magazines Forum and Variation to each other. I read a few on Fem-DOM and we talked about it and got started. I read a couple stories about strap-ons and we talked about it and we have been doing it for 14 years. Read a few stories TALK about it, who knows!
I would say maybe the easiest way would be to have her be going down on you. You ask her to lick further down towards your balls,choad area. lift your legs farther back up in the air. Ask her to massage closer to your anus & maybe have her gently slip a finger in.
